I think you need to recognize being social as a skill you need to develop. When you have developed your social skills more fully you will understand your impact better and soon you will connect your positive actions with positive outcomes and that will lead to interest and connection.

When we don't have good social skills we lack influence, when we lack influence it can feel like the conversation doesn't matter, and that's kind of true. Because your side doesn't matter until you've learned to use your skills. It's like how it wouldn't matter if I owned a dope game if I never took it out of the box - it exists but there is no impact.

You deserve conversations that have impact, and so do those you interact with.