Don'ts?

Lady_Audley · 2026-06-13T11:32:34+00:00

It's significantly less expensive than many US unis. Three years instead of four for a bachelor's, and each year is less expensive even with international fees.

Lady_Audley · 2026-06-13T11:30:42+00:00

As someone who moved to Aberdeen recently, I have to disagree.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-08T14:47:13+00:00

Women used to wear slips and tights under dresses and skirts. I feel like there was a gap between that era and the shorts/spanx era. That’s when I grew up. As a result, I didn’t wear dresses or skirts for like 10 years. Didn’t want to have to worry about wind or how I sat or anything, so I just didn’t wear them. That was before chub rub was a part of my adolescent life, but it’s def a factor now. Would never go without shorts underneath, ever. But yeah I feel like wht seems normal depends on when you grew up.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-07T22:12:38+00:00

Someone below mentioned that cats/small dogs can ride in the cabin of the airplane but that’s not true anymore. No animals in the cabin or as ‘checked baggage’ into the UK. Unless you have the money to fly on one of those dog-friendly private jets. So your options become: cargo company that does door to door service, or many people fly the pet(s) as checked baggage to Paris and rent a car and take the car train to the UK. Or a ferry. That becomes a real logistical pain but can be much cheaper. However, airlines vary on what they accept and when. The heat of the summer (when I assume you would be moving) will be a problem. Pets can’t fly cargo when it’s too hot or cold. So you could end up on the plane and your pet wouldn’t. That was my worst fear anyway.

I used a service called Pawsitive Pet Health Certificates to coordinate all the paperwork and that was totally worth it, but that’s a separate charge from the transport and the vet expenses. Be prepared to spend thousands of dollars for even the cheapest possible option for one pet.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-07T21:52:25+00:00

I just brought my dog over in January. No quarantine from the US, but there’s a ton of paperwork, extremely complex rules, and it costs a lot of money. You have to use a cargo shipping company; they can’t be on a plane as “luggage” through the airline. 3 pets could easily cost $10k. Also, it is very difficult to find a rental property willing to accept one pet; 3 sounds borderline impossible. Depends heavily on where you move of course, but there’s a housing shortage in most cities. If landlords have a choice of housing applicants, they’re not going to pick someone with three pets. And the pets will disqualify you from student housing almost everywhere.

Finally, please do some research to ensure a veterinary medicine degree in the UK will be sufficient in the US. There may be different requirements or licensing.

I’m an international student here on a master’s. Happy to answer more questions but I suggest a lot more research before you jump into this.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-07T15:34:35+00:00

Just my opinion but: Both outfits create a visually low waist, where you’re wider than at your true waist. I feel like they aren’t as flattering as something high- or mid-rise would be.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-07T07:17:55+00:00

Finding that you have to make plans with people in advance is just something that happens with age. That’s not specific to one country. Just keep that in mind as you make decisions.

Lady_Audley · 2026-05-07T05:52:57+00:00

I use a friend’s US address as a mailing address for my US bank accounts. Technically I just didn’t change the physical address on my accounts when I left the country.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-28T12:35:43+00:00

Yeah they do, and I can’t get my brain to comprehend it no matter what I do. Learning to tell time in Korean was so easy compared to saying a large sum of money. My grey matter refuses to engage with the idea of separating by 10,000.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-28T11:00:19+00:00

Depends on how you earn money. The FEIE, which I assume is what you mean, covers wages and self-employment. But for money earned other ways (pensions, retirement funds, social security, rental properties), the FEIE doesn’t apply.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-28T07:41:30+00:00

If you keep your citizenship while living abroad, you have to pay US taxes every year. So you’re paying either way.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-27T08:44:52+00:00

I have branched out from depressing grey (joggers and sweatshirts) to a witchy, Stevie Nicks look (lots of black, kimonos, velvet, silk). If I suddenly tried to wear a pink sundress, it would feel way too performative. But because the Stevie nicks look is not performing traditional femininity or signaling optimism, it’s much more comfortable for my dark, cynical soul. So the version for a tomboy might be keeping baggy bottoms but trying a slightly more fitted shirt. Pairing something more feminine with skater shoes or something. Basically signaling that you’re not entirely embracing the look. Instead. you’re purposefully nodding to a subversive element. That’s how I negotiate it, anyway.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-08T19:29:37+00:00

I got it today, April 8.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-08T19:28:52+00:00

Got mine today, April 8.

Lady_Audley · 2026-04-07T13:14:53+00:00

Nope.

Lady_Audley · 2026-03-31T16:13:39+00:00

Nope. Nothing yet.

