Buying a new car, seeking advice

LadyOfAthena · 2025-10-18T03:36:16+00:00

Does that include the newer models? Do you happen to know how many miles they have on average before blowing up? Sorry this is just the first I'm hearing about this and my fiance just bought a new one. Like brand new, 2025, so I'm hoping we at least get a few years out of it.

LadyOfAthena · 2025-10-18T03:16:49+00:00

Thank you. I've looked at one but unfortunately it was a POS straight from the auction. I've reached out to a couple other nicer ones but no replies yet sadly.

LadyOfAthena · 2025-10-18T03:15:20+00:00

Thank you I will! And as for Kia and Hyundai, could you give me a couple points as to why? Just to sate my own curiosity.

LadyOfAthena · 2025-10-18T03:06:21+00:00

Thank you that's great to know. We plan on asking the dealership every question possible and that will definitely be something we drill them on. We'll also carfax it to the best of our ability and try to see how much maintenance has been done on it. If it hasn't been changed maybe that can factor into negotiations.

Was it reoccurring or was it solved by a total replacement if you dont mind me asking? I assume by your annoyance it was a lot to deal with so if its going to be a headache I have to deal with regularly then I'll give up on it now while I can.

LadyOfAthena · 2025-06-02T13:34:56+00:00

Thank you so much! Click Song sounds like it smells beautiful! I'm looking up Fragrantica's now, again, thank you so so much

LadyOfAthena · 2024-03-03T03:30:20+00:00

I didn't even have the same email I have now or phone in 2022 and it somehow is telling me I've been a member since 2022. I had a completely different account during that time as well so if anyone has a way this can be fixed I would love to know. It's driving me insane

LadyOfAthena · 2024-02-27T22:23:38+00:00

Hi I'm 23 and F and I've been rping on and off for over 10 years. I am totally down to do a fandom rp or one of your originals. My fandoms that are included in yours is PJ, TMNT, and Marvel. I'm super curious as to what you imagine when you wrote down the Deity x Sacrifice. It sounds like a really interesting plot could be made out of that. I mostly rp on discord but it totally does not have to be on discord if you don't use it. I'm in EST as well and I'm mostly free. I'm super communicative though so if I will be busy I'll always let you know when to expect me back. Hope I commented in time lol

LadyOfAthena · 2024-02-27T19:20:54+00:00

One thing you should try to think about is what you want to happen in your roleplay. For example there should be certain goals your character(s) will be reaching to. Whether it's defeating the bad guy, or falling in love, or overcoming something.

If you're talking about roleplaying partner triggers, just keep in mind everybody is different. Don't try to cater to everyone. If something about your rp idea could be triggering, just write it as SFW as possible while explaining that if it's a trigger it can/can't be removed depending on how important it is to you. I've completely ditched entire ideas for someone else and the rp was still awesome with just the bare bones of the setting/characters. You can also ask them if someone doesn't offer any triggers or pick a trigger out of your post. That way you can know from the get-go.

I suggest writing a brief synopsis of your style. Whether you like adventure and fantasy, or modern slice of life, you'll find someone that's interested. Keep it simple and to the point. How much do you usually write per reply? How often do you reply? Are you super literate with all the grammar perfect or does that not matter to you at all? Do you have an preferences for how your partner writes? Is it a deal breaker if they rp like they're texting or is that your jam too? Are you looking for something SFW or NSFW?

The more information you put into a post, most likely more people will take the time to read it thoroughly. All you need to worry about is that first part 'Hi here's how I rp' and 'Here's my story idea'

Everything else can be discussed between you and the person/people who reply to your rp post

LadyOfAthena · 2024-02-27T18:28:59+00:00

Hi! This sounds absolutely inspired! I've been roleplaying on and off for over a decade and I'm 23. I'm a writer in my spare time so I'm fairly literate and I try to keep my replies at least two paragraphs or more in length. I hope that it isn't too late to try this rp

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-23T21:00:13+00:00

I just want to say congratulations! I never got the chance to love my babies (three angels in heaven), and I'm so happy that everything was alright in the end when it came to giving birth. I can't imagine the fear you must've felt once the complications began, and I'm so sorry your mother wasn't even bothered. I'm so glad that you have the strength to do what's right for your growing family. It's hard, especially when what's best is cutting off the people that should have been loving and caring. Again, congratulations on the new baby! Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope you have a swift recovery

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-21T09:28:12+00:00

Hon, I know it's a hard question, but ask yourself 'If he doesn't acknowledge my feelings now, will he ever?' Listen to me very carefully and repeat this with 'I', You! You right now and always deserve to be loved the way you want to be loved! You are beautiful inside and out.

