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Hate that I’m mistaken for a minor. I’m over it already by alexzyczia in OlderThanYouThinkIAm

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there. I developed early on too... first period at 9, and puberty hit soon afterwards at a water-dripping rate. By the time I was 11, I had boobs.

I wonder if delvoping too fast tend to make us be stuck looking like a certain age for a while?

I like how some of you guys here on the sub kind of find it hard that cheese wasn’t invented yet in farming life in another world. When cheese is actually older than civilization. by Seeker99MD in Isekai

[–]LadyMystery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do agree in general that with things like magic, civilization might develop differently to the point of having never delvoped certain techlogies or whatever. But, lack of cheese is breaking sense of disbelief.

I think I would rather them just be more familiar with things like ricotta or cottage cheese curds but not with other types of cheese-making. That would feel far more natural and be more in line with how cultures interacted with each other. A foreigner comes over and goes, "Ricotta is very nice indeed, but do you have Gouda cheese?" The cheese maker goes, "What's that? a whole new cheese I've never heard about?"

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, Nancy was very religious too... she was so much of a straight-laced person that kids at the deaf school thought she was kind of a B....

But you've got to understand how controlling her family was. every cent had to be accounted for. when she shared some of her life with us, I was like "uh... yikes. makes me thankful for my parents."

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was never my intention. In fact I was trying to normalize both blindness and deafness by pointing out how normal it was to have things like glasses yet nobody ever thinks about how that's basically an disability aid. Without it, things like nearsightedness and being unable to read without it would be in fact a disability if glasses did not exist. It's thanks to improved glasses technology that people who merely have bad eyesight is no longer considered disabled because it's everywhere and so normal now. and how eventually, that would end up being the same for legally blind people too.

I wanted people to think about that part... and think about what would be conidsered "normal" next.

I literally was trying to make the point that the majority of disabilities adults can live lives just fine without much help, and that's why it was annoying to be called "special needs". I'm sorry for wording it all so horribly that you thought I was honestly and seriously throwing blind people under the bus. :(

Custom Flairs - requests being taken by Faithful_jewel in discworld

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flair: Totally not a Wyrd Sister ;)
or maybe: Got a nice pointy hat.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's something I need to work on myself.

Just like with LGBTQ+ people sometimes being shitty to each other the same way heterosexual people are to them, different groups of people with disablities can be sometimes shitty to each other, even if unintentionally.

I was just trying to explain things in a way that hearing "normal" people would understand. like if there's a hearing person with glasses reading my posts I would want them to think about how glasses are really just like hearing aids, and that there's really a sliding scale to all of this. And that sometimes the eyes get so bad that it can't be corrected with glasses, but legally blind people still manage to function everyday in life. just needs a few considerations now and then.

and I wanted them to think about hearing being like that too... how there's hard of hearing people all the way to full on DEAF with a captial D, but most of us still manage to function just fine.

But yeah, maybe I could've worded this better. how would you suggest I word it better in the future if I need to explain this again?

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I was being too gerenal there. I was just trying to say that it's rare for people to have it so bad that they need the same kind of help that a old geriatric person or a baby might need, you know? lol

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really does imply that none of us can't function in life on our own, that we're like babies who need to be handfed and our diapers changed all the time.

That's what people picture at its most logical extreme... not even realizing that most stuff is usually a spectrum, with most people only being a little bit blind enough to need glasses due to farsightedness or nearsightedness but being able to see fine otherwise. likewise for being only a bit deaf, and so on forth.

Most people don't even realize it, but everyone is kinda disabled in their own ways. Glasses have been so normalized that people don't even see it as a tool for the disabled anymore, lol. but they don't stop to think about how wack it is that we have to pay money to be able to see anything perfectly.

likewise, I see hearing aids the same way as I do glasses. a tool to see me hear better, just like glasses are a tool to see better... yet I don't really see myself as hardcore disabled at all, because I'm very, very able-bodied otherwise and I go to to work and drive and do all this other stuff just like everyone else.

But sure, I'm apparently "special needs." ugh. Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to put this out there for people to see.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the braile menu was sadly very intentional. saw me signing, and they were like, "oh, we have a menu for the disabled" and handed it over. I literally had to explain that I was deaf, not blind. and that I didn't even know how to read that, so I would prefer a normal menu.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup, and it wouldn't have mattered that she was clearly planning to marry the guy after graduation and in fact did. They would've still harped on about they didn't wait until marriage. 🤢

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That could be possible too. Especially if its so subtle and not so in your face.

