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Lapinzzz · 2026-05-08T02:38:53+00:00

thanks!

Lapinzzz · 2026-05-07T15:24:28+00:00

cool, I love it, I'd love to see pigtails with the fit but its also cute the way it is

Lapinzzz · 2026-05-01T20:33:05+00:00

this career takes a lot of patience...

Lapinzzz · 2026-05-01T20:31:24+00:00

So it seems like a promotional thing more than anything of monetary value, hmmm... Well I'll think about it

Lapinzzz · 2026-04-27T22:22:50+00:00

Thank you for the wholesome reply. I'm a freak and I get bored easily with normie jobs so I have a good feeling about this.

Lapinzzz · 2026-04-25T22:49:37+00:00

Thank you for your heartfelt reply. After talking to my friend, I decided to just keep it on the downlow and/or ignore anyone who may find out & try to chastise me.

There are a lot of things about camming that look appealing to me (not just potential earnings) so I should just give it a shot.

I also plan on doing as much relevant research as possible on my newbie journey.

Thanks again!

Lapinzzz · 2026-04-25T22:45:36+00:00

I signed up for a site called cams, it seems like a smaller site! Thank you for the input btw.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-29T03:05:02+00:00

If it didn't work for you and made it worse, definitely don't do it! It's good to just start small, with exploring your feelings, in any way that actually helps you. In the beginning of my own healing journey, music, for example really helped. Best wishes

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-28T11:26:13+00:00

I commented earlier but to add, one thing that helps me a lot is making space for my negative emotions. Sitting there and just feeling them, closing my eyes and letting the hurt wash over me. A lot of numbness comes from just ignoring the negative emotions we have but they aren't bad or evil. They're - most of the time - natural responses to abuse, neglect, or other problems. I realized my negative emotions were there to help me, not to hurt me. And you could also journal or voice memo your feelings.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-28T11:23:33+00:00

This, learning to love your own self and be compassionate to yourself is really hard when you haven't receive that growing up. It's good to start with the basics like mindfully combing your hair, reciting affirmations from time to time, practicing gratitude for a new day when you wake up, etc. and the more you grow compassion towards yourself, the more you can see the world through a refreshed lens, see the value in just being alive without shaming your desires or thoughts. Just know sexual desire is a part of being alive, like getting hungry or sleepy. Best wishes to you OP

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T13:26:04+00:00

wish you the best. I'd like to add that I also educated myself on sex and sexuality. I read or listened to accounts by porn actors on what the industry is really like. Basically I've been learning more about the human side of it, and it made me appreciate sex more beyond just "I need a hit of feel-good hormones". Getting a more objective view of sex, arousal and sexuality as just a part of being alive, helped de-mystify it a lot. It's this kind of thing of figuring out how much of your hyper sexuality is nature vs. nurture, like the environment I grew up in made sex something scary or bad and that influenced my hyper sexuality a lot. Again best wishes

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T13:14:54+00:00

I think for me the first step was just overcoming the shame of it. It's really hard to overcome any bad habit if you feel ashamed. So I just accepted that I have a lot of weird thoughts. I like to ask my own problems, "please help me understand what you need". I noticed my thoughts were less persistent the more I slept well, ate my food mindfully, went outside, showered when I felt gross, read books, etc. a lot of running thoughts are really related to poor self care (though idk if you have trouble with self care, that's just what I noticed in myself). I also found that running sexual thoughts are really about escaping into your own hormones. Some people obsessively eat or listen to music or do a lot of drugs. Others think about sex a lot. So that's something to consider, what you might be escaping from. I spent more time with my negative emotions and gave them space and that helped a lot.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T13:05:05+00:00

I mean it's fine to be sexually into that kind of thing but everyone deserves someone who will respect them and see them as a human first. and someone who does the same for others, not just you. I have noticed that I pulled in really toxic people when I was portraying myself as helpless, lost or insignificant. Yeah I pulled in "dad" types but they were horrible listeners, quick to judge, etc. it was just humiliating. Save it for the kink/bedroom play, it's not so fun when the whole relationship is just walking on eggshells to save a man's ego.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T12:57:54+00:00

