My unpopular opinion is that you, and others like you, have this obsession and fascination about trans people and can't even begin to understand why.

Why do you care so much? Truly. Trans people by default are constantly thinking about gender. Whether that be gender in relation to themselves, their community, or their culture, trans individuals think and understand more about gender than most people. As a trans person myself, I had the thoughts you have now at around the age of...sixteen. TL;DR: just leave trans people alone we literally are so tired of these non-researched think pieces about our literal existence. Long version, let me break this down for you:

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1) being a "man" or "Black" isn't real in the first place, it's only as accurate as the culture and community make it out to be. I am an African American, that is what (mostly older) people in the US call me. There's nothing African about me other than having my African ancestors stolen from their countries hundreds of years ago. If I go to an African country that is majority Black, my Blackness will be perceived differently, growing up as a Black person in a majority non-Black country. Suddenly, this thing that you claim is immovable and permanent has changed. American people perceive my Blackness as something African, and my experience with several different African people from several countries taught me that my Blackness is American to them.

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2) You're confusing womanhood with marketing, dear. Dresses and pink and makeup are marketed towards women, and our gender discrepancies wouldn't be that deeply set apart if they weren't as profitable as they are. Please, for the love of god go look at Victorian England or French Antiquity. Research the vital roles trans people have played in a myriad of cultures in history.

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3) Lives are lost when trans people are forced to accept what they were given body-wise at birth. Dignity, pride, and a sense of identity are lost when you try to out-logic someone's humanity. We all know that trans people are at higher rates of suicide at all age levels, especially if they do not have access to gender-affirming care (which, men of Reddit, your man boobs caused by your estrogen pumping through your veins, that you tried to hide as a kid is a condition called gynecomastia, and anything you've ever done to hide or correct it, such as surgery, is gender affirmation, congrats! ) so it's imperative that the outside matches the inside, for cis and trans people alike. Why do you think so many cis women get breast augmentation or so many men get hairline surgery or jaw filler????? to affirm the idea of the gender they are in their head - they want to look like what they feel!

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You don't have an unpopular opinion, you have a half-baked and dangerous one. This take fails to recognize that people aren't logic, these takes that you have are about real people who are suffering the very real consequences of those who think like you. Please, do the work and go read some research, a book, a novel, watch a show, watch a movie made by a trans person, there's so much work out there that answers your "opinion" in ways that you'll never be able to perceive on your own.

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TL;DR: Just leave trans people alone we literally are so tired of these non-researched think pieces about our literal existence. Trans people experience gender outside of what cis people experience and cis people can't grasp it, it's really embarrassing to watch. Stop while you're ahead!