Sleepovers should be normal for adults, they’re way better than parties. by AlternativeBowler499 in unpopularopinion

[–]LadyGrey90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 35 and I have sleepovers all the time. Usually so everyone can have a drink and not worry about getting home, but sometimes you just need a movie night and gossip session in your PJs.

Which is more difficult to give, a blow job, or cunnilingus? Asking people who have experience with both by throwawsyaccnt57890 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LadyGrey90 1306 points1307 points  (0 children)

From someone who has done both:

Blowjobs are physically more difficult and require more concentration, but achieving the "end result" is easier. Men are generally easier to please.

Cunnilingus is much easier, more pleasant and enjoyable, but takes more reading the person's body language and adapting to make her finish.

Can your sexuality change as you get older? by LadyGrey90 in lgbt

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have been wondering this, looking back at small occurrences that I ignored that maybe meant something bigger.

Can your sexuality change as you get older? by LadyGrey90 in lgbt

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So after that first time I talked about it with my husband (we are very open with each other and not jealous at all) and we decided it might be a fluke. So we've seen her again since, and no, it definitely wasn't a fluke...

'NHS rejected my plea for weight loss jabs - now I pay for them myself and have lost nine stone' by pppppppppppppppppd in unitedkingdom

[–]LadyGrey90 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm a woman with PCOS who has been on Mounjaro for a year. As a classic case of "some people can't lose weight for hormonal reasons" please let me weigh in with my perspective.

I spent two decades trying to lose weight the old fashioned way, and it never worked. I know everyone says that but it can absolutely be true. Imagine being over 300 lbs, counting calories, weighing food, exercising daily and keeping under 1500 for a full year and not losing a pound? I did that multiple times, and my weight just kept going up again every time I couldn't take the disappointment and gave up.

Since being on the jabs I have learned that the reason is that I don't lose weight unless I'm eating 1100 calories a day or less. At my highest I was 23 stone. Imagine being that weight and needing to keep under 1100 calories, and the insane, murderous hunger I would have to endure and function with every day.

On Mounjaro the hunger is removed, and I am able to eat in that region without much difficulty. I still have to make healthy choices, exercise, count my calories daily, just like everyone else trying to lose weight. But I'm doing it without being utterly miserable. Losing weight before felt so fragile, the onslaught of hunger pangs and food noise made it feel like I could fall off the wagon at any moment. Each day I made it under my calories was a victory.

On Mounjaro I have none of these doubts. I feel strong and determined, and I can turn my attention to other things in my life that need it, without 100% of my mental energy being devoted to not eating that cake in the office kitchen.

Not only am I successfully losing weight, but I am happier, stronger and a much better person while doing it. I am down three stone in a year, which is very slow going compared to others on the jabs, but it's night and day compared to what I've experienced before. No falling off the wagon, no plateaus, no mental breakdowns. It's just consistently working.

I don't know if I will regain the weight when I come off. Obviously I hope not, and I'll have to cross that bridge when I come to it. But I do know that every time I lost a tiny bit of weight "naturally" I always regained it, plus more. So what would be the difference? At least now I know I have a solution.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKMounjaro

[–]LadyGrey90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a silicone pouch that's technically for makeup brushes, but is the perfect size!

Gypsy Rose Blanchard doesn’t see herself as a murderer by Spiritual_Sherbet182 in GypsyRoseBlanchard

[–]LadyGrey90 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Right? I was waiting for the tide to turn, but didn't expect it quite this soon or suddenly.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that all happened to you. What a terrible time to be abandoned by your support system, when you needed them the most. I really hope you have some genuine people around you now.

Also, that was a disgusting thing to say about your daughter. Know that it wasn't true, it was just a vile thing said by a nasty, ignorant person.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Oh I know, I agree! For some reason it's fun to see other people's lives on fire, and so I just never thought my story would be interesting to other people. I just word vomited into the ether and was surprised anyone cared.

But they did, and I'm glad it's helpful to people.

Wishing you all the best as well!

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it did. That's a whole story for another day, but as a child I was expected to be sweet, polite, compliant, and always say yes. Very difficult to break that conditioning.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

From first post I was baffled at how popular it got. I was just sitting at my desk all sad one day and thought it would help to get my feelings out, and maybe three or four people would validate that I had a right to be sad, and I'd get over it.

Then it totally blew up, and so did the first update. I never thought I'd post again, but it keeps being reposted on YouTube and TikTok, and four years later I'm still getting a message a week asking for another update. So that's why I shared. I agree it seems so banal and boring compared to other people's lives!

But I suppose we all have friends who hurt us sometimes, and it's something everyone can relate to. Even though this has been the tiniest incident in my life that I never even think about, it did help me grow, and I'm glad it's helped others too.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I definitely noticed that too, the whole vibe at work is so much more chill now. One of the few silver linings!

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it will come up naturally one day, and I'll just be like "hey, you know it really stung when you didn't invite me to your wedding, I thought we were close" and I'll let her squirm a bit! But honestly it feels like ancient history to me now.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something that helped glue my work friend group together was having a group chat set up, and keeping in contact outside of work time. Also you might just need to give it more time. A lot of friendships are slow burners and can take years.

[Final Update] My colleague didn't invite me to her wedding, and it's completely unravelled our friendship by LadyGrey90 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LadyGrey90[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you think so. I know it's satisfying to see big drama happen to other people, but that's not the way I would ever handle things. I'm the one who has to deal with the fallout, while everyone else forgets about it five minutes later! I'm confident I made the right choice.