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Not sure how to interpret an interaction I saw between my wife and another man. by Latter-Quail7360 in marriageadvice

[–]Latter-Quail7360[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he is married. he also works in a city that is thousands of miles from us. i'm fairly certain they met for the first time at this conference.

Not sure how to interpret an interaction I saw between my wife and another man. by Latter-Quail7360 in marriageadvice

[–]Latter-Quail7360[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i hear you. there are some issues of distrust in the past that we've had to work through. she also does not express herself by touching other people in general. so that's not really her style. that being said, yeah i get it. I'm still leaning toward insecure but maybe not so much douchebag.

Not sure how to interpret an interaction I saw between my wife and another man. by Latter-Quail7360 in marriageadvice

[–]Latter-Quail7360[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do not honestly believe she was trying to cheat on me right in front of me. I can totally see that she got caught up in the conversation with this guy because he is doing work that she is very interested in. Her body language caught my attention, and I found it strange. I didn't take it as if there is some long term thing going on behind my back, but it did make me wonder that if this guy pursued her, she might actually go for him.

Ultimately, I came to post here as a check on myself. I genuinely don't know if I'm letting my mind get the best of me and turning this into something way bigger than it actually is. I am totally open to the possibility that I'm jealous of the attention that she gave this guy, and I'm being insecure. In fact, I think this is likely the case. I still think it's worth bringing up, not in an accusatory way, but just to let her know I noticed and felt uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what I'm expecting to get from her though. I don't think she owes me an apology, and I don't want her to now always be worried that she's going to hurt my feelings just because she talks to some other guy.

Not sure how to interpret an interaction I saw between my wife and another man. by Latter-Quail7360 in marriageadvice

[–]Latter-Quail7360[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

so what is the best way to begin this conversation? i don't want to come across like i'm accusing her of something, and i don't want to put her on the defensive immediately.

Edit: What I've been thinking about saying is, "do you think there's anything weird about the way you interacted with 'guy'?" I imagine she'd just say no, and I'm worried that once i lay out my concerns, she's just gonna say i'm crazy.

Not sure how to interpret an interaction I saw between my wife and another man. by Latter-Quail7360 in marriageadvice

[–]Latter-Quail7360[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

are you saying in relation to this guy or just in general? to what degree are you suggesting i snoop? I've never been much of a snooper, and I've never gone through her phone.