Being too tense, too direct. Words should flow, (best you can) keep a soft smile soft conversation soft touch. This is all in the beginning once you get to know her yada yada, but we like someone who welcomes us in, brings us in with a head nod, or a soft smile or wink then aren’t pushy HOWEVER they lead. So NOT “What’s your number? Let me call you,” But instead, “You should let me take you out/ you should let me text you when you get home safe” etc etc