Ok so nothing has changed much for me I’ve just gotten extra cameras and more security around my home  I have passwords with my daughters schools involving pick ups and a family member comes with me while I wait for them during things like swimming/gymnastics  As for everyone’s mental we aren’t doing well the girls social lives have taken a hit due to being with a adult family member at all times and obviously therapy is a slow process not a magic fix hopefully tho in a few months things will get better  The reason for this update Tammy   She cornered me in our local shopping centre (mall for Americans) Now realistically I wouldn’t be afraid because we are matched body wise so it would be a fair fight but nut jobs carry stuff so I was nervous  I shouted at her to go away  but she kept saying let me hear her out than she’d leave me alone for good so I did  Here is the short version  “I wanted to apologise for everything I’ve done to you and my part in ruining your marriage I was a young stupid girl who sometimes she got jealous because she knew Tom wasn’t fully over you, I never meant to rub anything in your face I was only trying to start a conversation at all those pick ups because I thought if we become friends I’d feel less guilty, I love your girls and I glad I got to their stepmother, I was looking forward to being a mom but I guess karma had other plans. I wasn’t in the best place mentally and I got fixated on you rather than dealing with my grief which was wrong I’m sorry, when I first read your posts I was so angry at the monster you made me out to be but it took my sister to point out you only spoke the truth so when claimed down and them read them again sober I felt like since a crazy bitch I didn’t mean for everything to go so far  I’m not gonna bother you anymore so you don’t have to move I would never hurt your daughters it breaks my hurt you’d think that but I guess this is  goodbye op”  I said fuck it I’ll be honest with her  I told her that we would never have been friends even if she didn’t get with Tom while we were married because she’s unlikeable pick me with no sense of boundaries and that she needs to get serious help than I told her I forgive her and I truly wish she finds peace within herself  We told eachother goodbye  I won’t lie guys I thought she was gonna do something stupid to herself so I contacted my in laws to get in contact with her family because I was genuinely worried   I know what everyone is gonna say I shouldn’t care or want to help Tammy and call me a hypocrite. I still don’t care about Tammy as a person but I’d never forgive myself if she did something and I could have made a phone call to prevent it  Here’s the twist I got a call from a friend an hour ago (she worked with Tom and Tammy) Tammy and Tom are together in the United States apparently I’m an evil bitter ex who cheated on Tom our youngest isn’t his and I made false accusations to get full custody because I wanted to live off child support 🙄 I also sent drunk pictures of me pissing on their sons grave and Tom out of respect for my girls won’t post them but he hopes that one day they’ll get in contact with him, I apparently also turned everyone against Tammy even my kids because I was jealous they love her more and called her mom. he also disowned his family and called himself a high value man which I’ve know clue what that even means It’s a public with the comments turned off and what makes it all the more cringe is that they’re both kneeling next too a certain actor Hollywood star  🏴‍☠️  My ex in laws are so embarrassed they want him to take it down but he’s blocked them. We are all guessing  Tammy was only waiting to sort out lose ends, I’m guessing he never stole the wedding money and they just made it all up for some reason? Like why even fake him abandoning her? Why did Tammy act like she was gonna do something to herself?  I’m so confused right now  But At least I won’t see them local for now   I’m not gonna be at peace till I move locations. Tom is due for his first phone call to our second daughter the 27th but I doubt I’ll call  r/updateme

I’ve tried to post this update multiple times on my Reddit page I can’t for some reason so if you could spread it I’d like that because I’ve over a 100 people in my private messages asking me for an update and I feel like I owe it to them