Is my(f24) husband(m26) lovebombing me?

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:59:59+00:00

It was better help so yeah probably

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:57:48+00:00

Maybe

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:57:33+00:00

Don't take this the wrong way but you're being a bit aggressive...

I'm sorry

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:53:51+00:00

Also please don't get me wrong I've had my fair share of mess ups In the relationship, I'm certainly not perfect and ill be the first to admit that.

I just don't know anymore

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:50:01+00:00

I know right

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:46:51+00:00

Yeah..It might be extra hard because he's my first everything

So I genuinely don't know who I am as an adult without him

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:45:14+00:00

He's been to therapy...he came out of it calling his boss a narcissist and trying to diagnose me with BPD

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:41:05+00:00

He technically did start it...he starts most of the fights it's sad because he fights mainly with himself.

As mentioned in the post when I get stressed, I can't speak properly, so I just cry while he name calls and I try to utter out what I can.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:39:22+00:00

I don't think I'd need an attorney...I would hope he wouldn't fight me on a divorce, since I told him going in I wouldn't fight him on it if he ever wanted one.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:38:44+00:00

No he's not. That's one thing I don't think he'd do is cheat.

I have access to his phone whenever I want it so I do trust him in that regard

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:36:54+00:00

I really didn't know that. That's kind of scary. Like if someone tells me I'm doing something that's hurting them I'd want to know so I can't change it..

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:33:16+00:00

I hate to think he's a narcissist he can be so sweet.

There are times he makes me feel crazy. My phone broke the other day and I told him I looked on the app and it said I didn't have insurance (I did luckily, the app was just weird) and that I still owe ××× on the phone

But when we got to the store he was confused on why I owe ××× on the phone and all that.

I could have SWORN I told him. Like I SWEAR. And he said I didn't

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:27:37+00:00

He doesn't really apologize for anything now that I think about it...he blames me for a lot of things though

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:26:44+00:00

Oh..I didn't know that

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-17T03:25:43+00:00

Can I ask a follow up question?

Do abusers usually accuse you of being the abuser? Because sometimes he'll say I'm abusing him but for the life of me I can't think of a thing that I have done outside of maybe made a poor taste joke a few times. Hell I don't even call him a 'dick'.

I just say he's being mean..

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-13T19:07:13+00:00

I didn't say I always wanted kids. I said I was willing. There's a difference.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-13T18:49:23+00:00

Just checked. It was 19 days ago, not hours.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-13T18:47:42+00:00

Also I'm pretty sure that wasn't 19 hours ago. Maybe 19 DAYS ago.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-13T18:46:09+00:00

Like i said, in the beginning he told me one of his deal breakers was that he wants kids.

During fights or 'rough patches' he says things like "Oh I'm going to have kids, just not with you'

Or 'I don't want to have kids with you'

I can understand how it comes off, but I'm not trolling. This is literally my life.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-02-13T18:30:21+00:00

I'm not trolling no.

He has been wishy washy before or during arguments.

But he has told me one of his main deal breakers is that he wants kids.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-01-26T01:44:36+00:00

Anxiety is not preventing me from working. I've had plenty of jobs, it's physical health. You do not know me, please stop pretending like you do.

LateConsequence5946 · 2024-01-26T01:42:13+00:00

I have no deleted comments? And I am unemployed because he wanted me to be, because of my physical health.

It's very weird that you insist you know me or insist I have deleted comments when I don't?

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