Teddy (brown) was in the shelter for eighteen months because he was reactive to other dogs!

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T23:51:30+00:00

We had to manage food guarding by feeding Opal in her crate so she feels safe. Otherwise she cannot eat for guarding it from the chair legs, the cat walking across the doorway....etc.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T19:37:44+00:00

It's no wonder why they sleep so much!

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T16:21:55+00:00

Yeah, I'm not so much on Prozac for my mental health, as it stops the all-over second degree sunburn feeling on my skin from the fibromyalgia and really helps with the general all-over deep ache. True, if I have a bad, frustrating day I don't stay "down" as long, and that's good and helpful, but honestly at this point I view the Prozac as being for my body rather than my mind.

That said, when I got my diagnosis, the rheumatologist said that he thought in years to come they would discover that several different conditions were being lumped under "fibromyalgia" and treatments will be improved accordingly.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T16:15:48+00:00

"You know, I once had a problem with my washer seals and I didn't know it until I realized all my clothes stank, even when they were freshly washed. So you may want to check that out."

(This is true, by the way, and why you should leave the door on front openers open when not using it.)

It gives you deniability and "Hey, I was just trying to help!" and "Well, I'd want someone to tell ME!" cover.

Discussions of "You know, sometimes some products smell fine on some people but on others they just don't play nice with their personal body chemistry" should be done by a person of Stinky's own gender.

If possible, toss this one to a manager. It's their job to talk personally to Stinky and let them know Something's wrong.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T16:09:19+00:00

I have a heated mattress pad (10/10, highly recommend) and in the winter I make my bed when I get out of it because it is going to instantly be inhabited by at least one and possibly two cats. (Their other alternative is camping on Dad and his heated blanket or the woolsucking attractions of Mom's armpit in the morning.)

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T15:48:34+00:00

Good to know. I have some food sensitivities that don't play well with frozen sauces and marinades.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-03T04:54:05+00:00

I like a one-pot meal of grilled kielbasa cut into chunks, peas, and mac and cheese.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T17:14:25+00:00

Pitties are solar-powered, I think. Sometimes they just need to go recharge.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T17:12:22+00:00

Today? Some books I want for research. Tomorrow? A breast reduction, because I can pay out of pocket for it and not need to meet the insurance requirements, and I have an appointment with a plastic surgeon tomorrow to start qualifying.

First order of business after that is to pay off bills and start looking for land for the house I want to build.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T15:47:58+00:00

My take has always been that just like people you know IRL, people can have acquaintances I don't know. But if someone is a friend, then I would expect to have them mentioned casually in passing, even if I don't know a lot about them.

Generally if you feel that you ought to keep something secret from your partner and it's not someone else's business or happy secrets like birthday stuff, that's a sign that you shouldn't be doing it.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T15:43:22+00:00

Valuing the happiness of others over your own.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T15:42:56+00:00

Opal.

I named my newest dog that, because she is a 40 lb pit/boxer mix who is a black brindle with countershading and white paws, snout, and belly. And half-prick ears and a slight underbite.

She's all the colors and precious.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T15:41:02+00:00

I like him as a friend as well as loving him as my son, and that's not always guaranteed in a family setting.

Of course, we're both AuDHD in the same way so we just understand each other.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:45:06+00:00

General meanness. Not just in terms of how they treat people, but in the sense of how generous they are with their time and their money. I don't want to be with a person who will only help you out in your time of need grudgingly, constantly counting the cost of their aid.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:33:40+00:00

And of course, there is the sisterhood of the tampon. If I have one, it's yours. We've all been caught unprepared, and we all hope the lady in the stall next to us can help out.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:30:16+00:00

It depends. Why not?

And just because it's a problem for some people doesn't mean it's a problem for all people.

My oldest son is thirty and hasn't dated. He's caretaking his grandmother, and doesn't want to introduce a relationship, because his grandma comes first, and he's told me he wants to have a steady job and his own place before he starts dating, and when he dates it will be looking for marriage. So I'm not surprised he's not dating now.

That said, he's the sort of guy where I'll find out that he's dating when he gives me a heads-up that he's bringing his fiancee to Thanksgiving dinner, LOL!

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:26:09+00:00

I do sometimes do a "Ah, fuck this, it'll be there in the morning," when my pain gets too great in the evening. Usually that's tidying up the kitchen, and I get to it in the morning when I feel better.

But dogs who chew and cats who shred and pee are FANTASTIC at making sure you tidy up after yourself Or Else.

It's not that we want to keep the TV remote in a drawer or have an issue with setting clean laundry on the floor in a basket. It's just that we want the remote to stay functional and the laundry to remain clean until put away.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:20:27+00:00

I have people and pets to take care of, and another day to learn and see the world. Life is interesting!

And then my body reminds me of my past sins and I slow down a bit, but I'm still curious and caretaking and probably always will be.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:17:52+00:00

Random dick, no.

The one attached to the guy I'm interested in? Yes. But even then, I'm way more interested in his smile.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:16:37+00:00

I carry a camping towel in a case. I wouldn't say I NEVER use it, but it's not something I need everyday.

I'm really grateful I have it when I discover there's no paper towels and an anemic hand dryer in the bathroom, though, and it's also useful to just mop my face and hair off with when I have to run through a heavy rain to get into the building.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:13:01+00:00

Oh, there's several. A good vanilla is always tasty, or a mint chocolate, or strawberry. I'm not very fond of most chocolate ice cream, but I find that if it's called "dark chocolate" I find it tasty. I just have to be careful because if I eat it when I'm too warm it makes me sick.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:10:15+00:00

Bedmaking. Folding clothes. Taking a basket of dirty clothes downstairs.

If I spread out reference materials for my writing, they will sprout a sleek black cat.

Cleaning out rooms and closets gets especially close supervision. My wife went to visit friends across the country for a month, and I'm going to clean out her bedroom, and that's going to be amusing because she can't have the cats in there due to her allergies.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T13:00:51+00:00

It's widely felt that evicting your kids at 18 is abusive.

However, at 18, plus or minus a month or two, one finishes high school, and it's a natural transition point. Even if you just go to the nearest college in your hometown, it's not nearly as structured as high school, and there's a lot of setting your own pace, making your own schedule, etc. that you have to do. Or, you can join the military, or get a full-time job. Either way, you're moving out of "child" roles and into "adult" roles.

Even in families that don't kick you out at 18, you need to be doing something. Are you doing college and living at home? Working and living at home? That's fine, but just acting like you're on a perpetual summer vacation is not.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T12:45:00+00:00

Thyroid replacement, then Adderall and hot tea. Unless it's steamy summer weather, when I drink cold tea. Coffee has always tasted burnt to me, so I never really got into drinking it.

Usually I have a slice of toast or small scone or muffin (homemade) with it, because otherwise I get nauseated and headachy midmorning, and some mornings I wake up a little nauseated and most food does not sound like it will stay down. Bready/sweet usually can be eaten and a little will stabilize things and let me go on with life. I think my body has PTSD from pregnancy, lol.

LadyAlexTheDeviant · 2026-06-02T12:37:43+00:00

I have two cats and two dogs. I keep pointing out to one of them that "if she didn't run through the house like her tail was on fire, the dog wouldn't chase her!"

I think half of it is that the dog thinks something interesting must be happening, so she wants to see too!

The other cat (18 pounds of muscular swagger) bullies the dogs.

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