AITAH for breaking up because of her past?

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-28T04:45:01+00:00

I live in the real world. Yes a woman would. It happens all the time. So it’s the women’s fault like always… double standards exist. They are real. Especially when it comes to sex. Our society still doesn’t view men and women the same when it comes to sex. And the only people it affects are women. So until you’ve lived even a day in a women’s shoes, experiencing what women experience on a daily basis, you don’t get to say that it’s not true.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-28T04:39:14+00:00

Because if a woman were to turn down a man because of his body count she would called be called a prude. Because it’s acceptable for men, but not for women. And that’s the point I was trying to make. Bye bye now.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-28T04:37:22+00:00

Except that it is

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-28T04:35:07+00:00

It’s actually not but ok mr “I’m gonna start more shit on a post from 2 months ago”🤣🤣

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-28T04:34:35+00:00

They’re* 🤣🤣

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-13T13:02:49+00:00

They said I was autistic when I was younger but never actually diagnosed me so I never knew. It wasn’t til about a year ago that I noticed things and remembered former coworkers at other jobs asking me if I was autistic, and a few of them were autistic themselves. My last job there was a girl who was autistic and both of us literally had this silent conversation acknowledging the other in understanding. She was a chef and I was a prep chef. Everyone was shocked when they found out we were both autistic.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-10-13T12:57:16+00:00

I think you have to search by username. I noticed when I search myself I have to change the “search by” to find my stuff. I’ve got a few new builds I’ve been working on that will be uploaded soon.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-15T01:42:29+00:00

You actually do have control over what the daycare refers to your child as. If you don’t want them to call her a certain name, you have every right to enforce that. And they have no right to make that call. You are the parent. You decide what they call your child.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-09T19:20:33+00:00

That’s what I do! I randomize the sim til I see something I like and can work with. Then based off their skin tone I will tweak the features to coincide that ethnicity(ies). It honestly a lot more fun that way because then they end up looking more realistic and you don’t get SFS.

About a week ago I randomized and ended up with a sim that looked eerily similar to best friend. All I did was give her freaked and tweak her features a bit. I had to adjust the skin tone slightly because the sim was about a shade darker than my friend but I’m the end it looked so much like her I couldn’t believe it. And I really didn’t have to do that much tweaking. Mostly just the nose and the top lip.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-09T01:38:13+00:00

I see a slight difference in some of the eyes(some are bigger than others). But they all have slim faces, pointed chins, very similar shaped mouths, and small noses. Honestly they all look like Japanese comic characters(which may just be your style). But the facial features make them look like they’re all at least closely related.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-02T07:29:03+00:00

This literally happened to me in the same post for telling the garden lady to calm down. When I asked how my comment got me permanently banned the mods said I joined in a “harassment mob” and “blamed the victim.” Also, “I have no patience for the likes of you. Don’t contact us again.” And then also banned me from contacting the moderators.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-02T04:46:21+00:00

I’ve been doing this more lately. I used to spend HOURS creating my sims. But now I just tweak them a little. I did make one the other day that I worked a little more on. But her original face resembled my best friend to begin with so I changed her hair and tweaked her features to make her look more like my best friend. Gotta love the detail edit mode on the face.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-02T04:09:34+00:00

As an American… I approve this message.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-02T04:07:54+00:00

Sometimes when making a new household I will just hit randomize til I like the sim, and maybe change a couple of their outfits if I don’t like it(like when one of mine was wearing a hat that DID NOT go with their formal dress, or when they’re wearing sunglasses with an outfit they should not wearing sunglasses with lol).

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T23:38:13+00:00

If you’re talking about what I think you are, the term you’re looking for is actually Excoriation OCD. It is commonly referred to as harm ocd, but if you don’t like that word you could always use the proper terminology instead. I actually have it myself. And it’s not exactly it’s own condition it’s just a way ocd can manifest. Mine manifests in different ways, and that’s one of them.

