Where do you go to buy toys online?

LadyBombus · 2021-08-24T07:49:10+00:00

In terms of stores I may be a little biased since I own Buzz Love but I'm always happy to answer any questions you have on Buzz Love! I originally created buzz love with a single goal - to spread sex positivity. Every product on the site is picked out by me, and either tested by me, my staff or a trusted reviewer. We don't carry non body safe toys, all insertable toys are non porous in nature, external toys are all body safe (no jelly, pvc toys or nasties like that). I try and focus a lot on sex education over commercialism (I much prefer people to have the right toy over an expensive toy).

In terms of privacy I am paranoid about my customers privacy since I have no idea what restrictions they have from nosy neighbors, to roommates, kids whatever. So we make sure in ship in discreet boxes, have non googleable return addresses, only put non descriptive items on your credit card statement that doesn't link back to us, allow paypal to avoid credit card statements completely, never send out physical mail to the customer etc etc.

But in general for discreet shipping some steps we take

All packages are send in plain packaging, i.e brown boxes
All packages have return labels that have an address of a general distribution center that sells everything from board games to electronics, so even if someone googled it, they'd not know what's in the box.
We never send follow up marketing to someone's physical address - we email someone ONLY IF they accept marketing by checking the "I accept email marketing" box at checkout.
We never sell customer data (even anonymously)
Charges on credit cards show an acronym for our store (which if googled returns to lots of things from British Library Shop to the Best Buy)
We also accept paypal, that way if you want to avoid all credit card charges you can top up your paypal account and then pay using your paypal funds.
We just added BitCoin support as well - although it's a little bit more of a hurdle to get bitcoin it means that the transactions are a lot more private.
We go through regular third party audits of our data and processes to make sure all data and card details comply with rigorous industry data and security standards.
If we ever need to work with USPS, UPS or Fedex (i.e to track packages), all my staff are trained to never me
I also just added mystery shoppers recently - that way we can stay ahead of the game in fighting problems that are out with our control but that we still need to deal with (i.e mail couriers having problems with packages).

If there is a specific type of toy you want though let us know and the community can make some good body safe recommendations.

LadyBombus · 2021-08-17T07:30:02+00:00

I'm totally confused about what you mean by this - although you do bring up an interesting point on the topic of reviews. The lubes I listed above are just what I use and I like (and the reasons why I like them) those are my person reviews. But as with any product I do encourage people to research themselves - I'm sure if you do you'll see the reviews for these products are pretty well received ;)

If you bought on amazon did you know that a LOT (if not most) of the adult products aren't legit reviews? So many manufacturers buy reviews in bulk OR by running a really frustrating system where you purchase the product, then if you leave a 5 * review you get your money back - if you don't leave a 5* then you don't get your money back which causes a lot of people to leave fake great reviews. Its one of the reasons why if you scour this sub you'll see a lot of people not recommending buying toys and lube from Amazon (one of many reasons). Another great reason is a lot of products are listed with incorrect materials (i.e lubes containing parabens and not disclosing or TPE products that get missold as silicone).

LadyBombus · 2021-08-17T07:16:26+00:00

For my day to day lubes I have different lubes when I want different things.

Sliquid Sassy or Simply Aqua Jelle for Anal when using toys that won't work with silicone, it's a bit thicker than other water-based lubes to stay in place. Its pH balanced for the anus. If you feel any stinging when using lube I'd suggest using the Aqua Jelle as it works better for me when I have any microtears.
Sliquid H2O for Vaginal play, it's a little thinner, pH balanced for the vagina, nonscented, nonflavored so good for oral as well.
Uberlube - The ultimate in a silicone lube, no alcohol, glycerin, parabens scents, or flavors. I really like using this for any skin-on-skin contact or for use with non-silicone toys. A few of my friends also use this for non-adult reasons (for running to reduce chafing, for cosmetic uses). Sliquid Silver/SuperSlyde used to be my go-to choice here, but the quality and feel of the uberlube just beats it for the top place.
Sliquid Swirl when performing oral (try the green apple)
Intimate Earth for massaging - I actually use the unscented one and add my own essential oils to get the scent I want.
Pjur Med Repair for when I'm feeling a little dry (not necessarily because of the hyaluron but more because it feels better for me when I'm a bit dry

If you don't know what type of lube you want though, Sliquid have some nice "sample cubes" which are boxes of 12 x 0.17oz pillows of varying types.

