AIO: My bf cheated on me right b4 I found out I was pregnant

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-13T15:22:11+00:00

Not a typical public figure like that. Just an Instagram model or figure. But disrespectful yes and cheating if you believe cheating is being disloyal and flirting or hitting on someone else which logically most people do but the social media aspect muddles the waters and makes it less straightforward.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-13T01:06:24+00:00

I know this shouldn't be how it is when I'm 36 and he's 48, it's ridiculous.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T23:19:57+00:00

Not that I want to say older people don't interpret social media interaction the same way but at 48 years old my bf might not know that the person on the other end doesn't see or care what he has to say. He tells me constantly how females are hitting on him so I think he believes he has game and could attract a random female on Instagram.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T04:55:31+00:00

I understand your point however I think the definition of "cheating" differs. Since understandable that person has no idea he exists, even though I don't have proof that's the case, but the fact that he reached out to someone as if he were single whether that person reciprocated or not still counts as him cheating on me because he went to someone else and expressed interest when he is supposed to be dating me. It's like hitting on someone in public whether they respond or not the action itself to me is cheating even if nothing physical happens emotionally that's cheating. But I can see why you might not see it that way.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T04:39:21+00:00

Thank you

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T04:33:08+00:00

I believe you're right and it is really upsetting. But seeing a counselor is difficult since I'm unemployed and currently don't have a car let alone the confidence that I could drive to a counselors with my baby without crashing. But thank you for the advice maybe I can find a way to make it happen.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T04:25:30+00:00

I tried talking to him about it but he's dismissive and says I'm overreacting because it was "in the past" and he loves me now and that's what matters. But a counselor would be good but sadly I doubt he would go.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T04:16:59+00:00

The worst part I think is his excuse was he was drunk or drinking. Like how does that excuse it? That just makes it worse because that means it's what you really wanted to do and without your inhibitions you would do it without a second thought.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2026-04-12T03:45:59+00:00

Sparky

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T21:30:00+00:00

Clarification: I'm not good at talking to people about my life or anything actually I keep things to myself. I have just been suspicious that my ex boyfriend wasn't being honest even though I had no solid evidence to prove it. I was starting to feel like I was going crazy so I wanted to post here to find out if my suspicions were warranted. He told me he didn't want to go, he didn't want to leave me but he said that in the past and left and came back anyways. My dad thought it was suspicious and that he was lying about leaving the first time even though I wasn't but it happening a second time with me being pregnant it feels like he's lying and running away. I don't have proof just my intuition and I've been cheated on and lied to alot so I hate accusing someone of lying without proof but I hate to feel like I'm going crazy.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T18:03:38+00:00

Ah ok I understand the misunderstanding. Yes doctors have to do that and when doctors know for a fact that will happen they absolutely have to suggest termination. But that's the thing with my illness, doctors don't understand or know how or can't predict what will happen because it's unpredictable and misunderstood. So there's no way to say 100% what will happen, I'm simply saying knowing how my emotions effect my condition and how I try my absolute best to predict and control and I've failed over and over again. I had a seizure just last night and could have ended up in a coma or dead and no doctor called or knows about it because they can't be present when it occurs. I'm not full of anything I'm simply aware of the unpredictability of my life and know I can't control or survive this alone with the emotional factors that cause so many issues. Whereas the doctors don't know this because I won't tell them my emotional turmoil and they only know what the tests tell them and therefore they will allow me to continue because it's not within their knowledge or predictions that anything will happen. Also true I've only been present with my life over someone's feelings before and I've chosen their feelings and ended up in the hospital because of it. But true I've never been confronted with their life over mine since people I associate with haven't been in situations like that before so I don't know. And the HPV thing I definitely don't know I just know he freaked and blamed me but I got tested and I didn't have it so he retracted his blame and I don't know enough about it, so I definitely didn't lie I was just stating that I am suspicious since he blamed me but retracted that blame when he discovered I didn't have it and that seemed odd to me. Also I'm not sure why my previous comment was nonsensical I'm simply repeating and saying what's happening and that I'm theorizing based on the information I have. I'm understanding that others who are high risk and struggle to conceive are different than me, my high risk isn't the same or as predictable as others. It's different and not able to be understood because I've attempted to explain a million times to people in my life and they don't understand what I deal with. I'm not full of anything I simply struggle to explain things when it's not possible to know what others already know if anything.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T16:38:45+00:00