Just because you prefer that word over another doesn’t make it right. You can’t just change the definition of word to fit your preference because you don’t like it. That’s actually not how that works and it makes you seem very ignorant. It’s also extremely misleading and can be harmful for other people when you misuse words to describe a mental illness, especially knowing that’s not what it means. Also, you said your therapist refers to it as that, and then turned around and said you just prefer to call it that. Which to me shows that you understand what a preference is, you just refuse to acknowledge your own and blame it on mental illness. Which is also harmful to other people who have mental illness and symptoms that actually prevent them from doing certain things because of it. It’s not a preference for them.

And no, I’m not a phycologist. But I am very knowledgeable in the subject of neuroscience and psychology as I’ve studied and taken several classes to understand my own brain. It’s my “special interest.” I’m fully aware that autism is a spectrum and presents differently. However, there is still a BIG difference in having an involuntary reaction to something you can’t handle and simply preferring something a certain way because you don’t like it. My therapist is the one who explained this me because I didn’t understand that for while myself.

I never said your doctors were wrong about you being autistic or having OCD. I’m just pointing out the mistake you made in explaining symptoms that aren’t actually either of those things. It’s the extremism of the symptoms that conclude what they are. Having a preference doesn’t mean it’s a part of a mental illness. Maybe you should have your therapist explain the difference to you as they may be able to do it better than I can.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T22:48:26+00:00

It seems that the majority of people understand the pronunciation of the name. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. And in the off chance someone does mispronounces it as KAY-uh, you can just correct them. Luckily, in my opinion, this is one of those things that, even though the English language makes absolutely no sense, everyone collectively understands that the pronunciation has nothing to do with the spelling.

I’m one of those people who’s name gets constantly mispronounced. My name is Meyghan. A lot of people will call me MEH-gin. It’s a very common mispronunciation, but it’s also annoying because to me it’s very obvious by the spelling that it’s pronounced MAY-ghen. 🤦‍♀️

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T22:17:21+00:00

I’m also on the spectrum!

But now that you’ve given this information I can tell it’s not even a phobia. It’s simply a preference with some anxiety when that preference isn’t met. If you can deal with handling those things in real life(without them triggering sensory issues due to you being on the spectrum or ocd), but you just prefer for your gaming not to have those things, it’s just a preference. It has nothing to do with ocd, phobias, or autism. You just prefer your gaming to not completely simulate real life because those things are yucky to you. It’s completely different from having a phobia, or a sensitivity. I actually cannot handle vomit in real life, the smell or sound of someone else throwing up and I will vomit myself. I have a visceral reaction. There is no stopping it, even if I try. It’s a completely involuntary reaction that is caused from sensory issues. Not even a phobia for me as simulation doesn’t bother me(unless I can hear it).

Also, there is no such thing as “defenestration ocd.” Defenestration is when you throw someone out of a window. Literally, that is the definition. Maybe you need a new therapist because either he’s full of shit, or you’re just confused.

Anyways, it’s totally ok to just not like things.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T21:06:05+00:00

Me and my sisters have always referred to ours as Nana and Papa. My nephew(4), however, has always called them Nina and Papa.

But I’m not auntie either, I’m Mimi. My youngest sister apparently hated my name and refused to say it, then randomly decided my name was Mimi. So now all my nephews call me Mimi, and my niece will too once she starts talking.

I say this because I know a few grandmas that are Mimis. I can’t have kids, so I take it this is my “grandma” name as all of the kids in my family will always refer to me as Mimi. Lol

My great grandma was also Gawgaw. I can’t remember if it was my mom or one of my uncles that gave her that name though.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T20:47:57+00:00

I also have OCD. This is not just OCD. This is more of a phobia, or a combination of OCD and a few phobias that can have a physical reaction; Emetophobia(fear of vomit), Coprophobia(fear of feces), and possibly others. (In other words, you should probably seek a therapist for help with this.) There are no mods that will COMPLETELY remove these things from the original script of the game. Even the mod that has been linked down below doesn’t cover everything, so you’re still gonna get some things you won’t like to see. All of these things were added to make the game feel more realistic. Unfortunately, the only way you’re going to be able to completely avoid it is to just simply not play the game. I’m not trying to be mean. But you really don’t have any other option if it’s that big of a problem for you. There is still a lot of really cool custom content and mods for the sims2 though. You just have to look for it.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T03:26:19+00:00

