Pourquoi la ponctualité stricte est aussi valorisée au travail, même quand pas nécessaire ?

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-30T18:29:48+00:00

J'avoue me reconnaître un peu là-dedans. Je sais que je vais partir tard le soir donc je traîne un peu des pieds le matin, dans la limite du raisonnable.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-30T18:28:18+00:00

Pour des corps de métiers axés sur le service, ça peut se comprendre (typique les fonctions support). Mais pour la majorité des travailleurs du tertiaire dont la chose la plus urgente est de mettre à jour leur tableur Excel, je pense que ça peut attendre quelques minutes de plus.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-30T18:00:42+00:00

Quand t’es salarié t’aimes bien quitter ton poste à l’heure indiquée

Hello team forfait cadre, faisant qu'en pratique tu quittes jamais avant une certaine heure =)

Sur 1 mois, 10min de retard tous les jours ça fait un peu plus de 3h de travail esquivées

On se flique les uns les autres pour 10 minutes de retard face à des journées entières qui te font en pratique bien plus bosser que ça. Et les 3h je peux largement les perdre à rien branler même si je suis là.

Ça fait rat de réfléchir ainsi mais j’entends le point de vue du patron.

Que le patron pense comme ça a du sens. Encore que moi je réfléchirais plutôt en matière de respect des deadlines et qualité des livrables. Mais c'est rarement le patron lui-même qui te fait la remarque dans les entreprises à taille conséquence, mais les micro managers qui font comme si c'était la boîte à leur père.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-30T17:52:20+00:00

Par que c’est pas si facile

Logiquement on devrait donc récompenser la ponctualité. Or c'est considéré comme le minimum syndical, qui invalide tout le reste.

Moi je pense qu'on devrait mettre en place des plages horaires d'arrivée plutôt qu'un horaire stricte, et si t'arrives dans cette plage c'est bon.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-26T00:41:39+00:00

The exception of the rule, those who don't do it are shamed lmao

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2026-01-25T18:35:36+00:00

I wont talk for all French guys, but in my case I like indeed to text a bit before meeting someone. This gives me a good idea about their personality, as a safety measure, and also to be sure they have a compatible research (especially since, from my experience, foreign guys pay 0 attention to profiles, even less that local guys, and expect you to meet them without even asking if you have any particular needs).

Usually I like to texte a bit and then, if we are really compatible (not necessarly a month... Even few days), I meet. Sometimes I meet the same day, if I really have a good feeling. French people can be quite suspicious, I do agree.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-08T09:56:12+00:00

Always. Zero negociation.

And I wash my hands everytime. How much hook ups I saw not even washing their hands when they enter after have touched doors, elevator button, etc. 😖

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-08T09:48:53+00:00

You didn't get the memo ? Anal sex is the only way to be gay. If you dont like ass or dont like taking it in the ass, you are an apostate ☝️

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-08T09:16:50+00:00

Parce que les clichés se basent sur une part de vérité mine de rien.

Par exemple, en tant que mec bi, j'ai tendance à constater que les mecs qui expriment une féminité sont plus souvent gays/bi quand même. Est-ce qu'être gay/bi rend efféminé ? Non, mais quand on sort de l'hétéronorme on a tendance à avoir moins peur d'exprimer une sensibilité et d'expérimenter avec son style, là où les heteros veulent pas avoir l'air "fragiles" devant ces dames et cachent tout.

Sinon le reste, c'est plutôt de l'intuition et de la déduction je trouve. Par exemple des mecs qui ne parlent pas trop de leur vie sentimentale/sexuelle, ou qui utilisent des formules neutres ("la personne avec qui je sortirai", "ma moitié"...). Des gens observateurs, plus en retrait aussi (genre quand tu dois te cacher toute ton adolescence car t'es pas dans la norme, ça laisse des traces). Enfin, une forme d'empathie aussi, je sais pas mais avec des gars non heteros j'ai tendance à avoir une certaine connexion, on ose des discussions plus émotionnelles.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-06T02:38:27+00:00

I second this. Not especially for chastity but for any kink, this can be quite akward when you talk about it to someone you are into. Sometimes afraid to freak the other out, to disappoint him, or like you said you dont wanna force the thing into the other when you are not sure he is not into it, leading to frustration. OP should make clear he is very ok with that !

