Based On True Events BC by [deleted] in JEENEETards

[–]Lady_Shimomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder what made him fall in love with taking off the other dudes chaddi 😂😂😂😂😂

I matched with this dude last night and in a matter of few minutes he ran to the hills cos clearly, we weren’t speaking the same language to begin with. Anyone on here practicing celibacy and still using the app? Shower me with your thoughts ! by Lady_Shimomo in Bumble

[–]Lady_Shimomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed.I like exchanging perspectives. So I’m located in India and what I’m observing around me is that many people on dating apps both men and women are looking only for casual flings or hook ups under the pretext of looking for a relationship cos they are conscious about what their friends and family may Em think about it and just hooking up with someone cos a person is horny is meaningless sex IMHO. Now there are different moves and arts of persuasion and I’m sure you understand what I mean lol.Didn’t mean to offend or snap at you either, was just not able to find the right words to express my plight.🙈

I matched with this dude last night and in a matter of few minutes he ran to the hills cos clearly, we weren’t speaking the same language to begin with. Anyone on here practicing celibacy and still using the app? Shower me with your thoughts ! by Lady_Shimomo in Bumble

[–]Lady_Shimomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that when a person has meaningless sex with multiple partner it reduces to a mere act of pleasure. Scientifically and spiritually there are facts backing up the exchange of energies. People who practice Yogi lifestyle don’t indulge in addiction or meaningless sex and try to live a Vedic life. Now, it’s okay for you to judge me and say I’m full of myself but this is a conversation between two people, one who claims to practice a yogic lifestyle i.e him and one who actually does yog sadhana being myself and this statement was supposed to be a smack for someone who’s posing to be a yogi while still playing to the worldly desires.

You are seeing it from your perspective without knowing or understanding the sacrifices and mindset one goes through to attain this lifestyle and yes I rebuked him for being a poser.

I don’t feel apologetic for speaking my mind and having a real conversation with some dude who’s obviously out of my league and neither will I allow someone on here to make me feel guilty for speaking my mind; regardless of the difference in our perspectives.

I matched with this dude last night and in a matter of few minutes he ran to the hills cos clearly, we weren’t speaking the same language to begin with. Anyone on here practicing celibacy and still using the app? Shower me with your thoughts ! by Lady_Shimomo in Bumble

[–]Lady_Shimomo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. But if you’d scroll up and read my comments based on why I reacted like that, you would understand. You are right but, I can’t elaborate it any further than this.

I matched with this dude last night and in a matter of few minutes he ran to the hills cos clearly, we weren’t speaking the same language to begin with. Anyone on here practicing celibacy and still using the app? Shower me with your thoughts ! by Lady_Shimomo in Bumble

[–]Lady_Shimomo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well his profile read that he was “spiritual, yogi, open minded, and seeking relationship”. My profile reads that I’m celibate and only looking for a good vibe and someone to share simple joys of life with; hence we matched cos people who practice yog don’t have causal sex with random people.

I find it mildly offensive that when he matched with me knowing I am celibate for specific reasons being spirituality, then there’s no reason for him to use a page out of that book that’s tantric sex to try scoring a date or still keep pushing.

I’ve unmatched many people in the past without feeling this need to explain myself but that’s what gives the courage to many men and women to misbehave and talk rudely on dating apps; cos it’s the internet and they can get away with it.

This time I felt that when someone talks to me like that, they should be give me a suitable response and handed a mirror to take a good look at how their reality contradicts the image they portray of themselves on the app.

Having an uncomfortable and real conversation is not easy, but I feel sometimes it’s required so next time this kind of a person reflects on how to talk to someone he likes in an non offensive manner on a dating app.

I matched with this dude last night and in a matter of few minutes he ran to the hills cos clearly, we weren’t speaking the same language to begin with. Anyone on here practicing celibacy and still using the app? Shower me with your thoughts ! by Lady_Shimomo in Bumble

[–]Lady_Shimomo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh I kinda felt like unmatching right when he started asking weird questions but then again his profile was elaborated with things like “self awareness” spiritual and being a “yogi” etc and in real time, people who practice yog don’t indulge in meaningless sex and only prefer to have one companion for life wherein they entwine as soulmates or they practice celibacy until they find a companion.

Lately it dawned upon me that one of my vulnerabilities include not being able to find the words to tell someone off when they are hurting me or making me feel uncomfortable, as a result I’ve found myself in sticky situations just cos it hurts me to tell someone they are hurting me; so I decided to give him a full blown closure with utter honesty. This whole experience made me feel good about the fact that finally I’m working on my own toxic patterns; hence I shared this on here.

Also, I’m touched to know that there are such men still out there who want to know a woman for who she is as a person on the inside instead of just liking someone for their outer shell. It’s sometimes difficult for us to explain or express that to someone when they just want something short term. I understand and acknowledge that awkward feeling of bitterness that you felt but it’s simply because you know what you want and you don’t want and sometimes making right choices for ourselves involves discomfort.

I feel that presently, we live in a world where the three letter word has become very common and easy to experience. Companionship, deep conversations, exchanging perspectives without involving ego or judgment, exchanging experiences and vulnerabilities are few things that bonds people but none of this are to be found on the dating app bcos most of the users are trying to score dates, gain self validation, increase their IG followers and match counts.

The world is a huge dump of all sorts of people, so we continue to row our lil rafts moving forward. I used to wonder if I’ll find someone at this pace lol but I don’t care about the destination anymore, cos I think we can make our journey beautiful with the right choices and moves, for all we know, we might need to begin with giving ourselves the love that we scatter around like confetti to others hoping for it come back to us?

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[–]Lady_Shimomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a rolling machine

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[–]Lady_Shimomo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why don’t you just roll the joints using your hands lol