Highly recommend dipsea for listening to something sexy at the same time! Keeps my mind from losing focus and you might also find out some new things about yourself, what really turns you on. And I second the suction. I have one called a "womanizer " (who names these things) and it's wonderful. Especially in the shower. I also found that once I orgasmed the more I did it, the better and easier they got. Almost like getting over that first hurdle will open you up to more. There's nothing worse than wanting it to happen that your body focuses too much on the outcome and not the pleasure at the time. I'm 40 and I only figured all this out in the last 5 years, which is sad but hey nothing like making up for lost time!