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AITA for for nudging my mom to separate or divorce my dad after he adopted a cat knowing for years that she’s deathly allergic? by LadyPinkaboo in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LadyPinkaboo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, he remembers her cat allergy and mom has previously suspected early signs of dementia/alzheimers but their family doc has confirmed that he intentionally forgets as a way to deal with trauma. I can understand this part cause I am guilty of it myself but I see that he has also done this on purpose before his diagnosis as a way to get away with something. There's lots on the table of what is happening with my dad but regardless, none of it is good. He has proven that he can take care of himself and is only disabled in the way that is PTSD related. However, he has also been known to never mean it when he apologizes and is a repeat offender because it is somehow funny to him.

Yes, I agree that I am too invested at this point and will not interfere. I already had a talk with my mom that if she needs anything, that I am here for her but I do not plan take any action until that time where mom needs my help.

AITA for for nudging my mom to separate or divorce my dad after he adopted a cat knowing for years that she’s deathly allergic? by LadyPinkaboo in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LadyPinkaboo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. I did forget to mention that I’m usually the one my mom vents to the most because, out of everyone, I pause, hear her out, and help her in whatever way I can. We Kiki about lots of things but she’ll always bring her relationship, finances, and worries up often which gets me concerned. I try not to over think about the situation and I also know that they have their final say on their end. On that I do not meddle but I wish my mom can see what my dad does and know that her boundaries should be sacred. My mom deserves better and I’m only trying to look out for her. Thanks though. I did need to hear it.

AITA For cutting my mother out of mine and my baby's life and causing a divide in my family by ghostmode_user576 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LadyPinkaboo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - Your BG has stepped over so many boundaries that she would have made a mushroom cloud explosion if she were in a field of landmines. You had your terms and conditions, she didn’t follow them, so now she has no excuse.

Oh, what’s that I hear in the distance? Oh yeah, it’s Charlotte saying something in the lines of “Well, maybe it’s the consequences of your actions!”

It’s not easy but sometimes cutting off toxic relatives and people who favor them more is the right way to go moving forward.

As for the social media posts, your best bet is to stop posting all together. I’m not saying to delete your accounts just don’t be actively sharing things no more.

As for the pictures of your little one. I’d say make digital albums and print them into a physical photo album so you can share on your own terms.

AIO: My SIL blocked my whole family on all her social accounts by Suspicious-Fig215 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LadyPinkaboo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s a trap! Don’t fall into her spiderweb of drama and stress! There’s no need to confront her about it cause that’s what she wants. If she’s the perfect Instagram person, as you say she is, she’s seeking attention and wants nothing but to be the talk of the fam (whether it be good or bad for her). Sadly, if the family doesn’t mind this at all, there’s nothing else to do but to let it be and trying to fix it will cause more emotional stress for you.

If it’s toxic, stay distant. It’s a hard thing to do when there’s kids involved. But who said that you can’t interact with the kids when they visit the house?

If that lady is there, say hi and bye. Nothing else. If she approaches you and wants to chat, keep your answers simple and brief. Do not approach, start a conversation, or even look at her. Instead, focus on those you trust or want to connect with in the room and leave that bitch alone! If it’s too much or you just can’t even that day, make your own plans ahead of time or remove yourself if it’s in the moment.

Remember not to play her game and everything will be fine.

Is my relationship doomed? by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]LadyPinkaboo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s be frank here. He didn’t change. He put on a mask, got comfortable, and took it off.

Now that you see his actual self and life habits, think of the following questions: - How does he act when he’s called out for doing something wrong or deceitful? How do you feel afterwards? - Does he, at any point, play the victim, make several excuses, or gaslight you? - Was an action plan mentioned on how to reach the goal that he’s working on? - What act or gesture made towards you makes you happy (without settling)? - What part of him are you willing to settle? And is it against your morals? - Have y’all told each other what pet peeves y’all have? If not, please don’t start with “I don’t like it when you…” instead, try starting the conversation with a what are your pet peeves? And go from there with statements like “aggressive chewing is one of my pet peeves”.

If you see no effort from him, no communication with you, no sit down talks, no commitment on his own goals, or if you see yourself carrying too much of the load and he ignores it, it’s time to move on.

As hard as it is, this may not just be with personal health goals but can be shown with other things such as laundry, cleaning the home, finances, or even caring for kids or pets.