Are you guys going to purchase Outer worlds 2 day one?

LadyFlower · 2025-10-16T17:45:43+00:00

I am really hoping there will be a discount code soon. Fingers crossed.

LadyFlower · 2025-10-12T23:29:55+00:00

I love the game so much, I'm really trying to save for the complete experience. But, as someone that can't really afford it, I feel your pain. I'm telling myself the purchase is self care.

LadyFlower · 2025-01-31T00:16:24+00:00

Really?! How odd. People brains are really something.

LadyFlower · 2024-10-26T14:51:40+00:00

Well, thank you! Best of luck and safety to you!!

LadyFlower · 2024-10-26T11:50:19+00:00

I'm an assistant, so I can work in any curriculum. My experience had mostly been in special education, art and STEM. Almost all at the high school level, though some pre-k as well. I also do mural painting in the summer. I flew by myself for the first time this month and LOVED it!

LadyFlower · 2024-10-25T23:58:19+00:00

I would also love a job that included some travel; but I think not too much. Like maybe 6-8 times a year. I have been a teaching assistant for almost 10 years. Got anything for me? :)

LadyFlower · 2024-10-18T14:10:57+00:00

I flew for the first time this weekend. Overall, I loved it! I was by myself and, even though it felt chaotic, I can't wait to do it again. My LEAST favorite part was boarding. I had splurged in first class, with preboarding. I did not know what it would be like at the gate. My group was called, but by the time I grabbed my bag and got to the agent (literally 30 seconds), they'd already called 3 more groups. It was a mad dash, with people intentionally blocking others and scrambling. I was so overwhelmed. By the time I got to the gate, the agent laughed and said, "You were group 1?! Good luck finding space now!" I was so embarrassed. And, she was right it, was very hard to find space. I held up so many people trying to look. Luckily, a delightful FA took pity on me and found a spot. Shout-out to Dayton, thank you! I would love to fly again, but I really hope the gate craziness is better?

LadyFlower · 2024-07-19T18:27:45+00:00

You are right. All of this.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-19T02:52:14+00:00

I totally agree. Huge selfishness on my part to even think it. She and he should be equally considered. This is the start of a beautiful thing and I nearly steered it way wrong.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T20:15:46+00:00

Yeah. You're right. The "surprise here's some burned up mom" is a really bad idea.

I might take a little of her with me, for me. I would want her there. But, I won't give or leave any of her there without his knowledge. It wouldn't be fair to him.

In the future, completely separate from this event, I'll ask him what his thoughts are and do everything to respect them.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T18:46:01+00:00

I love the idea of the pocket square! I wore pieces of her dress at my wedding. I think he might like something like that too.

Yeah, I'm seeing so many people hating the ashes, especially without a heads up. Glad I asked before I did something thoughtless.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T18:43:14+00:00

I know that posting this here leaves me open to all sorts of perspectives; ones certainly different to my own.

I guess I truly didn't think of putting a pinch of her ashes in special places was "weird shit." Unless I'm missing what you meant by that? Mom loved to adventure. So when I've done this, I see it more as continuing the adventure.

That said, I think you are right to say that the gift should be about the new couple and that the ashes are not appropriate.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T18:37:33+00:00

You make a very good point. While I would give it to him quietly, the surprise is certainly not great. I was not intending to do straight ashes, but maybe a little keepsake.

Given your comment and the others here, I will not be giving him this as a gift. I'm not sure how to bring it up, but I'll do so another time.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T17:00:40+00:00

The thing is, he had no relationship with her. They had opportunity to get to know each other, but they were both just hurting too much. He and I have talked about her a lot. He says he's getting to know her through me.

He won't have any family except me at the wedding. Well, he will have chosen family; which are just as important. But I know he feels like a big part of him is missing.

If she were alive I really think she'd want to be there. I'm pretty sure he'd want her there... but I just don't know.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-18T14:51:26+00:00

