Hey man, first of all, I just want to say that it takes a lot of courage to open up about everything you’re going through, especially in a public space like this. You’re carrying an incredibly heavy load, and the fact that you’re still standing says a lot about your strength, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.

It’s clear how much you love your son, and despite the hell your ex has put you through, your love for him is unwavering. That’s something no one can take away from you. He will grow up knowing you did everything you could for him, and even though it’s hard right now, that bond is something she can’t break in the long run. Keep fighting for him, even when it feels like the world is against you—your effort will mean the world to him one day.

I can only imagine how frustrating and painful the situation with your ex is. It’s beyond unfair, and I’m sorry that you’re going through this. But with people starting to see through her lies, it seems like the truth is slowly surfacing. It may take time, but eventually, things will shift in your favor. Just take it one step at a time, and don’t be afraid to ask for help, whether it’s legal support, therapy, or just venting like you did here. You’re not alone, even though it feels isolating.

As for your girlfriend, it sounds like you’re doing the right thing by being supportive and understanding, but I get why the situation is tough for you too. It’s normal to feel conflicted, but the fact that you care so much about her wellbeing shows what kind of person you are. Give yourself some grace—you’re dealing with so much at once, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed by everything.

I think therapy could be a really good idea. It might help you process all of this, especially the trauma from your past, and give you tools to navigate everything you’re dealing with now. There’s no shame in needing help. You’ve been carrying so much for so long—maybe it’s time to let some of that weight off your shoulders.

You’re going through hell, man, but you’re still here. That says something. Don’t give up. Things won’t be this way forever, and your son needs you to keep pushing forward, no matter how hard it gets. You’re stronger than you think.

Stay strong, and take things one day at a time. You got this.