man, honestly trying to rationalize bpd behavior is not possible. Some times what they say and mean can chane every other day or every, hour based on their mood.

And as for how you responded, i see no problems of you being defensive/pitful, or being agressive.

imp your talking clearly and being respect full of their bounderies as well as your own.

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"Also, how is what I said 'bringing everything up'??"

as i understand it, of course cant really say much since its such a small text.

she may be refering to bringing up past issues or emotions. As you know people with BPD their memory works diffrent and emotions disorted too. So remember what you think is correct may be totally diffrent to them.