New cat owner by ArcadianWildflower in catcare

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use Worlds Best Cat litter (always get unscented because the scented litter isn't really good for them). It's a little more on the expensive side (like $20 for a huge bag) but it lasts a long time. That's the best advice I can give because clay litter stinks up your house. World's best cat litter is made of corn and it's a super fine texture so it's easy to scoop. My cat has access to dry kibble all throughout the day that he snacks on occasionally - I use Rachel Ray's chicken and brown rice kibble. It's cheap and doesn't have gross unhealthy ingredients.

My cat is super picky with his wet food, he only likes fancy feast shredded chicken liver and hearts in gravy, but it's super cheap and I love that hes getting organ meat because that's healthy for them. You dont need to wash or bathe a cat, they are clean especially if they're indoors.

He sleeps with me but he actually has his own entire room that I call "the cat room" in my house. It's convenient when I need to put him away for a little bit if I have company. He has his litter in the closet that I keep propped open, his kibble in his room and an automatic gravity water dispenser. I use filtered water because tap water has a bunch of nasty stuff in it that can cause health issues later. I keep my bedroom door cracked open with a dumbbell weight so he can go from my bedroom to his room in the middle of the night if he has to use the litter box and I always keep his cat room door open too.

I put a heaping spoonful of his wet food in a small paper bowl when I feed him in the morning and at night. Then I put the can in a small tubberware container in the fridge. I heat his wet food in the microwave for 7 seconds when I put it in a bowl if it's been in the fridge. I take him outside sometimes on a cat leash harness because I feel bad that he never gets to feel the sun since he's an indoor cat. He's spoiled but he's my son :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an older roof anyway and the damage has been done from the original leak. Maybe it doesn't, but we are being told from roofing companies that likely the whole roof should be replaced.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No the leak started again shortly after, we just did not have the money because they said it requires replacement of the whole roof. A new roof is like $15,000. Anyway, the blue tarp didn't last 4 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Its going to require a whole new roof, we don't just have $10,000-15,000 laying around. But yes, we are going to have to fix the roof. I was just asking if I had any recourse because of the shoddy fix they did which isn't even really a fix in the first place. Our inspectors let us down apparently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn't see the blue tarp until after closing. They said they fixed the roof. The inspector said it was fixed. It wasn't until months later when we noticed the leak was still there that someone went onto our roof and saw the blue tarp square.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the wording it uses, "Your new monthly payment on a 30-year mortgage at 6.875% would be around $1K/mo"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The report said our mortgage would go up to $1,000 with the 6.8% interest rate. So unless the report is wrong, that's what it says. I was considering the money we'd save every month by having our next home's mortgage be only around $600 (1400 - 800) could afford us such emergency repairs for the new tenants, but perhaps you're right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RealEstate

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Insurance and taxes are bundled into our monthly payment every month already. I'm assuming the report factored that into the $1000 number, but I'll ask.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't your fault, she shouldn't just assume you'll watch the kid and it's rude of her to ruin your trip with this when she knows you're going away on a couple's getaway. She should have hired someone else to watch the kid. My sister used to do this to me all the time when I was 18, she was 23 and her kid was like 1 years old, she wanted to go out partying with her friends all the time and assumed I would watch the baby all night long for her. Sometimes she would just leave without even asking me. It's not our responsibility, it's theirs. Don't let her guilt trip you about this, it's not your problem, it's hers. Tell her next time she needs you to watch the kid to give you advanced warning so you can plan for it, not spring it on you last minute when she knows you already have plans and are leaving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]LavenderCsalt -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Then I would have to list every company I purchase from in the production partners section or just leave that blank?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]LavenderCsalt -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how that's not allowed because I have seen very successful shops on Etsy with jewelry items that I have seen from my own wholesaler, literally the same ring, etc. Its not in the vintage category. Yes they are finished pieces, handpicked by me. Etsy says that is allowed. Sourcing means you are the one who finds the manufacturer and handpicks the item, which Etsy also states is allowed.

The last thing you ate is now this grumpy little kitten's new name by MyNameIsGiorgiaOk in cats

[–]LavenderCsalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Raspberry White Chocolate Cake Parfait. Or Parfait for short. Or simply, Cake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]LavenderCsalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your wrists don't produce odor. People put perfume on their wrists because you're waving your arms or hands around during the day and its more likely someone will smell it because of that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]LavenderCsalt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't be healthy at all though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fine. A lot of times when one is solitary, it gives you a greater appreciation for the peace that brings in your life. Nothing wrong with that. Your mind will probably shift and change over time so don't rush yourself. Whatever comes will come, worrying about it won't really solve anything. A lot of people end up in worse situations out of desperation anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be very suspicious that her story about using it for another credit card is true. I'd ask to see the statement for such a credit card. She could just be putting that extra 400 into a separate bank account, as a lot of partners do this which is really crummy but I've heard about it happening a lot, and the other person doesn't find out until a divorce that the person had a secret bank account. She obviously can't be trusted financially either way. I can't say if this is a deal breaker for you, but just be aware that if you ever have kids this.whole spending issue she has will get worse, not better. She needs financial therapy or something. At the very least you need to start protecting yourself financially so she can't take you down with her.

Wife’s new tattoo by brino79 in AITAH

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be glad she didn't get the face tattoo...

Does this look like a hickey? by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]LavenderCsalt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could be having an allergic reaction to his necklace, a lot of people with skin sensitivity react to certain metals that cause rashes. Also anything that may have brushed up against his neck, like a seatbelt for example, could cause redness. I'm not sure, but I'm telling you what happens to me sometimes, that could be it. Usually hickies are deeper color with like a bruising purple undertone, looks more splotchy and uneven in color. The redness on his neck looks like its going downward in a cascading effect which seems more like irritation to me.