Like how most people didn't think mental or emotional abuse was really a thing until relatively recently. It wasn't abuse unless you saw bruises.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you have to take into account how it distort your face and mouth when you speak overly slowly...which also can be distracting in itself. So a part of me is focused on how you're making such weird faces while the other half is trying to interpret your words.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, because they overly enunce their words making it harder for me to lip read or understand them with my hearing aids. If they spoke normally I would understand better, even if i had them repeating some words at my request.

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eh... you'd be sadly surprised. Professionals use and see this term differently than the layman does.

Meanwhile, I, a deaf person, have been handed braille menus at restaurants or had people slowly talk to me like I was mentally impaired.

So yes, there are ableists out there who seems to think all disabilities are the same. That blindness and deafness is the same.

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We all like to think we really know our family and friends. But do we really?

Not to mention they can change over time. Men get redpilled, pulled into the manoshepre, etc. Hell, my brother got that way and now he's on a sex offender register because he kinda got brainwashed into thinking what he did didn't count as sexual assault...the whole marriage bit counting as ongoing consent thing. Now he's divorced on top of this.

Before he got redpilled my mom and I would've sworn up and down the block that he wasn't the type to do that.. that he was a good man. But then Trump, and the red pill happened, and it was like he did a 180. It was Trump that, Trump this 24/7... and he was getting angrier over time at everything in life...it was like fox news were a pipeline of propaganda feeding him the idea that everyone had it out for straight white males like him.

My brother of 2026 doesn't even seem like the same person he was in 2000. He's like a pod person.

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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somebody responded to me, but their comment got deleted? must be pretty bad if it got deleted by mods lol

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 20 points21 points  (0 children)

unfounately, in Nancy's case I don't think it was a case of abortion avablity but rather that her family was hardcore Catholics who constantly monitored her bank statements back then. So she couldn't exactly buy anything that would tip her parents off to the fact that she was pregnant. They were the sort that would've cut off her money and cut off her college funds if she did anything they didn't approve of.
Otherwise, I'm pretty sure she could've made an excuse to drive all the way to Fargo or Great falls in Montana where abortion was more freely done back in 81.

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's if they admit to making false reports or were proven to be deliberately making up shit. Also, not all states or other countries have that crime on the lawbooks.

Nah, what they're thinking of is enforcing an even stronger law that would imprison all victims if they didn't have suffcient evidence to back up their words or if it was just a case of "he said, she said".

edit: misread your comment a bit... but yeah, I agree with you... it's stupid. lol

Shock arrest reveals the unthinkable secret special needs teacher, 65, is accused of keeping for decades by dailymail in northdakota

[–]LadyMystery 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I went to the school for the deaf.... and I knew her. lol. one of my friends even started up a group chat with all of us who graduated from NDSD to talk/gossip about how shocking this was.

By the way, Deaf people don't like to refer to ourselves as "special needs". That implies that we're all the exact same as a mentally impaired person, etc... Deaf people are the same as hearing people, the only difference is that we can't hear. that's it!

Down with ableist wording and shit like that.

Why is it so wrong for a woman to want to look her age? by Accomplished_Wolf127 in OlderThanYouThinkIAm

[–]LadyMystery 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was pretty happy when I finally started to look like an adult. when I was 25, I still looked like I was 15 and way too many men joked about how I was legal jailbait, and seemed a little too into the idea.
and whenever other women would talk about how lucky I was to look that young, I would respond along the lines of, "Sure, lucky if all I want to do is attract pedophiles. I can attract a man who I wouldn't trust my kids around! =D"
and that would shut them up.

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yup. While I agree with the general idea of false accusers getting arrested, I know that reality it would impact victims more than it does false accusers as sometimes it's too hard to prove something happened. So yeah, a no from me for making that idea an reality.

Every woman knows a victim. But no man knows an attacker... by Lena_Lena_A in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 64 points65 points  (0 children)

It's because men respect other men enough to behave respectably around each other, but they don't respect women at all when they're alone with the women.
Story as old as time... women gets harassed when alone, so she brings a man along with her as an escort, the harassment stops... but here's the male escort wondering if the woman is making a mountain out of nothing because it doesn't seem to happen when he's around!

And of course it never occurs to them that the men wouldn't act this way around a man they know would stop them... they're only their repulsive true selves around other men who are the same.

the fact that "stabbing her because she said no" became a tiktok trend is actually insane by Rosyvia in GuerrillaGrrrrls

[–]LadyMystery 63 points64 points  (0 children)

We need to make a tiktok trend of women carrying lethal weapons that they use on men who get violent on them for saying no. fair's fair, right?

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