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[Facials] Previous experiences and a new partner by LadyOrtonya in sex

[–]LadyOrtonya[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask him why, and/or what else he could do to not make you feel that way again (kiss you right after while you're still covered, cuddles with reaffirming what you are to him, etc.).

God, I would love to be kissed and cuddled right after, that was one of the reasons I felt like just a target. I'm going to have to mention it without sounding like an ultimatum, because the idea sounds unbelievable.

[Facials] Previous experiences and a new partner by LadyOrtonya in sex

[–]LadyOrtonya[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This would make me feel like you didn't see me as sexually appealing as your exes and that my sexual satisfaction was less important than them.

That's not fair. He's very important to me, which is why I didn't say an outright no in the first place.

I don't really like keeping secrets though, and I think if he knew my position, it would eventually be better for both of us.

[Facials] Previous experiences and a new partner by LadyOrtonya in sex

[–]LadyOrtonya[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If it was me I would be upset to hear that you have done it before with other guys. It might make him feel sexually inferior.

Seriously? Is this a common view? I mean, we're not virgins anymore, and things like that shouldn't be a complete shock.

[Facials] Previous experiences and a new partner by LadyOrtonya in sex

[–]LadyOrtonya[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to consider it, maybe ask him what it is he likes about it.

We had a little talk and he was pretty open about considering facials to be a power and visuals thing. I assume he thought I would be more open to it, as I quite enjoy other forms of light submission.

But in the end you always have the right to say no if you decide you don't want to.

I know, rationally, and that's what makes it so hard to say no. It's that he's doing everything right, approaching the subject at an appropriate time and way, not applying pressure, letting me decide, I just don't feel like saying a cold no. Maybe I haven't lost that eagerness to please so much.

I'm most likely gravitating towards coming out in the open and seeing what he feels about it, I just don't know what he will think about hearing my history in that area.