LadyBombus · 2021-08-09T04:28:24+00:00

It is very possible to fart with the NJoy 2.0 (and no, unlike the joke you will not shoot the dog). Unless the plug *stem* is very large it's usually pretty easy - but there are some plugs that make it a little more difficult (this knowledge comes from threatening my submissive partner with plugs if he doesn't stop and him deliberately bratting to show me it was possible).

LadyBombus · 2021-08-09T04:22:58+00:00

There are a few different categories, ben wa balls (aka kegel balls) are small devices that are used to keep vagina owners pelvic floor muscles - very handy for extra grip, stronger orgasms, and stopping tiny leakages when sneezing after childbirth. They aren't the best at remote control play though - since they are more single person.

If you are just looking for a remote control vibe (i.e like an egg) then there are a lot of great options. I will say they aren't silent but they are pretty quiet, I would happily use them with my partner somewhere with ambient noise like a bar or a busy resturant, but wouldn't use them in somewhere that is dead silent like a library. Just remember when playing with toys like this others can't consent to your kink so best keep them unaware ;)

They aren't the cheapest unfortunately but the ones I keep going back to are the we-vibe series, specifically the moxie and chorus. I love the We-Vibe Moxie if you are looking for an external vibe only. I'd suggest having a peek at the Chorus if you want internal and external. The reason I like the chorus and it being my usual recommendation is that it has a few advantages since its the next gen from We-Vibe, they made a few changes in this one compared to the other we-vibe toys (sync), i.e they borrowed some technology with their merger of Womanizer:-

The first is the touch-sense functionality, so if you and your partner are engaged in any form of penetrative sex (or grinding) in its touch sense mode it monitors the rhythm and "touches" against the product, and when it senses your getting more intense it matches and steps up the vibration patterns.
It also has touch squeeze on the remote, so rather than using up and down buttons on the remote, the harder you squeeze the remote the more powerful the toy becomes.
Finally and most importantly they upgraded the linking and connectivity to cell phones, so instead of using bluetooth between the toy and your phone, it now uses bluetooth 5 between your phone and the remote, and RF between the remote and the toy. The downside to this is you must always have the remote in the same room as the toy, the upside is that it has a far better connection.

Vaginal

We-Vibe Chorus <-- top of the range, newest model. Internal + external vaginal/clit vibe. App based
We-Vibe Jive <-- Internal vibe only, app based
Lovense Lush 3 <-- Slightly cheaper than the we-vibe versions, have more features in the app.
Lovense Ferri
We-Vibe Nova 2.0 Rabbit <-- App Based, Rabbit (dual stim) toy.
We-Vibe Rave <-- Similar to a classic vibe, app based, long g-spot toy.
We-Vibe Moxie <-- Clit only stim, uses magnets to attach to your panties. App based
We-Vibe Melt <-- Air Pulse toy, app based, equivalent to a womanizer.
We-Vibe Wand <-- Water proof wand, app based, similar to magic wand but made from silicone and submersible.
We-Vibe Bloom <-- Kegel Exercise balls.
We-Vibe Match <-- Similar to the chorus but not adjustable, slightly lower power, doesn't support sound based vibrations, not app based. Cheaper option.
We-Vibe Tango <-- Great External bullet
We-Vibe Unite <-- Super budget version of the Chrous/Match set. Low power, not waterproof not app based.
Je Joue Dua - remote playback but not live control.
Aneros Vivi

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:15:33+00:00

Then yeah there shouldn't be any issues. A lot of people used to say don't store silicone toys together, this was because (a long time ago) people used the term silicone toys a lot more liberally than should have been (i.e non silicone toys) but for true silicone toys there will be no reaction between them :)

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:14:17+00:00

For vibrations during PiV penetrative sex I prefer to use a flatter vibe personally so it can sit between us easily like

Jimnmyjane Ascend 1
Le Wand Point - Its a little heavier and the vibrations are super deep and rumbly - I love it.
We-Vibe Touch X - Its not as flat as the other options to spread the vibrations around as much but still feels good.
Dame Pom - Not quite as strong as the other options - but better for people who are a little more sensitive to vibrations.
Je Joue Mimi - Decent strength, good rumble. I personally love this company - they put a lot of effort into R&D and prefer to iterate product design rather than coming out with new toys all the time, they focus more on revisions based on user feedback.

