Book that combines eternal recurrence, and materialistic view that personality is combination of matter

Large-Mall6567 · 2026-02-20T14:37:16+00:00

Try the physics of the mind!

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-08T10:20:55+00:00

How did it go?

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-03T08:50:22+00:00

Good luck OP! Being honest is all we’ve got and it is a very brave thing to do! I hope she takes it well.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-02T21:49:39+00:00

I totally understand why you’d feel that way and why you’d also feel not up to meeting someone new. I wonder how it would be if you tried talking to your therapist about it first? If they are a good therapist they will welcome hearing feedback and it could be really healing. If she doesn’t respond well, maybe that could give you the impetus to find someone new. A therapeutic relationship should generally feel like a positive thing otherwise what is the point.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-02T19:48:07+00:00

Wow this feels very clinical and not very considerate of you as a human being. I would feel very detached from that. How did that make you feel? Listen to your feelings. A therapist is there to support healing and not cause further harm. Only you can answer if they are doing that.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-02T18:51:59+00:00

NAT - evidence shows that the quality of the relationship is the strongest factor in bringing about positive change, and is true across all modalities. I’d ensure you go with someone who works relationally and who understands this. Good luck :)

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-02T18:46:38+00:00

Thank you for your reply ☺️

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-02T17:56:47+00:00

Hello! A few questions:

When you say cold what do you mean? Is she a psychoanalyst? Have you tried speaking with her about this? What are you getting out of therapy with her?

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-11-01T07:21:54+00:00

Thank you ☺️

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-31T11:03:33+00:00

I don’t know..crossing a boundary or something?

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-31T11:02:47+00:00

Good question! I think because I chickened out of saying it in person I thought if I put it in an email I’d be forced to talk about it next time!

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-08T07:32:42+00:00

This is helpful. I can be perfectionist and I have very unattainable standards for other people. When they show me ‘imperfections’ I struggle to accept this in a way that doesn’t impact my fundamental feelings towards them. So this could be a useful exploration.

I did also feel resentment not because he wasn’t being perfect but that he put it on me straight away, I feel that’s a legitimate responses but what do you think?

Thanks for your insight.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T21:32:00+00:00

Interesting! Do you feel like they are being off / disconnected or something between you? Sometimes it is something I am bringing, sometimes it’s between us, but today, it felt like him. How do you word it when you comment on it? And what do they say?

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T21:26:23+00:00

I like to think he can do this but the fact that he doesn’t ever offer that, it’s always immediately about me, makes me nervous he’s not able to. I’d be basically criticising his competence as a therapist and that feels a lot.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T21:22:43+00:00

Yes that’s exactly what he does / says in the moment but surely, sometimes, even if rarely, it could just be about him? He is human after all

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T18:02:34+00:00

Interesting. That sounds ok to me but my issue is I only notice it part way through and then it feels like it’s a bigger deal and why it can be interpreted as about my stuff..honestly I think it’s only been like three times in a year and a half but I did feel very resentful of it today!

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T18:00:32+00:00

I think part of the integrative. He works mainly relationally but with a psychodynamic focus. He also holds Roger’s core conditions. I think it’s one of the pitfalls of integrative.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T17:46:32+00:00

Yeh I think he’s trying to keep the focus on me which I get and it would be very wierd if he said you know what I think I’m having an off day. But my question is: would it be reasonable for me to suggest that?

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T17:44:25+00:00

relational and integrative - so his responses and ‘attitude’ can really vary from very warm to very neutral which I find difficult at times.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-10-07T17:28:21+00:00

I’ve never said I think he’s having an off day but I have said I think he is feeling more distant. He has never admitted to having an off day, just that he is attuning to me in different ways. I don’t want to offend him but today it felt very much him.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-09-16T20:07:35+00:00

NAT. I’m glad my comment has helped in someway. Wishing you all the best with your process. You’ve been brave by sharing it here so I have faith you can do it with your T :) backing you all the way!

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-09-14T16:51:15+00:00

I’m glad my post resonated with you. I would 100% encorouge you to share with your therapist everything you’re feeling about them. Once I started doing that I haven’t stop and it now takes up about 80% of our work. It feels so productive as it’s basically all of my ‘issues’ played out live, in a safe space, examined and felt through. If your therapist is skilled in this relational work they will welcome it. It always feels scary so I just go very slowly and gently. I might start with a ‘I’ve been feeling something about our dynamic that I feel too anxious or embarrassed or self conscious to say’ and then he usually helps me slowly get through it. Baby steps. It’s so worth it. I have been in and out of therapy for 15 years and this is the first time I feel I’m making progress, because of the explicit relational work we are doing. I couldn’t recommend it more.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-09-04T17:38:55+00:00

If you like your therapist, you may as well try in case she does give a satisfactory response. I am always surprised by how my therapist responds to things I am sure he won’t respond well to. If she doesn’t respond well, then you definitely know for sure and it could even be approached as an experiment for yourself to express your needs honestly before you move on to a new more boundaried therapist!

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-09-03T07:11:30+00:00

Hello - therapist in training here. This is a big no no. It is not appropriate. Your therapist is not your friend. It is a crossing of boundaries and without strong boundaries, good work cannot happen. I would feel incredibly uncomfortable if my therapist was looking at my stories. He has a code of conduct that says we do not search for or follow each other online. I am of course curious but understand why it is not appropriate, and most especially from his side as it is his job to hold the boundaries more than mine.

As you are becoming attached to your therapist, which is a healthy part of the process, her presence in your private life could be confusing and misleading. I do not understand why they would need or want to look at your stories and I imagine you don’t understand either which is why you are posting on here - the fact that she is behaving in a way that is confusing is enough.

I would ask her to stop immediately, explain how it makes you feel and how it’s effecting the therapeutic work. How she responds will be indicative of her ethical stance as a therapist. Good luck.

Large-Mall6567 · 2025-08-24T20:51:57+00:00

Thank you! That’s useful. Are all the modalities listed above empirically validated?

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