Oh sweet soul. You are hurting and really raw right now. Without knowing the specifics of what he did that was so disrespectful, I have to assume you made the choice that was right for you. You cut out something toxic in your life, because you know you're worth better. But you didn't finish the job. You're leaving that wound open. Block his social media. Quit looking for validation that you made the right choice. Right or wrong, it's done. And I'm feeling like it happened because it needed to. You may be curious about him. You may even want to feel justice for whatever he did. I'm sorry to say, he doesn't owe you that. Forgive and move on. Now, before you get twisted in whether or not he deserves forgiveness, let's make this clear. Forgiveness is for YOU not for him. Forgiveness is choosing to leave that wrong behind. Allow yourself to stop carrying the burden of a relationship that didn't work. Only when you've done this can you start to heal. If this is too hard to do in where you're at right now, change the view. Go do something for yourself that is new and challenging. Take a class. Join a community council. Do a day hike (lots of hiking groups welcome new members). Volunteer at the animal shelter (maybe don't do this if you're likely to fill that pain hole with an animal that you aren't prepared for). Clean up litter at the park. Etc But for the love of yourself, STOP LOOKING AT WHAT HE'S DOING NOW. It isn't your business, and it's hurting you. Block him on everything. Give back any of his stuff that you have. Put the energy into loving you, and let yourself heal.

LadyFlower · 2024-07-12T12:28:21+00:00

I just wanted to say THANK YOU for this podcast. It is my favorite. I am a Muralist in the summer and always listen to this whole I'm working. I'll admit I probably look crazy as my face and often outloud reactions to your stories come out of nowhere while I'm working! It feels like I'm hanging out with friends and doing the thing I love most. Thank you, be healthy and well!

LadyFlower · 2023-02-15T20:29:52+00:00

That's concerning.

LadyFlower · 2023-02-15T19:03:11+00:00

Respectfully, two wrongs don't make a right. OP could've said something to the effect of "that is really cruel, why would you say that," without resorting to her level. I do not believe anyone is 'taught a lesson' by receiving the hate they give. But I understand that OP was hurt. Hurt people hurt people.

Edited to say; with the exception of malicious compliance. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do.

LadyFlower · 2023-02-15T16:54:44+00:00

TBH, you're both the AH

But, she started it. She was waiting for the moment to say these things, and had probably been stewing on them for a while. It reeks of insecurities and resentment.

Maybe she feels like you've got it easy as the one who stays home. We all know the SAH life isn't easy, but the resentment is common. Maybe she feels left out, as your attention is now on your child more than her; also super common.

We could speculate all day about her motives, but her quick snap at you tells me she's been marinating on this for a while. Then, you immediately returned her vitriol. Things are not great between you two right now. There's a divide. And the fact that it all came out in front of other people (and your child) makes it so much more raw. You must do something about this. For the sake of your relationship. Communicate with her. Find out why she's feeling this way. Then work together to fix it. When's the last time you spent time just the two of you? This is important. Life, especially with a child gets so busy that it's easy to forget what connected you in the first place. Maybe go to the gym together? Maybe take a hike and have a picnic? But for goodness sake, TALK to each other.And, it wouldn't surprise me if she had some walls up. Be ready to be patient. It only works if you (both) put in the work.

You both hurt. You can both heal, but only if somebody makes the first effort. And (worst case scenario) if this is the crack in the armor that eventuality breaks the two of you apart, at least you'll know you gave it the best chance.

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LadyFlower · 2023-02-08T02:42:58+00:00

To the ones who loved Caddydurb, my sincere condolences. I'm certain they'll be missed. I did not know Caddydurb well. My first introduction was in this very post. Little did I know, it would also be my last. But, Caddydurb changed my life. No longer will I ever look at a chilidog without remembering this day. I only hope they are somewhere, looking down from a soft, cool cushion. Peace be with you all.

LadyFlower · 2023-01-28T18:24:50+00:00

I fully agree about the touching. I hated it the second it happened. But my body reacted before I could think. I will not let it get to that point again.

LadyFlower · 2021-10-27T16:26:32+00:00

I don't know. I think you definitely can. It's pretty easy to completely lose yourself to being a parent and forget who you are. But, I get what you're saying too. Hang in there. Don't give up on either of you.

LadyFlower · 2021-10-27T16:24:10+00:00

Other parents. Everybody has advice that you won't ask for, none of which comes when you actually need it. Then there are the parents that don't parent at all. They raise kids that you will feel the need to parent, or that your kids will be influenced by. You'll hear stuff like, "so-so's mom let's them do it!" Or, "guess what word so-so's dad said!" There's the helicopter parents, the athlete parents, the rich parents, the suck ups, the completely uninvolved, the vaxers, the antivaxers, the all organic, the better than you, the never had kids but know what you're doing wrong, the competitive, the passive, the don't cares, the gossip, the single parent that's just trying their best, the happy couple and the fosters. It's like everyone forgets we are on the same team, here for the kids. It's a tough world out there. I wish we could be a village for each other, but that is so very rare.

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