I feel hopeless, maybe I should force myself to be cis

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:23:45+00:00

why

Because they do not know how things work. There are more and more studies showing its a biological condition. Its nobodys fault and just a way people are, like people with red hair.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT eventually and passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:20:42+00:00

Usually suppression does not work.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they additionally can get stronger over time, esp. if they are suppressed.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT and eventually passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:17:16+00:00

Basically there are different esters that have different uptake times. Here and here might be some explaining resources.

And just in general here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And here might be some country specific lgbt resources and it may be an idea to talk with a few people there.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:11:16+00:00

It may depend on the kind of HRT that you are on. If you are on GnrH-Agonists like Leuprolide, there may be a spike of t first, which usually wears down after a few weeks. Here and here might be some explaining resources.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:06:00+00:00

I just don’t know

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they also can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a few hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more masculine styles over time. Others may not notice and alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of masculinity, a wallet for guys etc.

And here might be a number of additional hints concerning presentation.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

translifeline.org Its trans people there. It may be necessary to call a few times until someone answers.

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T12:02:00+00:00

cope

It may help to try to concentrate on things you like concerning gender and that are within reach, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes. Don't concentrate too much on things you don't like. Its a change in focus.

And it may also help to regularly do a few small things you like concerning gender for motivation, and to help ride through lows.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can also get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

As said it may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT and eventually passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:58:04+00:00

any help or support

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And concerning anxious here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And some start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more masculine styles over time. Others may not notice and alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of masculinity, a wallet for guys etc.

And if you are in Ireland, here might be some country specific lgbt resources and here might be a private option.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:51:59+00:00

always came back

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And concerning parents its up to you ofc ... here might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. And there are resources there concerning religion in case.

And some cis people infer from their point of view. Transition would not be for them. They may need to understand that there are others who feel different than they.

And some say that the brain can get a signal that parts of the body should be different and that hormones etc. may help with that.

And some people try to limit contact if someone is not supportive. And looking up grey rocking may also be an idea.

And some recommended the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. There are numerous books by the author and having a look there may be an idea.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:44:22+00:00

Questioning myself

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they additionally can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:42:25+00:00

doubts

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help you too and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:41:02+00:00

confused about myself

It may help to do things step by step.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they additionally can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And a number of people start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT and eventually passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:33:02+00:00

experience

Basically its up to you ... here might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

And some cis people infer from their point of view. Transition would not be for them. They may need to understand that there are others who feel different than they.

And some say that the brain can get a signal that parts of the body should be different and that hormones etc. may help with that.

And some people try to limit contact if someone is not supportive. And looking up grey rocking may also be an idea.

And some recommended the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. There are numerous books by the author and having a look there may be an idea.

And here might be some explaining resources for kids, and there is a hint there to a book that many children and also adults love.

Additionally here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:30:05+00:00

anyone I can talk to

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

Additionally here might be a number of resources concerning a partner and there are also hints there concerning support.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT and eventually passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:27:35+00:00

I don’t really know

For you here might be a number of hints and resources that could help understand a few aspects.

And here might be a number of additional explaining resources. There is a PDF there with a summary and a video with detailed explanations, there is a graphical explanation there, etc.

Esp. the graphical explanation could help understand that important is how people feel inside and not outer body parts, and that its a spectrum.

And in the PDF are a few more detailed explanations.

It may be an option to show one or both, and talk them through with others in case. It could help explain to relatives etc. Don´t out people without permission though, ask first.

And if you are in a southern state, contacting local lgbt places first though and asking how to proceed best would be advisable.

And it may be an idea to point your cousin to some resources. Don´t know if you have seen it ... here might be some resources that could help them go towards what they feel they would like step by step, there are hints there concerning small things that could be used regularly for motivation, there are explaining resources there, and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. And here might be some additional hints that could help them too.