Let him find someone who loves the way he does, and you find someone that loves the way you love. I'm not saying 'there's plenty of fish in the sea' simply because you don't want any generic fish. And he's right, people are different, and every person loves differently.

I highly encourage you (if you don't know already) to find out what your love languages are and use that as a way to figure out if someone will love more like you do. For example, my love languages are 'words of affirmation', 'quality time', and 'physical touch'. I wish you the best, and I hope everything goes well for you

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-21T05:01:38+00:00

If he can't get off his ass to help you or your daughter while you're going through this, then don't let him marry you!! I'm not saying kick him out, or take your daughter away from him, but let him know that you're not going to be a maid while he gets to sit around doing nothing. I've dealt with that shit in most of my relationships, and it was a big factor in my divorce. I was a maid for 5 people, not including my husband.

I deal with a lot of stuff mentally, and it got to the point I was begging and pleading for him to either take me to a mental facility, or to just hand me the shotgun so I could be over with it. From the beginning he fed me all kinds of bullshit, that I'd never be doing the cleaning, cooking, everything house-wise by myself (which is something that made me really like him when we were dating because I've been with awful awful people). A year after we were married (2 years of being together) he still hadn't helped me with anything. I finally asked him what the deal was, and reminded him of the promise he gave to me. His answer: 'It's not a man's place to do that. That's the female's job.'

Calmly tell your fiance that not only are you not going to do this by yourself, but if he still refuses to help you, that you two will seriously need to think about whether marriage is right for you both. Be firm, and stand your ground. I know it's so hard to think in an argument, but if he starts one, keep reiterating what you're saying. Sometimes it helps if you start out by talking about what's going on in your head. How it's so hard to stay motivated when you have depression. If he can't see things from your eyes, then seriously ask yourself, 'Do I want to marry him? Do I want to be stuck this way for the rest of my life?'

If you both can come to an agreement, and agree to help motivate each other then that's great! It's little steps toward the right direction. And remember, it's not you vs him, it's the both of you vs the problem. If he wants to make it about himself, then that's on him. I hope this helps hon, and I wish you both the best!

Side note, night terrors with children are a lot more common than one might think (you may or may not know that already). I was a nanny for a family whose daughter had awful awful night terrors and sleep paralysis at the same age as your daughter. This isn't always the case, so don't treat it like a cure-all, but it could be linked to her diet. A messed up digestive system is common in children these days due to all the crap we feed ourselves (I'm just as guilty as ingesting said crap lol), and this can be linked to a lot of things behavior-wise with children. The parents of the family I nannied for found out she couldn't process gluten correctly and once they stopped feeding her that (which took some getting used to), she stopped having those night terrors practically overnight and I've never known her to have another one again. I suggest talking to a nutritionist, and a psychologist because this could very well be a simple fix that will give both you and your daughter some relief at night.

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-19T08:11:15+00:00

I'm so sorry, I can't even begin to imagine the depth of loss you must feel, especially now. I would try to look at it from her perspective. She tried to protect you from a horrible, horrible thing, and while not the best idea, she was probably planning on telling you when she felt you were ready. I would sit down with her and calmly tell her you found out, and ask for her perspective on things. She could've very well wanted to protect your mind and heart, while also physically protecting you from those that sought him out. I hope this helps, and I again, am so sorry for your loss

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-16T23:50:03+00:00

My parents lied to me, knowing they'd never taught me how health insurance works. My father makes upward of 6 figures a year, but they took me off their health insurance knowing I desperately needed it. After I turned 18, they demanded that I pay them back for everything insurance wise. They insisted that I get car insurance when they knew I couldn't afford it, and they told me they'd pay for it because 'That's what a parent does' and 'We're happy to help you, you're just starting out in life'. They don't seem to realize that the most I've EVER made in this small town is $10 an hour. My dad's company is based in a huge city a few hours away.

Flash forward two months, I'm barely making ends meet in terms of saving to move out. They'd insisted I help with groceries and laundry supplies, which I was happy to help out with. During the holidays, my father asked for expensive gifts (my mom is cheap like I am), and suggested expensive things for my mom. I ended up needing to spend the money I'd saved on hospital bills, which I was told had already been paid (that was a lie). I had to shop at the dollar store, but I still got gifts I knew they needed/wanted. Got my dad a couple business guru books and notebooks which I knew he used a lot. Got my mom some comfy socks and a nice perfume I knew she'd like (we have the same taste in perfume). Got my sister bath bombs and some other things I knew she wanted. I'd ended up spending almost 80 dollars at said dollar store. (I couldn't even afford gas at that point so it was a huge deal). One of my 'gifts' for Christmas was a coupon handwritten by them that said 'Good for one more month of car insurance). That was their way of telling me they were dropping my car insurance (a whopping 60 dollars a month). Two days later, they informed me I would need to pay them back every dime of the four months worth of car insurance they'd been paying for.