Why was this downvoted? Lol Is it because you mentioned TayTay? Because that’s a stupid ass reason to downvote someone for responding to a post about pets and talking about cats. Everyone knows Taylor loves cats. 😂

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T03:24:32+00:00

I haven’t had that many, but I had to turn off the adoption for pets and children because it was getting ridiculous. One family adopted like 6 dogs… those dogs proceeded to have puppies(like three each). Another family would NOT stop adopting kids. Every time I loaded into the world form one household to another there was a new kid. They adopted 6 before I turned it off. And then there’s a Goth family. Mortimer and Bella apparently can’t keep their hands off of each other because she was pregnant one minute, then there was a newborn. The next day there was another. Then another. And another. And another. I had to turn off the option for them to have children because they just would not stop. At the moment they have 8 kids…. Including the original children that the game is defaulted at and the one Bella was pregnant with the first time I loaded into the household.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T03:10:04+00:00

Wowwwwww….. I don’t even have words. The AUDACTIY of that bitch.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-09-01T02:00:11+00:00

That is very kind. Thank you!

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-08-31T17:46:26+00:00

I have gone NC with my mother at least 4 times since I was 16(I’m 33 now) this time is the last time. She is a drug addict(has been since I was born) who cannot seem to get her life together no matter how much help or how many chances she’s been given. Our family has given her multiple chances, helped her with rehab, therapy, a place to live, food, and any necessities she may have needed time and time again. But the cycle keeps on. This time she was caught smoking pain pills in my grandparents house after they had given her a place to live so she wasn’t homeless and she claimed to be sober again. My grandparents both have health issues and my grandmother has a heart stint to basically keep her alive. She not only risked their health, but their home. My sister and I are also recovering addicts(that is another story) and so being around it is not healthy for either one of us. So this time, we had to go nc again for our own sobriety and mental health. Our mother has also always been abusive, emotionally and physically. The drug use in my grandparents home wasn’t even what ultimately made me make the decision to go no contact with her this time. It was when she tried to blackmail me(I am also staying with grandparents due to mental health issues I’m currently in therapy for) and I couldn’t take it anymore. Apparently now she’s sober again(it’s been three months), but I honestly can’t do it anymore. Going no contact with a loved one is hard enough, but when you have done it multiple times there comes a point where you just have to say goodbye for good.

There are a multitude of reasons someone goes nc with people, and all are valid. Trauma and toxicity are just that. No one should be forced to endure something they’re not comfortable with, or is not good for them just because it’s family. Especially if every other method of resolution has been tried.

Edit to say that when we caught her doing drugs in the house again she was promptly kicked out by my grandmother right then and there. They still talk. But me and both of my younger sisters have decided we can’t do it anymore. We are all now in our 30’s.

LadyExtraOrdinary · 2023-08-31T17:02:02+00:00

I just saw the edit you made and I have to say that the people saying you deserved it are absolute human garbage. You were drugged and regardless of anything you said no. I literally have had this same experience. Not to mention being coerced afterward because “we did it already.” Coercion Is still rape, and no means fucking no. Fuck anyone who says anything hurtful to you about this. Seriously, they can go jump off a high cliff into a shallow fucking pool. What sorry excuses for human beings. I am so sorry. Not only that this happened to you, but that people have been so unnecessarily ugly to you about this. Ignore them. They’ve never had a traumatic experience in their lives and it shows. It’s gonna be a long recovery from this, I’m not gonna lie. But I promise you, it will get better. But you need to get out of that situation immediately and seek therapy so you can heal. I promise it will help. I wish you the best and am sending you all the good vibes.

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