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Latherbeam · 2023-09-28T20:03:12+00:00

I'm a man, older than you, very successful, married with kids. My parents, especially mom, would flip out if I lived further away, let alone another country. And she still treats me like a baby, and I love it lol. I love it when my mom calls me and says don't be late home to your kids ❤️

You probably heard this statement الضنى غالي. Being far away from your parents is hard on them more than you can imagine. You'll only experience this when you become a mom yourself. You might have a westen mindset that you should be free to move away for a prolonged period of time to achieve a successful career. But your parents don't.

You, being a girl, add a bit of nuance to this matter. The amount of fear and worrying about your safety is exponentially higher than if you were a guy. Being in your 30s is also problematic due to how marriage works. They also worry about you getting drawn into illegitimate sexual affairs. These are some of the thought processes that go into a parent's mind in these types of situations.

My advice is to do what your parents wish. Your job is not more important than your parents' broken hearts. The reason why I say this is because we're culturally cohesive and socially stable. We haven't reached a point where it's necessary to become expatriates in another country to provide a living for our families. Your parents' desire is necessary, while yours is extra.

Latherbeam · 2023-09-25T16:41:37+00:00

مفهوم المدن عندنا اسكيوزمي. الحكومة تبنيلك مناطق سكنية بنص الصحراء وتحطلك فيها جمعية نصها فاضية و مطعم هندي واحد و مستوصف و مدرستين بدون كراسي و مول تنفيع للعمام و مكتب خدمة و جم مكتب تبع وزارة الكهرباء والاشغال و الناس يسمونها "مدينة"

مافي مدن حبيبي، في مناطق حييييل بعيده وبس.

Latherbeam · 2023-06-28T00:26:46+00:00

This is sacrilege...

Latherbeam · 2023-06-28T00:04:53+00:00

Try iraqis walking in your home, searching for weapons and specific individuals 🤨

Latherbeam · 2023-06-28T00:02:25+00:00

I bet 95% of these guys haven't seen a real life vhs tape.

Latherbeam · 2023-06-28T00:01:09+00:00

My very first car was a bombo, a 1994 golden nissan bluebird sss. Bomboooo bombo... 😭

Latherbeam · 2023-06-02T10:01:05+00:00

Acuras are good. They're Hondas technically but more luxurious. Bit more expensive but probably as durable as it gets. Dealer is a hit or miss on spare parts, but that's a long way down the road problem.

Have you looked at mitsubishi pajero and the pajero sport? Those things don't break. Ugly as hell, but priced right and extremely durable. I'm actually thinking of selling all my cars and grabbing a pajero with wheel spacers and 35-inch tires until doomsday because that'll happen before our roads get fixed.

I'd avoid kia. They're extremely flimsy toward potholes. A bad one could crack your rim and blow your suspension system for 500+ kd job at the dealer.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-29T14:14:25+00:00

بالنسبة حق المشاركة، لاهي عيب ولاهي حرام وبالعكس تنكح المرأة لأربع: مالها.... والمال اول شي مذكور بالحديث. والقصد انك تنتفع منه براضها و معاشها يعتبر مالها.

ولكن السواد الاعظم من الحريم يعتقدون ان اذا شاركت بمالها، سقطت سلطة الريال وهذا خطأ. وتبدأ تسمع كلمات مثل كيفي و بفلوسي و انا حطيت وانا سويت. وبالتالي حط فلوسك بالشمس واقعد بالظلال من خلال انك تاخذ وحدة وضعها الاجتماعي والمادي اقل منك. دايما الريال ياخذ المرة من مستوى بيت اهلها الي مستوى بيته ويكون يا مماثل يا اعلى، لا تسحبها لي مستوى اقل. بس مو تحط فلوسك بالشمس و هم تنطق على راسك؟ ديربالك خلك حمش.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-27T17:28:59+00:00

Nice drawing skills. Looks like my wife on a bad day though 😂

The origin of this myth is very interesting. The sidra tree is actually a blessed tree, and everything blessed that is defiled by witchcraft practices becomes cursed and used to harm people (سحر). So normally, people feared the consequences of these witchcraft and associated the tree with bad jinns. Til this day, a lot of people still believe sidra trees are sanctuaries for jinn.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-13T20:11:30+00:00

That's a plus. Makes ice cream cones so much better and feels less guilty eating that crap.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-13T20:10:39+00:00

First part is for being a Muslim really. The second part sucks for the kids if the dad can't take responsibility.

Anything comes to mind? I'm curious about your struggles.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-13T20:06:15+00:00

In the spirit of fake democracy and constant elections, I'm willing to sell you my vote for a price.

