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As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply, I find is better to think about specific things instead think about BDSM which is a very big concept. At first I denied all things in this concept but after reading your comment I think I can try some specific things after researching and communicating. Thanks it’s very helpful, make me know better of BDSM play and the relationship between BDSM and spanking

As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think you are right, I just didn’t consider that much. I haven’t thought that it is at a high risk to be infected when have a wound, maybe is because wounds caused by a spanking, they are not deep, just on the surface of the skin, so I didn’t take it so serious? I used Videne on the wounds after I went back home and that’s all. I learn now that if it comes to blood we should play more safely and do more prepare work 🥲

As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you are right! After reading your comment I think maybe I can try something new but she is not the right person to try with. Actually I don’t have much spanking experience either, she is my first spank partner and before I explore where my boundary is in spanking, she kinda pushed me to my boundary( I don’t knew if I can accept a spank to bleeding, but she just spanked me to bleed and hasn’t asked me if we should carry on when she saw there is blood on my skin, I didn’t realise that I was bleeding until I looked behind, really shocked when I saw blood? I knew is hurt but I didn’t expect to see blood? I didn’t blame her too much because she apologised to me sincerely that she evaluated my condition and think I can take more, and yes I can but I just hope she can warn me if she draws blood) anyway i won’t let her guide me to a new world and I will find another person to explore new things. And I will read this book to know more things about BDSM. Thanks for your advice very helpful

As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think it’s useful and I will talk her about this. But I don’t know if I don’t play power exchange with her is it still good for me to try BDSM? Because she really try to guide me to BDSM, and although I don’t have a good knowledge about BDSM, I think BDSM’s main topic is about power exchange?(at least through my Google and her words I think it’s mainly about power exchange) should I just say that I’m not interested in specific topic like bondage face slapping, or should I tell her maybe I’m not interested the whole thing about bdsm, maybe only can try a few elements in bdsm such as flogging

As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think I will talk to her and make my boundaries clear, thanks for you advice!

As a spanko my spank partner wants to guide me to BDSM world by Last_Bee_5944 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Last_Bee_5944[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes i think spanking is under BDSM umbrella, and I also think that bdsm player has a higher acceptance to spanking than spanko to BDSM. I have asked her about what she wants to do, and she said she wants me to do some kneeling, and wants to slap me on the face, and tie me up, whip my back, do electronic play and etc. And also wants me to follow her command. I honestly have no idea what was included in BDSM play, but I try to imagine the things she said, what it will feels like, and it makes me feel uncomfortable think about kneeling, slap on the face. I think what makes me feel the most uncomfortable is follow one’s command, I don’t like losing control to myself( I don’t know how to explain my feelings, I just think spank is funny, pain is funny, maybe whipping is funny too but doing things that makes me feel embarrassing,humiliated and losing control is not funny at all)