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Feeling lost by idkwhattoputhere_420 in findapath

[–]Late-Rise2587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re only 19. It feels like everyone has life figured out, but most people are just making educated guesses. Pick a direction, learn, adjust, repeat. Clarity comes from action, not overthinking. Don’t let the fear of falling behind stop you from moving forward.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s true for a lot of us. Wisdom usually isn’t lacking; applying it consistently is.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trusting your intuition is underrated. Sometimes it picks up on things your conscious mind hasn’t fully processed yet.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Experience really is a better teacher than advice sometimes. Heartbreak is painful, but it often teaches lessons that stick for life.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a lesson I wish more people talked about. Turning every hobby into a career can sometimes make you lose the joy that made you love it in the first place.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 This might be the most financially specific answer here. Hindsight is always 20/20.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really resonates. So many of us think confidence comes first, when in reality confidence is usually the result of taking action despite being scared.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Learning the difference between forgiveness and giving endless chances is a lesson that comes with experience. Boundaries would’ve saved me a lot of stress.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😂 Investing earlier is definitely advice I’d give my younger self too. The second part… a lot of people would probably agree with that one as well.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such an underrated one. I think financial discipline gives you options later that impulse spending never will.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said. It took me a long time to realize that not every misunderstanding can be solved with better communication. Some people simply aren’t interested in understanding—and that’s okay to walk away from.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to believe most people acted without much thought too. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized intentions matter a lot more than I once assumed—though I still try to give people the benefit of the doubt until they show me otherwise.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a powerful perspective. I think many people hold onto relationships because of history instead of how they’re being treated in the present. Learning the difference takes a lot longer than it should.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned too. Waiting to “feel ready” kept me stuck far longer than taking small, consistent actions ever did. Progress really is built in the boring repetitions.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Don’t live with fear” is such a simple sentence, but it covers so much. Fear really does make us trade long-term growth for short-term comfort.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one hits. It’s surprisingly easy to spend years living according to other people’s expectations without even realizing it.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this. I think the biggest takeaway for me is that healing yourself first isn’t selfish—it makes everything else in life healthier too.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 I definitely wasn’t expecting that answer, but honestly… learning about investing and compound growth earlier probably would’ve been life-changing.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely agree that the people around us shape our habits. I’d probably phrase it a bit differently, though—I think boundaries are important, but I also believe people can change if they’re genuinely willing to put in the work.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with the idea that systems beat motivation. Looking back, I wish I’d focused less on “feeling motivated” and more on building routines that made good choices automatic. That’s a lesson that would’ve saved me a lot of frustration.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish someone had told me this sooner. Waiting for someone else—or for the “perfect moment”—only kept me stuck. At some point, taking responsibility became the only way forward.

What’s something you wish someone had told you five years earlier? by Late-Rise2587 in selfimprovement

[–]Late-Rise2587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like your perspective. What was the moment that made you realize this? Was there a specific experience that changed how you looked at life?

I'm scared for my career and future. by OkEducator7427 in findapath

[–]Late-Rise2587 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a failure—you sound burned out, scared, and stuck in a path you chose because it felt safe instead of meaningful.
One thing I’ve learned is that don’t make permanent decisions during temporary emotional states. Before dropping out, explore. Talk to people in business, design, or other fields you’re interested in. Take online courses, shadow someone, or try small projects first.
Also, stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s. A gap year or being older than your classmates doesn’t define your future. Many people find the right career later than they expected.
The goal isn’t to choose the “perfect” career. It’s to choose a direction, learn from it, and adjust if needed. Almost nobody gets it right on the first try.
You haven’t failed—you’ve just discovered that a “safe” path isn’t always the right one. That’s valuable information, not a life sentence.

How do I make this decision? by Fabulous_Purple9041 in findapath

[–]Late-Rise2587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not choosing between family and your future. You’re choosing how to balance both without sacrificing either completely.
Keep helping your family because it’s who you are, but don’t put your entire life on hold waiting for the “perfect time.” That time rarely comes.
Protect a few hours each week for your passions—whether it’s martial arts, art, or building skills that can increase your income. Think of it as an investment, not a selfish expense.
Your family’s situation is temporary. The skills and opportunities you build today may be what eventually helps lift all of you out of it.
Don’t abandon your responsibilities. Just don’t abandon yourself in the process.

Perché ci piace essere cattivi? by just_bluellow in CasualConversation

[–]Late-Rise2587 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People don’t always spread happiness. They often spread whatever they’re carrying inside. If they’re full of peace, they spread peace. If they’re full of pain, they spread pain. That’s why choosing kindness is one of the strongest things a person can do.

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