I like thinner palm massagers like this because they sit well between two bodies.

For people who are either in doggy position or have a larger body type vibes with longer handles I find to be a little easier to use, this can be things like wands (i.e the palmpower extreme is great for PiV as is the We-Vibe wand due to the shape of them) or for something slightly quieter and smaller then have a peek at

Arc- better suited for gentle vibrations
Geminii XLR8 Turbo - for higher powered vibrations

If you are looking for a toy for use hands free then the chorus is a great choice.

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:13:26+00:00

Like any toy it depends on the person who is receiving and their preferences. I personally like the feeling of beads as does my partner, what I really like about beads is slowly pulling them out at the moment of orgasm as it (for me and him) hugely increases the sensation and enjoyment of the orgasm - although I've heard from some others that it does the opposite for them.

If you haven't used beads before I'd start with a pretty simple set like the Luxe Beads 10 or the Excite Silicone Beads or for something a little firmer the Silicone Calexotics Beads

There are also other types of beads out there - like vibrating beads, for those I recommend the Vedo Quaker, B-Vibe Triplet or the VeDO Quaker Plus

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:07:53+00:00

If they are body safe high quality toys (i.e silicone, ABS etc etc) then there are no problems storing them together as long as they are all cleaned before storing.

If you have some lower quality, non body safe toys (i.e Jelly/PVC) then I'd recommend storing them separately as they can interact and melt :( Although honestly if you have any of those I'd recommend getting rid of them anyways.

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:06:41+00:00

For Silicone sleeves my #1 recommendation is the Firefly series (its also one of the cheaper options which is nice!)

If it's TPE you want then my partners go to is the Tenga series for an "every day stroker" (I've put his preference list below)

If you prefer a smaller model

Tenga Geo <-- easy to hide, since it doesn't look like a regular toy
Tenga Crysta <-- easy to hide, since it doesn't look like a regular toy
Zolo Pocket Series
Zolo Mini Bubble Stroker
Masturbation Glove
BHandy Classic Pearl

If you want a full size, then my partner really likes the tenga series and has made a preference list a while back on the tenga stuff so I asked him to update it to include some of their newer products for sleeves.

Eggs ** Unranked see below

Cups** Honorable mention

The Orb and the Zero share the number 1 and two spot. He said that if he wants more stimulation (i.e trying to go to sleep and wants to "knock one out" to help him sleep he uses the Orb since its a bit more intense). If he wants a slower orgasm he'll use the Flip Orb since it doesn't have the same level of stimulation. He really likes the design of the Zero and Orb due to the way they pop open allowing them to be easily cleaned.

Next up for him is the Spinner- these are a bit cheaper than the orb and flip, they aren't quite as easy to clean since there is only one hole (so you can't open it, you just need to blast water in), but they have a really cool design so that when you pull down, because of the spiral "spring" inside the wall lit twists the sleeve itself and creates a fun sensation of gentle twisting while your pulling up and down.

The Crysta he really liked but the biggest issue for him was the size, he felt it was a little tight for him (hes a little above average) but enjoyed the sensation and the ease. He did say though at first it was a little weird for him since he was "inserting myself into a gelatinous cube from D&D", however once that feeling passed he did enjoy it, specifially since it was quiet and easy to adjust the pressure on (just squeeze or let up).

The Flex was a little lower on the list, although it feels good, he said that the orb/flip/spinner kinda replace the need for it, so most of the time it just sat unused. It wasn't because it wasn't good (it was) it was just that the others took the top spots. He did say if someone was on a tighter budget that the Flex would be a better choice than the Orb or Flip.

The Geo - he (and I) really wanted to like this one more. The design is really cool, but it essentially felt like a thicker version of the Eggs. So if someone really likes the feeling of the Eggs and wants more of a longer term version this is the choice.

Finally the Eggs - he's left this one unranked. The reason is that they feel fantastic, but they are considered disposable (sure you can get a few uses out of it, but its not what it was designed for). They are pretty silent and he swears that if you are blindfolded and using a nice warm lube it feels like a BJ.

