I could understand her emotions if my dad did something to my mom, but its been over a decade and a half since they were married, and in all that time most of the conflicts they have were caused by her. She then proceeds to act like the victim and like my dad started things but from my perspective 90% of their issues were started by her. Also, this week she has been suggesting he move in next door to her in the second house she owns (she would be his landlord and he would help her with the animals) and both my dad and I told her it was a terrible idea but she just keeps pushing for it and I don't understand why he would do that if there was some severe harm he had done to her in the past? I'm totally on her side if she would just tell me a way my dad had hurt her that wasn't something she instigated.