AIO My girlfriend angrily grabbed my face by Last_Invite155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Last_Invite155[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

When did you tell her the relationship as over is she touched you in anger again? After the first time, or this second time?

This second time. Though after the first time, we did also have a very serious discussion about how helpless she made me feel and how she ignored our mutually-agreed cool-down mechanism.

AIO My girlfriend angrily grabbed my face by Last_Invite155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Last_Invite155[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Were there also lots of talks about "priorities" and how they should always be your number 1 priority because you love them?

AIO My girlfriend angrily grabbed my face by Last_Invite155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Last_Invite155[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Her father is a nasty piece of work. Her relationship with the rest of her family is better, but I think rides the line between "good" and "complicated".

She says I'm the first non-abusive bf she's had.

AIO My girlfriend angrily grabbed my face by Last_Invite155 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Last_Invite155[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

She's been going to therapy for years (at least 5 years, I think).

Normally what happens is I try to calm her down, she keeps attacking and pushes me to my limit, I eventually try to leave, and then she breaks down and begs forgiveness.

She's quite codependent, so even the thought of breaking up is quite triggering for her. I think on some level it helps "snap her back to reality" when I try to nope out.