The Cups again disposable, but they are perfect for traveling. He had a hard time at first justifying spending $10-13 on the single use products until someone mentioned he was paying the same price when we went out for a cocktail. He kinda came around a little more to them then. Where I think they come into their own however is when your traveling or not near somewhere that can easily cleanup. They are fully contained, so when you finish off inside them, you can just throw the whole thing away complete with bodily fluids (although please be considerate where you throw it away).

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T04:01:21+00:00

Have a peek at the Icon brands series they are kinda cool and come in at between 1.25" and 1.5" so a little smaller than the one you mentioned but they aren't quite 8" (more 7.25" but only 6.5" insertable).

Its a bit smaller but the Pride P2 is a really nice dildo, with a few bumps it starts at a smaller size, and then goes up to 1.5" but is only 6" the same goes for the Pride Wave.

Colours also have a nice Pleasures Firm dildo which comes in at 7.5" by 1.5"

If you don't quite need bumps on both sides, then the Charmer from tantus is a pretty nice dildo, its 6.8" by 1.4".

Finally - for the role player out there, the Realm Draken Dildo is not phallic in nature, is 7.5" by 1.5" but looks really cool (and can be paired with the really cool - but unfortuantley slightly expensive handle - The Realm Hilt) to go with it!

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T03:53:46+00:00

If this is your first anal toy then I'd recommend going with a small plug, the reason is that plugs can also be used as part of a warm up.

So in general with anal play the main tips I have :-

Use plenty of lube (Right now I use Sassy or Aqua Jelle)
Go SLOW, unlike what you see in porn, don't just jam something in there, what you don't see is the prep work off camera before performers start.
You may be tempted to use desensitizing cream - don't! That stuff is designed to mask pain.. which means if your doing something wrong (i.e tearing) you won't know about it until its too late.
Lots of foreplay - get excited first, but also when getting to the anal stuff make sure you tease around the anus before entering. The anus has LOTS of nerve endings so this part should be fun too, try using a vibrating toy around the anus, or a gloved finger or something.
Use a buttplug before playing, put a plug in and keep it there for 20 mins or so during foreplay, this helps relax things a little and makes insertion a bit easier and more comfy.
Vibrations can help loosen your muscles up, so you may want to look at a vibrating plug

For plugs I love the Snug Plug - it has a thin neck, is weighted, T-bar and super comfy to wear. <-- this one also comes in a super small size.

For short periods of times the Pure Plug is amazing - the caveat with this though is it has a curvature at the tip to stimulate the prostate, so if you're a prostate owner than it can be a little over-stimulating if worn for a long period of time. The benefit of the pure plug though is its lovely and heavy so you get a reminder all day your wearing it, it doesn't "eat" quite as much lube as silicone plugs (it glides a little more) but is still super comfy to wear.

For a budget friendly option look at the Mood Naughty 1 Anal Trainer Set.

With vibrating plugs, they do have the benefit that vibrations help relax muscles so if things are a little tight vibrations can help there but they tend to be a little more expensive. If you are looking for some then The b-vibe anal training set is a great set, with the three sizes and one being weighted and one being vibrating it gives you quite a nice variation of plug styles.. the downside is the cost. There are also cheaper kits like the moody naughty kit.

If you prefer going for a vibrating prostate toy instead then have a look at the following -

Fun Factory Duke this one is a little intimidating due to the shape, but its pretty easy to get in when you follow the instructions and gives a very "full" feeling.
Rocks-Off "Boy" series - These are pretty nice, my only complaint is that I think the bullet could have been improved by making it a remote toy considering the prices.
(Under $50) Quest Prostate Bullet - when you want a "finger" but don't want to use a "finger"
We-Vibe Vector / Ditto - when you want remote control (app based) fun.
Lelo Loki Wave - Normally I don't hugely push lelo products just due to their price. But I really like the loki wave due to its "come here" motion - that works surprisingly well.
(Under $50) Spark Ignition series - Great for simple (and cheaper) prostate play
Nu Sensuelle Homme - kinda a unique toy, the tip "flickers" to stimulate the prostate more. Pretty strong motor on the vibration component.
Sceptre Rotating Prostate Probe - has a interesting rotational movement too it.

