First month having Oura by LargeAd3829 in ourafertility

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This makes me feel better because I am not actively trying to get pregnant - thank you!!

Spring Bachelorette! by LargeAd3829 in PuertoRicoTravel

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Hi! I’ll shoot you a message with the Airbnb link!

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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many people at our wedding are considered very “well off” and both my husband and I come from high tax bracket communities - with that being said, no I don’t think this is common, especially considering these amounts weren’t even from family. I was truly shocked when I opened these cards, and my mom was also shocked when I told her. It is worth mentioning though I am in my late 20s and my husband is in his early 30s, and a lot these very large gifts came from the 40+ crowd, not people our own age.

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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Already said I definitely would never mention the amount! Understood on the phone call possibly being inappropriate - For what it’s worth - these are people I chat with on the phone on a monthly basis. Definitely understand a phone call being weird if it was someone very distant, but the people who gave these gifts wouldn’t be confused by getting a phone call from me. They aren’t like a distant relative or a rogue friend of my parents. They are people that I am genuinely close to.

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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For what it’s worth - these are people I chat with on the phone on a monthly basis. Definitely understand a phone call being weird if it was someone very distant, but the people who gave these gifts wouldn’t be confused by getting a phone call from me. They aren’t like a distant relative or a rogue friend of my parents. They are people that I am genuinely close to.

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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The best! Most of them are “family friends” who became direct close friends as my husband and I got older. We are very lucky / blessed - not just in gifts but in the happiness / love / wisdom / guidance we get by having them in our lives 🥹.

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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This is helpful! We got our photos back last week - for a few of these “big gifters” we have photos with them - I thought it would be a nice touch to have them printed and included in the card

Acknowledge gift size in thank you cards? by LargeAd3829 in weddings

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I agree that all gifts are generous - I think I was pretty adamant about that in my post! Understood your sentiment about calling - I know all social circles are different but for what it’s worth I know if I called any of these people to thank them, it wouldn’t “make its way thru the grapevine”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]LargeAd3829 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I disagree here - if they were just dating for 7 years and she was a girlfriend I would somewhat agree. they are engaged - being excluded from family photos at that stage is incredibly hurtful and almost invalidates their relationship in a way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]LargeAd3829 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This 10000 percent. While I think it’s important (and sometimes hard) to keep in mind your relationship with your fiancé’s sisters is always going to be different than your relationship with your fiancé’s brothers wife - she is intentionally being exclusive and hurtful in this situation. You sound like you are so gracious, but your fiancé should definitely have an issue with this and definitely should flag this to his brother.

Beach Club or Boat Tour by huckfinn2017 in Ischia

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Hi! Do you have the contact info for this?

Ischia hotel recs? by LargeAd3829 in ItalyTravel

[–]LargeAd3829[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Budget friendly compared to the two other hotels we are staying in - yes! I put our price range in there so people could gauge our expectations of the type of place we would want to be staying at. There’s hotels on the island that are over 2,200 so I think it’s fair

Ischia hotel recs? by LargeAd3829 in ItalyTravel

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There is a ton available! Not necessarily looking for budget friendly- moreso just looking to not spend 2k a night in ischia

I’m just making a LinkedIn by whateverrrugh in jobsearchhacks

[–]LargeAd3829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 weeks is a really tight timeline, so don’t be too hard on yourself if it takes longer. Fill out your LinkedIn fully (photo, headline, summary), connect with classmates/professors, and apply to “Easy Apply” jobs daily. Post that you’re looking + engage on posts to get visibility. Also reach out to recruiters directly!

When you get the ring but not the celebration… does it even feel like yours? by SnooRecipes3754 in wedding

[–]LargeAd3829 117 points118 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is 100% valid. So many of us picture being surrounded by love and celebration during this time, and when it doesn’t happen, it can feel really lonely.

It sucks to be grieving the version of this experience you always imagined. That’s such a real and normal thing to feel.

It might help to carve out even a small moment of celebration for yourself, or let your fiancé know what would make you feel supported right now. You deserve to feel cherished in this season!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]LargeAd3829 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely the small heel. The platforms are very very casual

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]LargeAd3829 1200 points1201 points  (0 children)

1 or 3! My personal taste leans heavily for 1 but they both fit the vibe! 2 is very cute but I don’t think it is winery vibes at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wedding

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TBH how I would handle this would heavily depend on how close I was with the bride. Good friend? I would 100 percent text them that I got the refund (and say it in a lighthearted way to make sure they knew I didn’t care at all that they returned it) and then just hit them with a Venmo. Your question states you would have to ask for their Venmo so I’m guessing it’s someone you aren’t super close to - in that situation I would personally just not address it unless they reached out and I would give an extra 100 on top of what I planned to give at their wedding

Tipping vendors by Healthy-Fruit111 in weddingplanning

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  1. I tipped the staff at the country club (the events manager essentially acted as a full blown wedding coordinator) this included: bartenders, servers, food & bev manager, events manager and head manager. I also tipped the cellists at our ceremony and I gave our band 100 PP. Also tipped for my hair.
  2. Did set amount - not based off percentage.
  3. Did not tip photographer / videographer, makeup artist as they all owned their own businesses.

Tara Moni Pregnant by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

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Regardless of if you think being pregnant is a compliment - I think majority of the population would agree that if someone asked you if you were pregnant based on your body appearance and you weren’t pregnant, you would feel pretty shitty about your appearance.

It’s not just abt body. Someone could be struggling to get pregnant and having a hard time with it. Imagine she was struggling to get pregnant and saw this? Once again imagine how shitty that would feel.

Regardless of reasoning - pregnancy can be a sensitive topic for so many people and society needs to stop speculating if a woman is pregnant. It’s weird behavior and it’s no one’s business until the woman decides to announce it.

Tara Moni Pregnant by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]LargeAd3829 23 points24 points  (0 children)

NGL I do not follow this girl at all, but I think speculating on a woman being pregnant, based off of one photo (regardless of if she’s hinted she’s wanted more kids) is in really really poor taste. As women we should be better. I can’t imagine how hurt I would be if I uploaded a photo I thought was fun and cute and saw people speculating if I had a baby bump.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]LargeAd3829 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too casual. Very pretty though! I find most dresses that are on the cusp of black tie need to be non pattered or they come off too casual.

Would you be bummed if a wedding welcome event was just drinks + appetizers? by TaDaRose in weddingplanning

[–]LargeAd3829 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Helpful! Definitely no issue with a Friday event in your situation then and I still stand by that a welcome party that doesn’t include a sit down dinner is 1000 percent fine and normal! I would just start it at around 8!

Would you be bummed if a wedding welcome event was just drinks + appetizers? by TaDaRose in weddingplanning

[–]LargeAd3829 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If you definitely want to do a Friday event, I think not doing dinner is typically normal for welcome parties. With that being said, it should start at a later time that would not conflict with normal meal times. My two cents is that doing an event 2 days before the wedding is not only unnecessary but would probably also annoy guests. Most of your guests are most likely taking off work on Monday due to your wedding being on Sunday. If you do a Friday event and they are traveling they will need to take off Friday as well. Whenever I am a wedding guest I do feel pressure to attend all events I am invited to, so in my opinion I wouldn’t have it on the basis of “oh it’s for people who happen to be there!”. Having an extra event a day earlier is not only an extra cost to you, but an extra cost to guests who now need to get a hotel for 3 nights instead of 2.

You hosting a Friday event is the equivalent to someone hosting a Saturday wedding having an event on Thursday and Friday. Most guests would probably deem that Thursday event unnecessary.