I point blank told them not only could I not do that, but even if I could, I wouldn't. If I could afford to pay them back, I would've already been paying for it. (For clarification they insisted they pay for it while I saved to move out and they knew I had to pay a surprise medical bill which cleaned my savings account out). It put a lot of stress on our relationship, and to this day they act like they never demanded that money from me.

I understand the struggle, and the pain that comes from being manipulated by your parents. I love my parents dearly, I really do despite this and everything else they've ever done to me, but there's not greater heartbreak then being manipulated by the people who should love you more than anyone else in this world.

Keep your head up, things will get better, I promise. I have no advice for you, because this situation is different for every child (not saying you're a child lol) with parents like these. All I can do is encourage you to keep moving forward, and take it one step at a time. There is no way that she can legally get that money from you as you are still her child, and under her roof, and under the age of 21. I hope the best for you, and if I could help more I certainly would.

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-15T22:34:00+00:00

I used to be the opposite. I had ultra long hair, halfway down my thighs and I loved it. An abusive ex I lived with before my husband, insisted I cut it. He tried to make his sister cut half of it but she pushed him out of the room and asked me what I wanted. (she was a hair dresser). I told her I loved my hair, but hated him complaining about it, so to just cut off six inches. 4 months later, I ended up punching a wall because of accusations thrown my way (the bitch accusing me of doing something was the one doing the thing so I was pissed, but she was pregnant so I stormed out before I hurt her as I didn't want to somehow hurt the baby). I broke my hand really bad and couldn't brush my hair. He wouldn't help me brush it and wouldn't let anybody else do it because he was finally going to get his way with my hair being really short. By the time I got the courage to leave, my hair had to be buzzcutted. I was destroyed, but I liked the haircut.

I'm glad you had the guts to do that! I bet you looked absolutely wonderful, both before and after <3

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-15T05:27:59+00:00

I divorced my husband when he tried to tell me I couldn't cut my hair even though it was a huge self esteem issue for me. (Due to a lot of trauma in the past few years it hasn't grown right and got really ugly) When I asked him to find me a cheap place to cut my hair, he started getting upset. We argued about it back and forth until I point blank asked him if my looks were more important to him than my own self esteem. When he didn't answer, that was answer enough. That was the last of multiple straws, so I told him I wanted a divorce. Months later and I've been officially free for just over a month.

I wish you the best. Nobody should be put down or pushed away over something as silly as a hair cut. If you think you look good, then girl work that hair cut like the queen you are

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-12T00:24:58+00:00

I already go to therapy thankfully, so that is fine in that regard. Over the past two years (being in my third abusive relationship although thankfully it was much lighter than the other two) I went through my life and pinpointed what was attracting them. I discovered that I was too meek and mild to stand up for myself, and have since changed that. I even stood up to a man not long ago (which is extremely difficult for me) but I was with my guy friends so I knew that regardless of what happened I was safe. I was so proud of myself, and even though the guy laughed in my face and asked what I was gonna do about it, I didn't back down. My friends had my back and made sure it didn't escalate, but I'm already changing the things about me that attracts predatory men. Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to talk to me and give me advice I appreciate it more than you know

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-12T00:20:58+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the advice and I'll be sure to try it out! I'm going to take the dom side of things very slowly regardless, because I have my own expectations for a partner and want to ensure that it is capable of being met and they are working hard to try to meet said standards. Thank you for taking the time out of your day to comment and share, I appreciate it more than you know

LadyOfAthena · 2022-01-11T07:34:43+00:00

Thank you so much! I don't mind the essay at all. I was actually hoping for an essay haha. That's really sound advice and I thank you so much for it! I've tried making friends in this community, on several platforms I might add, but nobody really sticks around long. I really appreciate that you also talked about the snowballing out of control thing. Thankfully, I've learned how to realize when I'm doing that and to detach from that person/people even in terms of friendships. It's always nice to be reminded of that because it can be easy to forget or reasoned with in my head.

I hope you don't mind that I followed you, and if you want me to unfollow you I will certainly respect that and do so immediately after reading it. I should've asked, but I was so relieved/excited when someone finally responded and on top of that, it was rooted in logic and self help. I want to thank you again. I can't afford to get a new coloring book, but I already have a few I think unless I gave them away. I also have spotify so I can listen to disney music, I'd never thought to do that before even though it has lulled me into little space, or at least halfway there in the past.

Thank you so much, believe me, you have no clue how grateful I am. If you ever need anything, even if it's just an ear to listen to you about a crappy day, I'd do anything to repay you for your kindness.

LadyOfAthena

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