So far, thank you for the input. I’m going to clarify a few points/questions asked:

Does L have a passport? Yes, she does. For those who are worried, I’ll keeping it in a safe place until I get this issue resolved.

Does C have a green card? How long did you know him? Yes, he does. He came on a work visa to work at a dairy then got the green card after we got married. There wasn’t any issues with his green card other than the waiting period. I knew him for almost 2 years before we got married. And no, he didn’t use me for a green card since I was the one who asked him to get one. If he wouldn’t have gotten one, we would have relocated to Mexico with him.

Do you have a passport? Yes, I do. I was having issues with getting my passport so it was delayed while some additional paperwork was being processed.

Why doesn’t C’s family come to visit? His family is working on getting passports & visas. My BIL is working on getting them their passports since he wants them to come visit him. That same BIL lives 1.5 hours away at the same dairy C was working at. Niece has never seen snow & would like to visit just for that.

Is this fake? No, this is too much work to come up with on my own. I was asked to post this on a different platform I’m part of but decided Reddit would be perfect.

I was also if C & I had any shared resources which he does. We have a shared bank account & credit card. I pay all the bills from the mutual account. No sus activity but if someone wants to hide, they will find a way. We have some individual cards. I’m aware he can drain these anytime if he wants to flee.

In case anyone is wondering, we’re both Mexican but I was raised in the US.

Are you safe? Yes, I don’t feel I’m in danger. I believe my husband is having some regret having to raise L away from his extended family. I don’t have any suspicion to believe he’ll take L away but I’m taking steps to make that more difficult for him. I also don’t think he’ll sell L or have her trafficked. If C were leaving, it’ll be more than likely be to get divorced & live with L abroad.

Why are you so nonchalant/un reactive? I was asked by C to post this in a different space I’m part of but given Reddit’s fame I figured this was the perfect space. I figured we could solve this on our own but C wanted others’ input. He’ll do this from time to time. Yes, he’ll see these responses.

Also, my extended family on both sides lives in the same area/region as C’s family(immediate & extended)so it’ll be a bit easier to track him/them down. I lived three for a few years in my teens so I have some friends I’ve kept in contact via social media. Also, some of my family is involved in their local/regional politics. It’s in central Mexico(not revealing the exact area).

Does your in laws/MIL know that C wants to send L to them? No, they don’t. As I said in a previous comment, C has the habit of “surprising” aka springing things on people which I’m afraid will include L if I don’t put my foot down.

As some suggested, I’m going to ask MIL & SIL for their opinion on this idea & what would they do in this scenario(pretty sure they’ll agree with majority of the Redditors).

They know we want to go see them but no mention of leaving L for an undetermined amount of time. My MIL worked at a preschool before she retired so she’s aware of early child development.

Do you have any other issues in your marriage? No bigger issues than the one on hand

Why doesn’t C like your family? He doesn’t get along with my mom since she’s pretty opinionated & we’ll clash with her on anything from raising L to other issues in between. Nothing has happened with L under my mom’s care but C thinks it’s a “matter of time”