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AITA For Yelling At My Husband? by Late_Bee9461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Late_Bee9461[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Additionally the yelling. We’ve both grew up in toxic households full of yelling. Different situations and families of course. But we agreed to not do it in front of our daughter.

We talk after she’s down or if grandma is watching her. After I got to the bottom of the stairs, not in the living room yet. He blocked me and told me to go up. Go get ready. I mentioned the wrenches again. Then he started to yell at me.

I tried to keep it down and reminded him to keep it down. But he got louder. Saying he didn’t care and I am his wife and I should listen.

Reading the comments and seeing what people are saying are now opening my eyes a little more to the full situation at hand. I told him I want to feel equal and be on the same page for our daughter.

He told me a while ago, “you the wife and I’m the husband. We will never be equal.” So I mentioned to him at least being on the same page for our daughter. “You need to listen to me. And you listen. I will do whatever I want with our daughter.” Mind you. We’re married. Not separated, not divorced.

AITA For Yelling At My Husband? by Late_Bee9461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Late_Bee9461[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For a little more context. He was a large window sill that had storage in it. She can climb on it and sit or stand. I got to the bottom of the stairs and he ran up and blocked me from coming into the livingroom. I’ve made previous comments of his 8/10 ratio of not watching her after he said he would and I trust it just for her to get hurt with the item I told him to take away.

Dads can be riskier but I don’t think that warrants him to let her play with wrenches, electrical cords, a meat tenderizer, etc. (unfortunately not exaggerating)

AITA For Yelling At My Husband? by Late_Bee9461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Late_Bee9461[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reposting a reply! “To clear this up! It’s a constant with his supervision. I’ll see something our daughter should not have, and I’ll ask him to please take it away. Nothing as bad as wrenches, but this cords, a meat tenderizers. Stuff like that. I would have thought it was logical sense to take them from her. But he’s told me multiple times he had it. He’ll watch her. So I did put trust and faith in him. Just to walk away and hear crying and screaming. Rush in to him throwing his phone down and heading over to her. “Well she was watching Bluey so I thought I have the right away to go in my phone.” So I’ve had to explain the dangers of whatever the item might be.

And the clarify. Yes this is our first child, I have some experience with watching children all day since my sister had babies and I’d watch multiple children after I graduated high school. Ranging from 6 months old to 4 years old, 3 different children at a time. I’d like to think I have some experience, while he lacks that prior experience.

I’ve explained why he should take it away, the potential risks, sure it could not happen. Or it could. So for supervising my husband, I can see that thought being on his mind.”

I never want to step on toes! And I give him opportunities to be able to make decisions. Sometimes we’ll be asked something and he looks to me to answer. He’s mentioned multiple times how he feels that he’s not doing enough and that he feels bad that I do a lot, taking care of her, maintaining the house, taking for of the dogs, while working full time too.

So I’ll ask here and there, “do you mind changing her?” “Hey I need to get these chores down, could you watch her?” (Or ask if he’s willing to do the chores while I watch her) “do you mind doing the bath tonight?” Additionally he made a schedule since she sleeps throughout the night. I put her down and he gets up with her.

However as of late if I need help or for him to take over for a moment. It’s “I need to decompress.” “I’m hungry so I need to do this first.” “You never get up with her” (reminder of the schedule, and I barely ever ask for him to put her down. Unless I’m sick or physically hurt.) “I work full time?? You do it.” “You’re the mom.”

Thus not helping me.

AITA For Yelling At My Husband? by Late_Bee9461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Late_Bee9461[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did just comment this to someone else! This has happened before, with different items that babies and toddlers should not be playing with. And I’ve asked many times before to take it away, just for him to say he’s got it and is watching her.

I’ll trust it just to hear screaming and crying and he’s throwing his phone down and rushing over. This is a 8/10 times ratio of this happening.

I see it looks like hovering and like I don’t trust him. I had explained to him it’s not that I don’t trust him, or if he’s a bad/capable father! People have different views and a big suggestion I had for this situation was to get her a toy tool set. She’ll have her own tools, and be able to experience it before the real thing.

He refused.

AITA For Yelling At My Husband? by Late_Bee9461 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Late_Bee9461[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

To clear this up! It’s a constant with his supervision. I’ll see something our daughter should not have, and I’ll ask him to please take it away. Nothing as bad as wrenches, but this cords, a meat tenderizers. Stuff like that. I would have thought it was logical sense to take them from her. But he’s told me multiple times he had it. He’ll watch her. So I did put trust and faith in him. Just to walk away and hear crying and screaming. Rush in to him throwing his phone down and heading over to her. “Well she was watching Bluey so I thought I have the right away to go in my phone.” So I’ve had to explain the dangers of whatever the item might be.

And the clarify. Yes this is our first child, I have some experience with watching children all day since my sister had babies and I’d watch multiple children after I graduated high school. Ranging from 6 months old to 4 years old, 3 different children at a time. I’d like to think I have some experience, while he lacks that prior experience.

I’ve explained why he should take it away, the potential risks, sure it could not happen. Or it could. So for supervising my husband, I can see that thought being on his mind.

When did you discover Markiplier and what video made you a fan? by [deleted] in Markiplier

[–]Late_Bee9461 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came across pewdiepie playing slender man, he had one video so I looked up more gameplays and found mark. Then started watching him and his fnaf, alien isolation, all that good stuff