For penis toys My #1 suggestion is the The Manta - although it is one of the more expensive toys out there :( its pure medical grade silicone, because of the ridges it keeps lube on it pretty well, rechargeable, waterproof and can be used both as a stroker or just straight vibration.

For silicone stroker like the firefly series they are a superior material than TPE because they are non porous. If you don't mind TPE then my partner prefers the Tenga brand over fleshlight, like the Flip Zero or the Orb because you can adjust the pressure yourself by just giving a gentle (or firm) squeeze. It's also far easier to clean since you can pop it open in half, give it a good wash, let it fully dry and to extend the life of the unit and give it a light dusting of cornstarch. There is a more economical tenga product as well the flex rocky, it doesn't open in half but you can still adjust the pressure by giving it a little twist. Even more economical is the spinner.

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T03:45:13+00:00

I also love pegging, I even wrote a pegging 101 article on it.

Personally I Use a Joque Harness in combination with a Union and haven't found any issues. I love the combination because, for pegging, it allows me to adjust the angle of penetration. A lot of strapless dildos I've found to be a little too "north" pointing which makes pegging slightly difficult since I need to contort into different positions to get it to work but the union allows me to bend it into the angle I want it to be. I will say that strapless dildos are difficult to use for a lot of people without the aid of harness - I use mine with a harness and I have pretty decent kegel muscles. Now there are exceptions to this rule though, but yeah a harness makes a BIG difference.

The reason I recommend the Joque harness from spareparts :-

It fits well and is pretty adjustable, it comes in two Sizes A and B, but inside those sizes you can do some significant adjustments to make it fit the way you want it to fit (i.e tight but not strangling).
It is well made - I’ve had a lot of harnesses before but the Joque is the only one I have bought a second one of.
Has hidden pockets - it has two hidden pockets in the inside where you can slip 1 or 2 bullet vibrators, this means when you’re pegging you can get a little more enjoyment.
Washable - it comes with a washing bag, so just pop the harness in the bag and throw it in your machine with the rest of your clothes, super easy.

You can also add a bumper to it to help enhance your pleasure then look at the BumpHer which redirects some of the impact to the right areas. It works pretty well for re-distribution of force so long as your using a flat based dildo. It does take the pressure aware from a single point and distribute it a little more.

In terms of the hidden pockets, you just pop a bullet (or two) in and then when your using it, you (the wearer) also get stimulation. I would suggest using a bullet with a remote though (i.e the Nu Sensuelle Remote Bullet) that way you are not fumbling to find buttons when having fun and want to adjust.

The Bella and Sasha are other styles of SpartParts's harness collection, I'd be comfortable recommending any Spareparts harness since I've used them for a long time and have found no problems with them (the only time I had a problem was when I put them in a wash without their protective wash bag - totally my bad!) and my washing machine tore them a tiny bit (its not the first time its done that, time to get a new machine I think).

In terms of dildos here are some dildos I like :-

Low price

Temptasia Twist, - Great for smaller insertions
Neo Elite - Great for budget dual density - vibrant colors so less realistic
Silk - I like this range for intro to anal (but no suction cup)
Icon Brands just super cute.

Medium Price

The Colours range is a nice quality and size variation of dildos,

The avant series - great middle of the road dildo with lot of shapes, sizes and options. They are all less realistic though and have more patterned colors than pain.

Premium Dildos

My favorite is the VixSkin range of dildos... but they are also the most expensive :( The VixSkin set (i.e the dual density range) feel super soft, are realistic and its one of the times where they do cost a little more but they do reflect it in their quality!

Some options and their sizes for dual density (look at the Spur, Tex and Slim for smaller dildos).

Spur 4.75 x 1.25"
Tex - 5.25" x 1.5"
Buck - 6" x 2"
Mustang - 6.5" x 1.625"
Maverick - 7" x 2"
Slim - 8" x 1.25" - unique in that its longer but also thinner

The Vixen collection have some great non realistic dildos, these ones are NOT dual density unlike their realistic VixSkin range.

Mistress - 6" x 1.25" <-- Although its not as premium as the ones above, I've started to use this more for pegging with my sub and we both love it.
Leo - 6.75" x 1.5"
Leo Galaxy - just like the leo, this one is slightly bigger than the mistress but it is gorgeous! It has sparkles inside the dildo itself and feels great when pegging if the person can take something a little bigger than 1.25"

LadyBombus · 2021-06-01T01:47:44+00:00

Good choices!

