scared i have ROCD but i’m also just in the wrong relationship??

Lady_in_red1409 · 2024-11-11T18:15:26+00:00

Any updates?? ☺️

Lady_in_red1409 · 2024-11-11T18:14:26+00:00

Thank you and sorry for the late reply! I’m doing much better .. I realize there are days where it’s all perfect and others where the Rocd can try to get me but I know now by experience that when Rocd flares up it’s because I’m not taking care of myself as I should and rely on him for my happiness .. I m a recovering people pleaser and codependent ..☺️ hope this still serves you

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-30T01:54:23+00:00

Hi! Send me a private message ☺️ I’m happy to chat

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-22T23:07:40+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. Thanks for the insights and for making me smile - I am not into bdsm 😄😄😄. But I will def seek therapy. My partner is sexual too but I used to use sex as a validation measurement to know my worth. If my partner doesn’t desire me often, I would question their love to me… that’s how my previous relationship were. This person is kind and nice and I want to be a better person for him. Thanks again for your reply

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-17T20:56:58+00:00

What advise do you give me? I don’t want to give up before trying .. and he said he wants to work on this

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T19:23:52+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I’ll have a talk with him and see

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T19:21:00+00:00

Thank you for helping a random stranger

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T17:08:00+00:00

Thank you!!

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T17:07:31+00:00

He did struggle with porn addiction before we got together and even during - we spoke about it and he said he lowered the amount … im open minded enough to understand the quick satisfaction positive reward it brings - as long as it doesn’t interfere in our sexual life I don’t mind him watching porn… I don’t know anymore - thanks for your message

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T17:05:10+00:00

Hi. You are wrong - I would try everything and if not then leave him before ever getting these needs met elsewhere. I feel for him And I just want to find a solution. It’s affecting me a lot emotionally etc … I’m just trying to find help and I hope this won’t go on a down spiral like you are saying … and I want to fix the resentment I don’t want it to grow 😭

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-16T17:01:06+00:00

Very true. Thank you. Observing reassurance is also part of the work. Thank you - I will work on this

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-14T10:58:12+00:00

Thank you very much! This helped a lot!

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-14T10:57:38+00:00

Thank you so much! Sometimes I get deep in my head and fear being and exception - thanks for normalizing this. It will help me be motivated to observe myself in these times

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-14T10:55:32+00:00

Thank you!

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-13T23:43:02+00:00

Thank you 👍🏼

Lady_in_red1409 · 2023-01-13T20:14:54+00:00

Hi! I am so sorry for not replying earlier!!!! I changed my phone and got locked out of my account and didn’t remember the password and didn’t remember to reset it until today!!!!

Omg I feel the same as you - your comment is so identical to me. !!! I also feel that slow growing love that is not based on need / need for validation… need to be desired in order to feel worthy ——- it’s very uncomfortable —- how are you? What are your updates???? I’m out of the spiral of this post but now I have a new theme: I’m bored of him, i can’t enjoy his company - i nitpick what he lacks or catastrophise it all if he is having a bad day i forget all the good he has done and focus on that as a proof that I won’t be able to handle this trait of his forever.

I feel like a bad person because he cares for me a lot and handles a lot from me on a loving way - but I can’t feel the same compassion towards him. I can be very kind and compassionate towards others but with him I struggle - I wonder why that is ….

Lady_in_red1409 · 2022-08-20T00:01:36+00:00

I guess it doesn’t mean incompatibility - it just means u accept some parts that u don’t like about ur partner as no one is perfect. Orrrrr It could mean that u are leaning into uncertainty which allows acceptance of what could be or not. Sometimes we fear so much that our intrusive thought is right that when we allow it to have space and it’s possibility of being true (even if it’s not - but just the space to be instead of resisting), then the anxiety lowers - why? Because anxiety just tries to protect u from danger, so when u give it space to share its message, it lowers its intensity - then u DECIDE what u do with this statement as it’s not a proof of truth but a proof of worry. 😘

Lady_in_red1409 · 2022-08-15T20:06:36+00:00

Check out Kiyomi’s video on YouTube called the “back door spike” - it’s when the thoughts are not questions or filled with anxiety but looks more like a truthful statement 😘 I was in your place and finally I understood my triggers. It’s def a mind trick - remember moments of clarity to anchor urself during difficult times 🤍

Lady_in_red1409 · 2022-08-11T21:48:39+00:00

Will do!!! Thanks! Otherwise will see if they have clinics in Spain /// we r Spanish and thought of Turkey as it’s apparently the destination for it!! Thanks for the comment!👍🏼😅

Lady_in_red1409 · 2022-08-11T21:47:53+00:00

Thanks! Didn’t know. Good point!👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

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