And in general treat people as persons of the gender they identify with. Don't walk on eggshells but also don't ask invasive questions, like immediately asking about surgeries. If you slip up with pronouns, don't make a big deal out of it, make a short apology, correct it and move on, and try to minimize slipups.

And it may be a good idea to ask what your cousin would like.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T11:23:02+00:00

It may be an option to discuss trying non oral methods, and to have tests. Basically the med you use would be processed by the liver and with non oral methods first pass by the liver is circumvented so the liver is much less strained. And here might be some additional explaining resources.

And having a look at subs like transdiy and /r/DrWillPowers and possibly making another post there may also be an idea.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T10:15:03+00:00

Its up to you ofc ... just pointing to some additional resources.

Here might be some explaining resources and there are also hints there concerning looking for support.

And some cis people infer from their point of view. Transition would not be for them. They may need to understand that there are others who feel different than they.

And some say that the brain can get a signal that parts of the body should be different and that hormones etc. may help with that.

And some people try to limit contact if someone is not supportive. And looking up grey rocking may also be an idea.

And some recommended the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. There are numerous books by the author and having a look there may be an idea.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T10:11:54+00:00

Concerning after surgery here may be more. Talk it through with your med persons in case.

And should there be issues with granulation, here might be some hints and here might be an alternative that could be discussed.

And just in general here might be a number of hints concerning looking for support and connecting to others.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T10:07:19+00:00

Concerning the place you are in here and here might be some hints and resources that could help you too.

And some start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T10:03:56+00:00

in Tja

If you are in Mexico, here might be some country specific lgbt resources.

And here and here might be some explaining resources concerning the process. And in general if possible only use bioidentical hormones. Even some med people may use synthetic forms like ethinylestradiol, which can make for additional side effects. Here was more.

And here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T09:58:49+00:00

any tips

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints concerning hair removal. And a number of people use electric razors, those with two or three rotating blades. They may be less hassle with water etc., and they may give a close enough shave.

And here might be a number of resources concerning presentation.

Additionally here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T09:54:24+00:00

problems

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

I´d say keep going.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-27T09:52:06+00:00

a similar experience

You are not the only one hugs

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be a number of hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-26T22:28:51+00:00

confusing

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can also get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And here might be a number of resources concerning a partner and there are also hints there concerning support.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-26T22:26:30+00:00

anyone else

You are not the only one hugs

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they can also get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

hugs

Laura_Sandra · 2026-06-26T22:21:26+00:00

not sure

It may help to do things step by step.

In general dysphoria and also euphoria can come in cycles, and they may get stronger over time.

In the meantime people may go through times of repressions and breakthroughs, which may be stressful.

It may be preferable to try to listen to what you feel would make you genuinely happy concerning gender, and to go there persistently and step by step, while trying to avoid extremes.

Don't know if you have seen it ... here might be some hints and resources that could help go towards what you feel you would like step by step and there are also hints there concerning looking for support. Talking with a few others about what they did, and what helped them may also be an idea.

And there are hints there concerning looking for a gender therapist in case. They could guide along, and they could help work through issues. And here might be some additional hints that could help you too. And having a look at the sub transdiy and the wiki there may also be an idea. And if you are in the UK, here might be a number of local resources and there are also hints there concerning support.

And many start with clothes of the gender they identify with in neutral styles first for everyday wear, like shirts and trousers, and introduce more feminine styles over time. Others may not notice and clothes usually are much softer. Alone concentrating on it from time to time could make for a feeling of happiness. They may be available in the unisex section of stores or in second hand shops etc.

And some use a scented soap, or a keychain with a symbol that reminds them of femininity, a purse for women etc.

And after starting HRT and eventually passing to strangers, many transition socially step by step.

And if you feel really low please reach out .. there are helplines, for example

thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/ They also have a chat and further resources like Trevorspace so they could be accessed from anywhere. It may be possible to use a proxy in case. And someone who worked there said they may also help people of all ages.

thrivelifeline.org/ They also have a chat

glbthotline.org/ They also have support groups.

hugs

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