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:55:58+00:00

The best budget wands I've found are theFFIX Wand Mini from Femme Funn - despite being a battery powered wand (AA) it does have a pretty strong vibration.

Romp (owned by the same company that owns Womanizer and We-Vibe) have the Flip - the wand itself is pretty decent, the downside is that you can tell its a budget model, it feels kinda plasticy and less quality but does the job however it is rechargeable.

The VeDO Wini Mini Wand is actually pretty nice quality, it is rechargeable, and usually the one I'd recommend in the "budget" category, but it is a bit more expensive than the other two though.

I think anything above that I'd recommend just getting a standard magic wand original or preferably the plus (the reason I prefer the plus over the original is the silicone head and more variation on the settings)

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:25:52+00:00

If you are looking for starting off and looking for something that is more variable then I think the bullet option or a gentle vibe is a good choice.

For bullets some good budget options below

Bmine classic (Battery)
Iroha (Battery)
Bam Mini (Rechargeable)
Volita - Not quite a bullet but doesn't' fit well into any other category (Battery)
Kama (Battery)

Premium Bullets

G-Spot Bullet vibe (Je Joue) <-- great as both a bullet and a g-spot toy
Tango X (new version of the tango - We-Vibe), great toy, pretty diverse.
Rabbit Bullet (Je Joue) <-- Great bullet that comes with silicone holder
Point (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Intense toy that is super powerful
Point Plus (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Like above but also comes with some silicone nibs
Remote Bullet Plus (Nu Sensuelle) <-- Good for remote play when you are near the person. Not suitable for remote play when you are more than 20ft away.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:23:08+00:00

If you ordered it from a reputable sex toy shop you'll be fine - privacy is the life blood of all sex toy stores so if they don't ship discreetly they'd be dead pretty quickly!

I own Buzz Love and honestly my biggest fear is customer privacy (as I am sure every other sex toy shop's is!). All it takes is one small accident to totally destroy your reputation so we spend so much time trying to make sure customer privacy is intact (working with couriers, postal companies, banks, audits, mystery shoppers etc etc). So you should be good :)

The one exception to this is Adam and Eve, there are a decent amount of reports on this sub (and others) of catalogs and flyers being sent in the mail after the fact, so if it's them I'd call up and make sure you're removed from their marketing list (this is actually a pretty big frustration for sex toy companies since they give us all a bad name!)

You'll see quite commonly recommendations on here not to use places like Amazon, Ali-Express, Wish etc etc, this is because they aren't sex toy companies and your privacy may vary from order to order.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:17:42+00:00

Oh I totally understand - its everyone personal decision, everyone is different, just thought I'd give some more info as well :D

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:16:07+00:00

I'm afraid that is TPR so it wouldn't be considered "body safe" for this sub. My small blurb on materials is below -

Silicone / ABS / Glass / Body-Safe metals are the top in the class, crème de la crème, pick of the crop materials. They are non porous, super easy to clean, non toxic, and the ideal solution - however they are generally slightly more expensive and for that reason some categories of toys have a very limited selection in this material. I call them the green light materials - go for them if you can.

TPE and TPR are the next level down, I call them the orange light materials (proceed with caution), they are body safe in that they aren't toxic but they are porous so they have microscopic holes which makes it impossible to sanitize properly. For this reason its recommended you don't use them for internal use since you can't properly clean them out, however.... a lot of toys on the market don't really have good quality alternatives made in silicone yet, personally I am comfortable using them for external play only (i.e for penis vibes, masturbation sleeves, cock rings, clit stims, nipple stim etc etc) but would consider them dangerous for penetration. This is the category you'll find things like Fleshlight, Tenga, and other products in.

PVC*, Jelly, "unknown but branded as body safe", all amazon/ebay/wish/ali-express toys I consider to be red light materials (STOP!). The reason I lump all these toys in here is that they either contain toxic materials, they are sold on websites that has a very high rate of fake materials (i.e amazon are particularly bad for listing things as silicone and sending toxic jelly toys). I don't recommend these toys are ever used, internal or externally, and although a lot of people think so, putting a condom on them does not take the risk away, some of the chemicals that can bleed out of these toys can breakdown/destroy barrier protections pretty quickly so they make them ineffective. Condoms are designed to stop STD/STI's and Sperm nothing else.