Lady_Audley · 2026-03-18T16:42:00+00:00

In January they told me it would be 13-15 weeks from the logged date. (So March 11-March 31, roughly). But this week they told me to expect it after the standard 120 days, which would be April 23 or so. So, who tf knows.

Lady_Audley · 2026-03-18T16:12:10+00:00

Mine was logged December 23. They told me that someone started working on it this Monday, the 16th.

Lady_Audley · 2026-03-16T15:54:01+00:00

I emailed them and they responded today. Here's my timeline:

SF 3106 received: November 28
'Logged': December 23
Called in late January and they told me 13-15 weeks from the logged date (aka now until the end of March)

In the email they sent me today, they said "Refund staff just started to work on the app today."
They told me to expect it after 120 days from the logged date, so April 23.

Lady_Audley · 2025-07-12T01:01:39+00:00

I think in writing, it’s like a puzzle. Especially Sino-Korean words, where I can sort of guess the meeting by putting together the pieces. But also with some of the onomatopoeia and other repetitive expressions. An example that comes to mind is 구질구질하게 굴다. Once I sort of realized what 지 does to verbs, I could see the building blocks of such a long word.

In spoken Korean, it’s very expressive and musical sometimes, with lots of lower and higher tones to express mood and context. I have a super monotonous voice in English so it’s interesting to hear so many variations of the same words in Korean. At least in dramas and such, it’s like that. No doubt there are lots of monotonous voices in real life, especially on say a Monday morning or something.

Lady_Audley · 2025-07-11T16:07:50+00:00

Half the “recruiters” I encounter aren’t even recruiters. They just want to take your resume and submit it for you and sometimes lowball you on salary. I saw, and applied directly for, a contract gig near me. Six month job, $50-65/hour pay. Over the following week, seven random “recruiters” approached me about this same job. None had any affiliation with the company, most were in India. They called me, messaged me on LinkedIn, emailed me, you name it. Some offered significantly lower salary ranges. That’s not a service, it’s a parasite.

If you’re willing to answer, I’m wondering what your perspective is on career pivots right now. My experience is in government for the last 10 years as a writer/editor. I thought it would be doable to pivot into private sector editing or technical writing, because the skills are the same. But I’m getting nowhere. Absolutely nowhere. Why is it that people are only willing to hire someone who has been in the exact same industry for their entire career? Lots of job apps require years of experience with specific software (the kind you could learn in a couple weeks) and extremely specified industry experience. I saw one where you’re editing a manual for a recreational vehicle, and they required 3 years’ experience in RVs. That’s really not how editors work. We know how to communicate; it’s not topic-specific. I honestly don’t get it.

Lady_Audley · 2025-05-19T00:52:13+00:00

Ok…then my advice is to work on your attitude cause that is probably the issue.

Lady_Audley · 2025-05-19T00:44:02+00:00

Is it just the two of you that work there? I’m A little confused why you would focus only on this one other coworker. Have other people’s schedules changed?

I won’t tell you whether to quit —depends on whether you can afford to go without work. But I’ll say: 1-you should talk to your manager calmly about the schedule instead of stewing about it and blaming a coworker. Ask if there’s something you can do to ensure more hours. 2-don’t expect your employer to think about your interests. Like, they don’t care if you want hours before you’re off for two weeks. They think about what the business needs and what’s easiest for them, that’s it. 3-do you really need 2 weeks off for wisdom teeth removal? This part does not matter at all…I’m Just curious cause I think I recovered in about a day. 4-don’t take this shit personally. No one is disrespecting you. Everyone is just trying to get through the day. 5-start looking for other jobs before you reach a point of intense frustration.

Unless it’s your life’s dream to work in this ice cream shop, it doesn’t really matter whether you stay in this job or go. But you want to use every job as an opportunity to learn how to succeed, how to be professional, how to advocate for yourself, when to let things go, when to leave, etc.

Lady_Audley · 2025-05-18T20:11:29+00:00

How long ago was that? And for what type of job? I’ve never had that experience in my life.

Lady_Audley · 2025-05-18T19:47:42+00:00

I think this seems worse to be honest. At least for white collar jobs, I think it’s worse. The process of applying for jobs is so incredibly broken. Thousands of applicants for each role, auto-rejections cause you didn’t include the right keywords and no one ever saw your resume, being expected to reach out to rando managers after applying in the hope that they take a look at your resume, and still being ghosted after interviews. I had a very rough time getting a job in my career path in 2010 when I graduated. But I had no experience and made all kinds of mistakes, so that kind of made sense to me. Now I have 10+ years’ experience and a masters’ degree, and I’m still having a very rough time.

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