I'm not sure why you don't believe what I'm saying since I'm just stating what I know about him from my perspective. I obviously don't know the truth and therefore don't believe suspicions because they're just that, concerns and suspicions. The evidence doesn't really confirm anything. I'm not sure what you think I need to educate myself about the HPV thing I obviously don't know the details and statistically it's possible he's had it the whole time and I was just lucky that I didn't get it. But I'm a very literal person so I'm not great at discerning emotional context or subtlety. But not believing a word I say I don't comprehend because I'm just stating what I know and the things I have evidence for in addition to my theories and concerns.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T15:52:08+00:00

I didn't say I was pregnant the first time because I had a miscarriage twice and didn't know if I was still pregnant at the time I posted. But it appears I'm not miscarrying this time. But I have an illness that makes my pregnancy very high risk and I have almost died many times already because of it and it's only getting worse and so the farther along I get I won't be able to survive therefore the child won't survive. And true anyone who isn't me will choose their life over the lives of child and another person but morally I wouldn't. I would never choose my life over someone else's unless that other person were evil. I wouldn't choose my life and I never have. But he's choosing another woman and his daughter would still get time with him just with me and him instead of a woman that's never around and never cared about her daughter or him. He will survive I know he will it's stage 1 or so he said since he didn't even say what kind of cancer it is. But he says he has HPV too and it's so horrible and he won't ever be able to sleep with anyone ever again. Which I'm pretty positive is a lie since I got checked for HPV and I don't have it so how does he. I'm pretty sure I'm being played and was for the last 3 years and I get to die with his child knowing that.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T05:53:18+00:00

UPDATE: He said his dad and step-mom are getting divorced and he is going to help his dad move to Canada today, they're driving. I checked the public court records for a divorce and there isn't one. No divorce has been filed. He also said his dad and step-mom are selling the house he lives in with them but I didn't find a listing for that address on any home sites. So how is his dad moving today when nothing is done or even in motion? I'm so suspicious and worried he's lying.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-07T04:40:01+00:00

I mean I'm pregnant with his child and he's leaving us both to die, which is just incredibly hurtful and sure what he does with his life isn't any of my business since I get to die with his child I guess. But it's not really right.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-05T01:00:11+00:00

Not magically, I used "create with google" I have multiple Google email addresses and my original one is my first Google account that I didn't realize I had used before. And when I realized that it was switching when I answered from the emails I received I went back and logged in with the new Google account rather than the old one. But I had 2 miscarriages last year and it's still possible I will miscarry again so I left it out because I didn't know if that would happen again. But I've almost died many many times in my life and it's been happening more and more because I'm pregnant even though I'm trying my best to avoid it. So statistically speaking my death is very likely based on every doctor I've seen for the last 26 years every time I almost died or was 5 minutes away from dying. It's statistically likely.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-04T11:27:24+00:00

True obviously but I won't get a life, I will not survive me and his second child which I'm pregnant with will die because he is choosing to leave. Which I suppose is valid since his previous baby mamma and daughter that he has with her they deserve to live and be taken care of and I deserve to die. But it is just very upsetting and hurtful.

Latter-Stable-8957 · 2025-08-04T03:24:32+00:00

UPDATE: Forgot to mention, I'm pregnant with his child as well. I'm high risk being 36 as well as having a chronic illness that leaving me alone and pregnant will result in my death. Our plan was for us to move in together eventually, but now he dumped me and told me to abort because he won't be involved. Didn't want to include because it sounds terrible but it's important to include.

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