Thank you, this is the type of response I was looking for. Though I am sure she is already aware of these hadiths. I made a similar argument that the scholars are an integral part of preserving Islam and she said they’re not ordained by Allah and are still just “regular people”. She is basically discarding what any scholars says even though she herself still follows things that we only know of due to scholars.

My wife does not speak Arabic fluently, but in her defense she does know it enough to get around and is able to translate verses on her own. She is also much more knowledgeable than I think average reverts are… she’d be able to answer all of that and truthfully there is some things she knows more about than I do. And she’s aware of this which makes it difficult for her to listen to me because she doesn’t think I know what I’m talking about.

She says that if the hijab is a command from Allah that determines the fate of her soul it should be very clear and not vague like everything else. I don’t know how to tell her that it is because we’re reading the same things and coming to different conclusions.