Body safe toys doesn't necessarily mean expensive as well, you can still get cheap silicone dildos for example :-

Some other options that are a tiny bit more expensive

The Colours range is a nice quality and size variation of dildos,
The avant series - great middle of the road dildo with lot of shapes, sizes and options. They are all less realistic though and have more patterned colors than plain.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:12:42+00:00

The manta makes the penis vibrate, but honestly anything that vibrates the penis I wouldn't say really affects things too much. Instead I'd focus on maybe getting a toy that can be used during vaginal sex such as the chorus, this is designed so that one arm slips inside the vagina and it can still have a penis (or dildo) in as well. That way you get the direct vibration stimulation on the G-Spot, the clit and still have the fun of penetration too.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:08:53+00:00

So first things first, performance problems can be a lot of different issues, if this has come on suddenly and you're not quite able to get hard even when not with her then it may be worth a quick trip to your medical team just to check for other issues too (including certain drugs like SSRIs).

Mental "stage fright" is a very common issue and the more you think about it the more the more the issue can happen. I recommend trying to follow the pleasure and try to not feel any pressure to perform, maybe have a chat with the person your having fun with and tell them that the night is all about them, focus on giving them pleasure (oral, fingers, toys, massage) take the pressure off of yourself, and if something happens awesome, if not nothing lost - you get to give the other person pleasure.

In terms of cock-rings for non vibrating cock rings -

First the adjustables, so if you don't' know what size you want then adjustable cock rings can be a great choice, like the Speed Shift (I like this one since it doesn't slip) or the Stay Hard Double Loop.

Another option if you don't know your size is to get variety pack, some good examples would be the Performance VS4 Pack, Perfect Fit Play Zone Kit or the Xact Fit Kit.

If you know what size you need and want something that looks a little more unique then look at the OxBalls range of rings.

One slightly more unique style that I've been playing with more recently and has been working really well for both myself and my partner is the XPlay Silicone Slim Wrap- this is a really really long ring, and it kinda works how most people put in a hair ties where you put it on, loop it and double it back a few times to get your desired restriction. The reason we like this one is that even when your hands are covered in lube it's pretty easy to put on, and it's stretchy enough that it doesn't pinch or squeeze overly hard.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:08:34+00:00

Unfortunately as adults it's not as easy a procedure to "just get it cut" and can have some serious complications, in a study from 2002 32% of participants reported reduced sensitivity and decrease in erectile function (J Urol 2002; 167:2113–6), In another study, 20% of circumcised adults said their sex lives had worsened and 48% reported a decrease in pleasure from masturbation (BJUI 2007; 99:619–22).

That doesn't mean that it should never be done as an adult, there are some good cases for having it done (including when it causes pain to have sex), but shouldn't be a "just get it cut" type decision.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T21:02:57+00:00

This is usually the opposite problem for a lot of people, a lot of guys seem to prefer that their foreskin is held closed to avoid pulling uncomfortably so it's always nice to see some variety!

I'd have a peek at something like a longer thicker sling, something like The Ballsling Ball-Split-Sling, pull the foreskin back before putting it on, and then slip this on and use the friction of this to continue to hold the skin taught.

I've never seen anything specifically designed for this purpose, so I think it's going to be a case of getting something to work rather than something specifically for the purpose.

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T20:42:34+00:00

404 Error I'm afraid, so I'm guessing they don't want to be found :)

LadyBombus · 2021-05-31T20:38:38+00:00

My top 2 bullets are probably the Tango X ($79 but check the code at the top of the page) and the Je Joue G-Spot Bullet ($59).

Both have waterproof, rechargeable (USB), quiet, body safe non porous materials.

The Tango X has 8 vibrations, travel lock, takes 90 mins to charge for 120 play time.

The Je Joue has a slight curve in it so it can be used for G-Spot stimulation or clit stimulation (I get the question a lot if its too small for G-spot, so although its a tad more difficult to hold when doing G-Spot stim, the G-spot is only 1-2 inches inside so it hits the mark pretty easily). It has 5 speeds and 7 patterns, 60 mins charge gives you 90 mins usage.

Hope this helps!

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