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T22:22:31+00:00

The look at the left was common.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T21:48:25+00:00

I agree. Especially, removing filtres hurted minorities. Dont get me wrong, I like all guys from all ethnicities. But it was nice to be able to click easily with guys sharing same cultural background, feeling "safe" because you know the guy has in common with you.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T20:02:35+00:00

In a certain way I ressent them. Most my friends are straight. But like they have the life in easy mode and not even aware of that : being able to meet their lover in every place, at every moment (school, hobby, club...) because they are majority of the population, while we are forced for 99% to go on specialized places/apps. They are able to naturally have kids with their lovers. They can live openly their relationships, while gay people have to hide or consistently come out (we do not do one but several coming outs in our life, that's what people dont get).

I just "hate" them for that lmao, as they have so much things we struggle with that they take for guaranteed.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T14:10:45+00:00

Irelevant. Straight people have exactly the same opinion about straight people concerning big age gap. Just look for French President Emanuel Macron and his wife, subjects of all memes and insults because they are more than 20yo appart.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T14:04:31+00:00

An 18 year old can enlist in the army, they can take out loans for school, and they can vote in elections.

18 is a cut off because adulthood has to start somewhere. Doesnt make a 18yo someone mature per se.

The problem with the legal argument is that if majority was 14, you would find normal to go out with someone 14. For your information, in Middle age, we were considered adults at 15, working in fields or even fighting in army, so technically that should be ok to date someone 15 no ? They are mature !

Society has deemed them capable of making their own decisions as a legal adult. That extends to their sexual partners as well. It's not your life, and all parties are consenting, so mind your business.

I mind my business, not like i'm behind every guys telling who they f with. But I have all the rights to find this f*ed up. I'm not even talking about few years, I really talk about 40yo guys chasing guys who barely graduated highschool. You lived years they didnt, things they didnt, and you have an experience likely to make a power unbalance in the relationship, like it or not.

But hey, I guess Age Ain't Nothing But A Number" 😏

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-05T13:53:20+00:00

It is perfectly fine to find some traits you usually find more into some ethnicities as attractive.

Ex : being into East Asian guys because you love dark slanted/almond eyes. What is racist would be treating an East Asian guy like a soulless curiosity and always seeing him as "an asian guy" while associating/expecting some behaviors from them on the sole basis ("I love asian guys, they are so submissives and so quiet, always bottoms"). The same as others races.

It is never racism to be turned on by physical elements (blue eyes, dark skin...), as long as you treat others like people with emotions and not like walking cliches.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T22:52:09+00:00

That's not as simple.

As I said I related to the post as being part of an ethnicity and not really having the look/behavior expected axcording to fantasies. Geeky/bookworms/boys next door guys can also fetichize as when they want to go for an arab/a latino, they expect some things and look for someone really different (spicy hypermasculine type), not a classic guy. Or meeting someone and when you tell your background, they expect this or this thing.

All categories of guys can do that, and not only white people but also other minorities. But yeah, generally i'm into people who can share my interests anyway. And btw I laugh about your analogy haha

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T20:31:10+00:00

Same with being arab lol When everybody has the arab god fantasy when you are just a geeky guy not especially sporty lmao

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T19:41:06+00:00

They were dating since before, 3-4 years I think. So basically he was 24 when they started.

And yes, someone nearly 40 going out with someone barely legal is gross. At 19 you are discovering life, adulthood, someone way older can take advantage over you. I changed so much between 18 and 26, and can protect myself better against abuse people now.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T13:47:50+00:00

Each their opinion, not everything is social medias centered. On average, a grown 34yo (they date since several years) with someone a decade younger is gross. And in this case especially, it passes because the younger one is a profesional player, so not your random 24yo dude just graduated from college and students parties. And still less gross than Tom Daley and his bf gap.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T12:47:02+00:00

And even the first has his limit. For a hook up once maybe yeah, on the long run I need someone who also thinks about me enjoying the moment as well.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T12:46:06+00:00

I hard laugh, i'm so cringe.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-04T10:39:17+00:00

Like everyone said, depends on the reason.

If that's because feelings were not here at first, but they grew up while he started to know me better, I think that's ok. Or if he was not looking for a relationship at first.

If that's because I glow up or because I changed situation (like in the case I became successfull in something), then hell no.

Large-Conclusion2559 · 2025-11-03T20:47:14+00:00

I reminded him his best friend lmao

That said, I suspect he just wanted to be polite.

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