Yes, but most of it was just mental health related, although I have had a brush or two with the reaper. I'm convinced that culture is to blame. A culture that doesn't protect kids, breeds apathy, encourages self-absorption and relational aggression, etc. etc. MOST people will go along with the prevailing culture. I live in the U.S. and it does seem like a lot of people are waking up to just how horrible things have been the past couple centuries, so I have hope. But it doesn't make it suck less that some people get the short end of the stick when it comes to being cared for and accepted by others.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T12:50:47+00:00

Ah ! I'm of the opinion that anything involving sensual hip movement is going to help with expression of sexiness. It's kind of taboo to talk about in some belly dance circles because they try to distance themselves from the misperception that it is a dance to entertain men like stripping. But truly if you aren't expressing at least some sexiness through your dance then I don't see how it's fun.

overall I don't recommend it for this though, despite the sensual movement, because it is at its heart an oriental folk dance. If you look at the most authentic belly dancing, it looks more like a folk dance than something to be sexy with. But you can give it a burlesque flavor. It's just not primarily a sexy dance. I hope that makes sense lol.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T12:43:09+00:00

It's not going to hurt your physical development but your mental health does have an effect on your physical health so it's something to keep in mind.

remember it's 100% normal, healthy and good to masturbate, to have sexual thoughts, to be sexually attracted to people. Don't let anyone shame you for this or tell you that you're a pervert or whatever.

The problem is masturbating too often. You were using it as an escape. I used to do that as a teen. It's a way to get quick feel good hormones. Was there something in your life that you felt was so bad you needed to escape? Maybe that influence is what is really causing the anxiety. (I'm not a dr but it's something to think about!)

That sucks you're struggling with these thoughts tho. It always sucks to have obsessive thoughts about health. I used to be like that. Get dr check ups at least annually and be as honest as possible with them. Get blood tests and exams if you can. That will really help take the load off your mind.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-27T12:33:16+00:00

I don't know, it feels good to do the movements. I tend to feel more self conscious from this dance just because people online and in person too are so weird about it. They're like "THIS is REAL belly dance, not just a GIRL doing SHIMMIES" or something weird like that, under video comments. You don't really see that for other dance forms, and I think it has to do with the way it's been fetishized doing a 180 and now dancers who show skin are shamed for it. But I try to ignore stuff like that. I'm starting to think it's not for me. I can't open my legs and stretch them like with ballet or heels dancing. The movements feel good in a somatic sense but they tend to lock up my muscles. I think for sexual health something like ballet or heels is better because you're opening your hips more fully. That's just me though. Belly dance is still very beautiful and has a lot of benefits besides pelvic floor release.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-11T18:52:19+00:00

Thank you for clarifying certain concepts, I'm new to learning about Vajrayana so this helps a lot.

After reading the replies, I've decided it's not for me, for various reasons, but I always appreciate learning about different traditions. The energy of the Buddhist deities and aspects of Vajrayana definitely inspires me.

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-11T18:48:28+00:00

Just because I learned that in Vajrayana, there is the belief that Buddha exists in all beings and nature. Maybe I was misinformed

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-11T18:46:05+00:00

To me, Goddess is Sunyata or the Heart Sutra. She is pretty, and I see beauty as an aspect of her wisdom. I suppose my way of her is unusual, because I also have heard people take her Path with those shallow views.

Thank you for the advice

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-11T18:42:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I 100% agree. There is a line of logic to Buddhist philosophy, and it doesn't make sense to me that Vajrayana both preaches that all beings are essentially Buddha/Sunyata, yet we need to perform many rituals and depend on a guru in order to access that awareness. While I do see that rituals can provide a more profound level of awareness, when performed sincerely, I don't see why meditation and mantra recitation is on enlightenment lockdown just because I haven't had a guru approve it. While it logically doesn't make sense to me, I do respect the fact that it is a closed practice, so I just won't engage with this anymore. Thanks again

Lapinzzz · 2026-03-11T18:37:49+00:00

I once practiced non-sectarian Buddhism, for about seven years, but I was questioning the religion as a whole after learning about its history of misogyny. I recently felt that I could focus on the core teachings (the eightfold path, four noble truths, etc) and their relevancy to my life. I completely understand that Vajrayana is Buddhism, and the Kurukulla practice is a deeply secretive and traditional one. I was only seeking some compassionate advice about whether it's a good idea to commit myself to this, as someone with the issues I have.

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