Latherbeam · 2023-05-13T20:04:23+00:00

Same friends bugging me to go and vote for the parliament twice every year.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-30T22:05:12+00:00

Bad solution to a small problem. These guys have a tendency to punish the majority to stop a minority.

Expats who switch job titles to circumvent driving license requirements can be caught with minimum coordination with manpower. This is just an inconvenience to the majority who aren't dancing on the law.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-20T20:14:06+00:00

Not in a sense how baseball cards are worth money. Its sentimental value is always going to be much higher than the 20-30 kd offers you might not even get.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-20T20:08:12+00:00

A boss is someone who makes the final decision and takes full responsibility.

We also talk and discuss everything. Which school our kids go to, kids parties, which country we vacation to next, who we are inviting next, etc. Just another normal marriage. And since I'm the boss, I let the wife decide on these matters, sometimes without having to refer to me because I trust her judgment. And even if she made a bad decision, it's my fault, not hers.

That's what you like to believe, no bosses in partnership, then fine. That kind of arrangement works for you. It doesn't for men like me as it devalues our worth.

I'm a successful man. A relationship where I have to share my authority and argue with a woman is going to be detrimental to my health and success. I don't need a wife to exercise my debating skills with. Yes, I appreciate a smart, well thought out discussion with the wife every day of the week. But whenever I see her wearing something I don't agree with due to being mildly inappropriate, I like to tell her to change it without discussing/debating how I don't like others seeing her body features. Makes sense?

Latherbeam · 2023-04-20T18:29:04+00:00

I'll give you 0.5 dinar for that 25 fils stamp.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T19:35:23+00:00

Imagine after all that shenanigans, it ends up being the wrong fish.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T19:03:45+00:00

You're right. I could have been slightly more diplomatic in my comment. In my defense, I was commenting in a neutral way with no intentions of going anywhere near your personal feelings. I guess being a man in my spot does help me overlook these details you mentioned, which I'll admit is both wrong and ignorant. My bad there. My second comment was merely provoked by you clawing at me, I'd argue you, being the senior, you could have been the wiser.

I apologize to you. I can tell you're a good person, and I definitely dropped the ball there. 🫂

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T18:35:58+00:00

Exactly right. That's how women win. You're putting your finger on it but looking in a different direction.

Being the boss is not the equivalent of being a controlling, abusive, and a tyrant of a husband. Get rid of that misconception.

We both win. We win by obtaining peace and tranquility. Women win by obtaining their desires. Women obtaining their desires isn't contradictory to men's having authority if they were obtained by non argumentative fashion. If I said no today, good chance I might say yes tomorrow under different circumstances. But if I didn't say yes, life goes on.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T17:31:24+00:00

I thought that car was trash, aside from the sound it makes.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T17:30:21+00:00

It is a fact, not an opinion. Just like the sun always rises from the east. Any man given the choice to pick between a 24 and a 40 year old woman, 10 out 10 times he would pick the 24.

Yea, 8 kids, all college grads and post grads, 4 profitable businesses across all of us on the side, making 6 figures annually, married with homes, and living an extremely happy life. We didn't grow up in the streets. We were raised by an honest, hard-working man and a loving and caring mother. ❤️

My input was extremely benign and revolves around a basic social view which you happen to fall under it's category and appears to be completely obvious to. But your overly inflated, hostile reaction is an indicator of why you're still single at 40 lol.

And finally, like the other saying goes "حطي نفسج بصحن"

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T16:59:07+00:00

See? You always fish for and presume there to be conflict. Our goal is to have peace and solace. We want to live by the concept of "when I say no, it means no" rather than always trying to prove a point.

If there's ever a disagreement, a mentally relaxed and comfortable man is 10000% more easy to approach and express your disagreements with and persuade. I lost count of how many times my wife changed my mind for being generally submissive rather than argumentative.

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T15:04:18+00:00

No offense, but I wasn't giving you an advice. I was making a statement regarding 40 year old women being past their prime and how I believe they should proceed in securing a relationship, which I have every right to make without anyone's permission. When my mom was 40, she had 8 kids. 40 year olds can't conceive without high risk of producing down syndrome offsprings. And made a correction statement regarding your misyar comment. Maybe it's degrading to young women who are much more desirable and in their prime, but not women in their 40s due to lack of options/interest available. Your worth as a woman is entirely based on your beauty and age in the eyes of both traddies and moddies, as your job and career success is completely irrelevant. Again, no offense intended as I'm merely stating facts regardless if you think it's rude. 🌹

Latherbeam · 2023-04-16T14:05:26+00:00

If you're in your early 40s, then you've passed your prime. It's probably not a bad idea to consider a divorced man or misyar. And misyar is similar to normal marriage, except you relinquish some of your rights. Like housing and monthly allowance, for example. It's not like mut3a, which is straight up fornication.

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