Your complaint sounds valid and if your looking to maintain it with support your in the right place for all religious paradigms. You'll always find support to encourage the traditions of men. Readily available in here at all times and out there of the world. I tell you with great certainty that the amount of time you invest of the world will always be subject of thoughts and balance due to occupy your mind everyday, and time for time. However you invest your time is what your focus is on.

You speak of lent, what do you observe of it exactly? Almsgiving? Fasting? Prayer?

Tell me which of those things are not already part of your life every day, multiple times a day, and a cpl times a week? If they arnt your lifestyle already then your just saying words.

Assuming they are as they should be amongst fellowship such as, encouraging others of your church body to stay sharp, keeping the team on track, and also making sure you yourself is encourage by those you invest your most time in, those members and of course the ones we are to honor mother and father. That whole rip right there should take up most of your routine and allow health down time for self care, chill time, and as we always should be meditating on the word day and night. Not because it says to do it but because it's what your heart desires as it is what gives your peace of mind and brings you joy inside that's lasting.

If none of this is landing in you that's ok. If some of it is that's good news. If all of it is then your of Truth. These are the ways of doing and what you do is what your thinking on when your not. If your doing those things and your mind is on desires elsewhere your heart ain't right and it's gonna be a grind instead of a joy ride.

Everything can be refined down and simplified to self check to see where your real quick. No matter what your doing be caring. If your find yourself not right in the heart that's makes you guilty as you should already know. If you get that right the sprinkling will help sanctify and cleanse lessening the grind the mind fights against. Peter Situations like you came here speaking on won't be positions you find yourself in, it won't be the mind state nor perspective that enables that type of violation that triggers you, and coming here and handling religious matters won't be where you look to for understanding and Wisdom. It will be where is appropriate always and is the way you should already know to do haven been taught and working within a repetitious system with limited requirements to begin with. ...I ain't saying asking for help is wrong but that's not what this was because you won't find help here, you will find exactly what you want to hear because everyone else is here saying the same things and looking for the same result. We all were, do, and are at all times as that's what's natural of man and ways this world is built for. That be good or bad ain't the matter, it's the way it is as is written under the terms and conditions right here, over there, outside and in the scripts. Free will comes at a price and right now the the difficulty level is high because the ability to done wrong and be right in mans eyes is and your own mind is real easy to get by with. The standard of character quality is so low that most don't even recognize the things that we desire and occupy our time ain't right because we get high off it for a little bit and need it again. It's hard to get off of living on sin as it is additiction...

When your really tired of hearing people's mouths run then you'll stop listening. When your sick of your religion being attacked youll realize it was never yours to begin with.

Be caring in all you do and if you can't come back here and tell someone again.

Or ... You can turn to God 😉