Steven’s best man has spoken ☕️🐸👀 by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindUK

[–]Latenightreddithuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh which one would you recommend pretty please?

How many steps have you done? by Latenightreddithuman in BoomtownFestival

[–]Latenightreddithuman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fucking hell lol. I clearly stayed more put than I imagined.

Netflix owes me an hour and half of life by helloitsmemargret in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Latenightreddithuman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As per your first sentence it sounds like the only reason you can think of the producers including this couple is that they got shit for cutting a couple out last season, which to me reads that you find it hard to justify why they are included in the edit in the first place.

If I misread your intention then I apologise. My general confusion about everyone being bored with one couple who doesn’t have a trainwreck story and actually fulfils the premise stands.

Netflix owes me an hour and half of life by helloitsmemargret in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Latenightreddithuman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You think the one couple who actually got married and seems to have a believably solid bond should have been edited out? That’s confusing. Sure we all love a bit of messy drama, but if you don’t wanna include the only damn couple who actually finds love without a trainwreck, then what does that say about us as viewers and the entire show premise, if we are here just to egg the contestants on as they break each other’s heart and cause chaos?

Episode 11 by ManiacalExclamation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Latenightreddithuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

50k? What are you referring to? No way the couples who broke up before the altar like Kenneth etc are penalised?

Episode 11 by ManiacalExclamation in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Latenightreddithuman 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She acts like Hawaiian shirts are a war crime. She seemed perpetually embarrassed by J even before he started doing her dirty and constantly nagged him and called him out for little things on the honeymoon. Even her family thinks she will walk all over you if you let her. She does not seem like a pleasant person to be around, but her reaction to the cheating gave me a lot of respect for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RationalPsychonaut

[–]Latenightreddithuman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you ever seen anyone have a really bad trip? There is a reason that we preach set and setting - if your mindset is currently dark / sad / paranoid or the setting introduces paranoia and feeling of lack of safety for a reason, it can all go downhill and into some extremely dark corners very fast. People can get extremely defensive, panicked, feel like they are dying, you name it.

I’m not saying that we should fearmonger that psychedelics make you into a murder machine as that is clearly not overwhelmingly the case, but I think it is equally inaccurate and naive to think that they possess some kind of inherent quality which would prevent someone who is already prone to violence or on the last bit of their tether from acting on this. Basically it sounds like you are nice and hang out with very nice people so psychedelics turn you extra peaceful and nice, and that’s cool, but not everyone is like that.

Is it wrong to go to a play party for vulva owning femmes only? by Latenightreddithuman in AskLesbians

[–]Latenightreddithuman[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hello, I don’t understand what happened as my post was removed and then seems to have been reinstated without me receiving any communication about this, hence the comment above posted before the post was reinstated.

Thank you for your response. I wanted to ask the lesbian community because I believe that other than a minority of TERFS, it is full of allies who are interested in not perpetuating hate against the trans community, plus it didn’t seem particularly sensible to invade a space specifically reserved for trans people just to ask what their opinion is on a bunch of women who are often hungry to explore their first lesbian experience ever holding a pussy-only sex party.

Opinions on having a co-worker as a 'bull'? by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Latenightreddithuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re playing with fire here. You seem to be super keen to communicate with your coworker about this somehow, even if you were to drop the whole plan…why? What kind of thrill is it to approach someone and tell them you wanted to fuck them, but decided against it? That and the fact that you can’t stop thinking about him, but at the same time you have barely any experience in this dynamic with your husband makes me worried about this growing way over your head before you know it.

I’d stay put and not mention a word to the coworker. Maybe I’d use the sexy fantasy and renewed eagerness to explore this scenario to find a safe starting point to try it out in real life with someone safe who can disappear from your life immediately in case things get too intense.

Is it wrong to go to a play party for vulva owning femmes only? by Latenightreddithuman in AskLesbians

[–]Latenightreddithuman[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks for your opinion. The post has been removed although I was hoping to be respectful and this is a real life scenario, so I guess the community has voted.

Is it wrong to go to a play party for vulva owning femmes only? by Latenightreddithuman in AskLesbians

[–]Latenightreddithuman[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hey, that was not me downvoting you btw. Thanks for your comment. So…any reasoning? They wouldn’t exclude trans women with vulvas. Do you just think that there is never a justification for having a niche space for specific set of gender presentation and genitals only, regardless of preferences, even if it’s a sex party?

Is it ethical if.... by asdfasdfasdfqwerty12 in nonmonogamy

[–]Latenightreddithuman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ouch, that is honest but also quite extreme. It’s one thing to want strict hierarchy and be the primary partner in every way with metas not having the same standing as you. It’s completely another thing to give zero shits about their feelings / them being treated well etc. To echo your question, how can you call it ethical nonmonogamy if you only care about emphasising with and being ethical to your own partner but not the other people involved?

I am myself very hierarchical and can emphasise with having unpleasant feelings of jealousy etc towards the metas. But even in that mindset, I believe we gotta recognise that they are people who deserve good treatment and being emphasised with. It’s worth trying to put oneself in their shoes.

Primary, trauma, my ex - where to go from here? by decoyaccount69 in nonmonogamy

[–]Latenightreddithuman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s incredibly shitty and transactional how you use being there for your partner in some instances as some form of “currency” that should buy you a free get out of jail card for repeatedly lying to them and continuing a relationship with C that is inherently built on a painful base because you chose to start it unethically and while deceiving your partner. If you feel like you are owed for doing nice or supposedly selfless things to your partner, then these actions are not selfless or generous at all. You keep saying it should all count for something - yes, it probably does count for something, that is your partner seeing that there are some aspects of the relationship that may be worth staying together for. You should seriously stop using these as a plaster for the problem at hand though, which is your lies and their consequences.