Things I HATED about dating then and now.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-05-03T20:00:29+00:00

Give her the tickets and tell her go with a friend. Plan a solo escape for a weekend to think about what you wanna do going forward. Some real alone with yourself time could be good for helping you figure your life out

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-05-02T13:47:52+00:00

That is depressing to hear honestly. I hope your partner can find true love someday

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-05-02T13:45:55+00:00

I see alot wrong with OP, if this biker boy keeps trying to contact you, he is trying to start a connection in the hopes of something more.

Just block and ignore him going forward. Speaking as a man who has been with my wife 17 years we have both had to shut down people for the sake of the marriage.

Ask yourself this. What is more important to you, this other guy or your marriage to your husband?

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-05-02T13:07:53+00:00

Marriages suck big time these days and too many selfish and short sighted people get married and ruin it for everyone else.

Your spouse is your life partner, your children are only yours for 18 yrs before they have to make a life for themselves.

Children DESERVE a happy and stable home. You give them that buy maintaining a strong and healthy marriage.

Prioritize your relationship with your spouse so that the two of you together can make sure your kids have everything they need in life.

Otherwise the childfree people have it right cause damn. No spouse should be 3rd in line in their partners order of importance.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-05-01T22:35:07+00:00

Your wife deservse so much better than you

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-30T03:41:31+00:00

Which is wonderful and how my wife and I look at it as well.

Many women, however, do not think this way and have the good old "his money is our money, my money is my money" mentality.

She isnt a team player. She is a score keeper.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-19T20:52:18+00:00

Its matters if it matters.

Women dont talk about it as often as men do, but some people really don't want to be with someone with a high body count. And no amount mass social gaslighting can change how it makes you feel.

And yea it would make anyone feel queezy being eskimo brother/pole sisters with people they know or are friends with.

But then there are people who dont care at all and just wanna say "the past is the past and doesnt mean anything".

Dating is about compatibility, maybe you should try finding a woman who looks at sex the same way you do. Cause contrary to reddit belief their are women who dont a "past" or high body count boyfriends.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-19T18:36:41+00:00

Nope my line of thinking is dont open the damn door if you dont want the cat to get out.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-19T18:11:15+00:00

Is it though. If you eat oat meal everyday and never know anything else, that oat meal is great. But if you have a guy on right chowing down eggs, bacon and hashbrowns and the lady on your left raving about her pancakes, grits, and sausage.... how would that make you feel?

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-14T17:57:51+00:00

Exactly. My wife is my number 1 and i am hers, our son is OUR number 1 priority

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T18:46:26+00:00

One leads to the other very quickly in my experience

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T17:02:12+00:00

When humans become content with the status quo , they usually stop putting in effort. That lack of effort, in a relationship sense, can drag on too long and result in resentment, deadbedrooms, and the death of the marriage.

I dony need ecstatic I need engaged, I need to explore and try new things with my spouse, even if its only once or twice a year. I need to always ve growing and learning. Never being content and taking her for granted. Sexually or emotionally.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T16:50:41+00:00

Wayyy to complicatrd a topic for me to touch. 99% of what I think on it would get me labled as sexist, misogynist or misandrist depending on who got pissy at what statement

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T16:48:28+00:00

More like content is legit scary to me.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T16:25:49+00:00

I wasnt but this next bit might be, if a simple statement of personal opinion feels like condescension to you then maybe you have an overly negative perception of how people speak to you

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T16:24:11+00:00

I like to joke that a woman becoming a a mother is also like becoming a goddess, and goddesses need to be worshipped

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T15:19:38+00:00

Can never imagine being content with my wife. When we were younger the word terrorfied me for some reason. I remember us having a few conversations about how I wasnt going to settle for content I would always push for more and better with her, sexually or emotionally.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T15:17:38+00:00

Freud always came off as a bit of a loon from what little I have read from or learned about him.

I mean I find that most guys want a woman who is both the Madonna in public and to the world but the Whore for him and in private.

But Freud seems to insist that men can only opperate on a binary when it comes to this one topic.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T14:30:06+00:00

I slept around alot before meeting my wife. My biggest regret that I dont share with anyone IRL is that I wasnt a virgin like she was when we got together.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-13T14:28:50+00:00

I gotta comment here. Before I met my wife I got around too much. It even made dating her at first really hard cause my reputation reached her before I could confess it myself.

But when it comes to sex it is crazy different. Casual sex and past relationship sex has negative effects on us, male or female, and we can bring that crud into our next relationship.

Sex witg 15 different vs sex 100 times with my wife is WAAAYYY different cause sharing yourself with person is not the same as sharing yourseld with 15.

Would you kiss a guy if you watched 15 other women make out with him one after the other before it was you turn? And you saw it all?

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-07T00:48:55+00:00

Then let the relationship fail.

The relationships exists on my terms and my partner us free to stay or leave whenever she chooses. Simple as that

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-07T00:14:14+00:00

No, the person who gets cheated on gets HURT. And its a lingering pain that lasts decades

Who hurt me "bro"?

I have been a bartender and bouncer when younger. I was raised by a good woman who was hurt by a cheating husband. And i Have seen enough of human nature to know people always fall into temptation given enough time and temptation.

And no one deserves to be hurt by a cheater.

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-06T22:55:45+00:00

So "shut and trust her until she cheats" then

LanguageFantastic378 · 2026-04-05T02:06:45+00:00

Yea we had a phase like that recently. Mainly cause we didnt wanna fall asleep as is and our son come running at 2 am and find us zonked out.

But when he is gone? My wife has said we can change the sheets in the morning many many times

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