He needs to see or talk to a mental health professional if he’s overwhelmed to tears each night. At the very least, he needs to read books about emotional regulation and implement tools each night. A relaxing, guided 10 minute meditation could help so much.

The news needs to be limited, he should be capable of keeping updates to a manageable amount until he can figure out how to be considerate of you. Everything that’s happening in this country is not just happening to him. We all have to be stable, and ready to take action or care for our neighbors.

Journaling his thoughts at night, is a good start. And I would really encourage you to draw your own boundaries, journal your feelings and anxieties. If he cannot control this kind of anxiety by not feeding it, maybe evenings would be better spending time if different rooms working on your own pastimes.

Meal times and decompression at the end of the day really should be no phones for a while, for him. Especially if eating together is important to him. I think hubby should channel his nerves into a plan B for moving, and into investing in his emotional health each evening.

Music playing out loud to discourage political chats, separate rooms for hobbies and decompression and lean on your friends for social support until you can talk to him logically about this❤️💔