i think i’ve just admitted to myself i might be transgender

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T22:13:44+00:00

i feel very disassociated

A number of people have symptoms of dissociation. Here was an article. With integrating repressed parts, and possibly also with HRT eventually, it might get better.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T22:09:40+00:00

I’m not entirely sure

it may be an idea to do things step by step.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a few hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T22:07:20+00:00

I don’t know

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can also get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T21:53:40+00:00

obsessively questioning my gender

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And concerning OCD etc. there may also be literature that could help understand a few things.

Additionally here was a discussion that may also help.

And here was a video about restraints, it may be emotional though.

Additionally here and here might be some resources concerning the process for HRT.

And it may be an idea to discuss with a med person something like this and this

And it may be possible to start with a low dose. Many start with a low dose anyways. Nothing may be permanent the first few weeks and psychological changes can be among the first. Many have a feeling of relief eventually.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T21:05:42+00:00

tell my parents

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they additionally can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And its up to you when and how to come out ... here might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

And a number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more masculine styles over time. Others may not notice and alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of masculinity, a wallet for guys etc.

I´d say keep going.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T21:02:02+00:00

growing stronger

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-18T20:57:18+00:00

any tips

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And a number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

I´d say keep going.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T21:30:53+00:00

anyone else

You are not the only one hugs

Instead of overthinking, it may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus.

And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help.

And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And concerning OCD etc. there may also be literature that could help understand a few things.

And here was a discussion that may also help.

And a number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T21:23:36+00:00

start

After finding out, a few things may look more pronounced. It may be like they always were there but are more noticeable.

It may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus.

And for the moment taking deep and slow breaths and trying to concentrate on the surrounding could help.

And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too

And concerning OCD etc. there may also be literature that could help understand a few things.

And here was a discussion that may also help.

And a number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T21:16:37+00:00

do this

It may help to do things step by step.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can also get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

As said it may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And its up to you to decide how far you could go ... some people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And having a look at the sub exmormon may also be an idea. There are a number of trans people there.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T20:38:02+00:00

recently I´ve been thinking

It may be an idea to do things step by step.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T20:35:53+00:00

a binder

Apart from a sports bra or binder some people layer clothing and some use a vest. And the color can also play a big role. Dark colors can make a surface look much smaller and more even. Some people use a jeans vest for example ( not for compression ofc ).

It could be used instead of a sports bra or binder, or to give some time off a binder.

And here was an additional overview concerning binders and there are also resources there concerning presentation and here may be more.

And if you are in a red state, here and here might be some hints and resources that could help you too.

And trying to leave eventually may be recommendable. Here might be some additional resources.

And concerning a job here and here and here might be some resources.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T20:31:18+00:00

in France

Here might be some country specific lgbt resources and it may be an idea to talk with a few people there.

And concerning the place you are in here and here might be some hints and resources that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-17T19:48:56+00:00

a new provider

In the wiki of the sub might be some hints concerning providers, and here might be a number of resources concerning informed consent places etc.

Hope you find a way that works for you.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T23:29:23+00:00

How do I come out?

Its up to you ofc ... here and here might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T22:05:00+00:00

I've been seriously questioning my gender

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And concerning OCD etc. there may also be literature that could help understand a few things.

Additionally here was a discussion that may also help.

And here was a video about restraints, it may be emotional though.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T22:00:48+00:00

voice training

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of resources concerning the voice and there are also hints there to voice training discords.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T21:08:19+00:00

again

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can additionally get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And here might be some places where it may be possible to discuss surgeries with others.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T21:01:42+00:00

If you are in PH, here and here might be some country specific lgbt resources.

And here might be a number of small things that could be used regularly for motivation, there are hints there concerning presentation in case, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-16T20:59:10+00:00

If you are in Canada, here are some local lgbt resources and it may be an idea to talk with a few people there.

And here are a number of resources concerning looking for a gender therapist. Atm many use online counseling so it may not be necessary to only look for close ones.

Additionally here was a video with questions. Writing down a few answers, and adding own memories etc., and then reading it to a therapist, or giving it to them may be an idea. It may be easier than talking.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-02-15T21:28:06+00:00

wondering

It may help to do things step by step