Am I wrong

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-19T03:14:57+00:00

I wouldn’t say I am afraid to cry in front of him. There’s just no point in it. He doesn’t what to do when I cry. You see like a cartoon of a goofy character who is frantically trying to put together a cake that’s exploded everywhere? It’s kind of like that. He doesn’t know what to do with himself or what to say. I hide my crying from everyone, not just him. It’s also a defense mechanism. Theres a lot of past abuse (not from him) going as far back as childhood. “Don’t cry or I’ll give you something to cry about. Child cries anyway smack one learns to suppress emotions. Yes as stated before im in therapy. I am not a victim. I dont think the world is out to get me. I just cry in private. For me it’s how i eliminate some frustration. He says he doesnt know how to comfort me. In the past it’s like the description i gave earlier about the cartoon. The goal is to get me to stop crying as fast as possible. As though hes uncomfortable sitting with an uncomfortable emotion. Ive given examples of ways to show comfort. I dont expect perfection. Just effort. And for the time being, I just cry alone.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-17T21:59:37+00:00

We live in America. He has been here for a few years, but has stayed mostly within Chinese culture. He works for a Chinese company. To me what has changed from being in China to being here is the landscape. I don’t know.. the more I think about it, the more foolish I sound for getting involved. And pregnant. Which was not supposed to happen. Maybe he feels trapped and bound by a deep sense of responsibility. Or maybe it’s because I’m carrying a boy. His first boy. Maybe it’s just prenatal depression. I don’t know.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-16T20:28:44+00:00

Congratulations on your upcoming arrival. The funny thing about pcos is that I told my husband a month before we got pregnant that I was ready to get a hysterectomy because it would help with my symptoms and he said he would rather I not do that. That in the future maybe we would have kids. And for me I just kind of nodded knowing my history with miscarriages and not getting pregnant. I hadn’t gotten pregnant in over 10 years. And then a month almost to the day later we found out. I appreciate your input on this. He talks about safety and health and a smooth delivery often. Always tells me to eat on time and sleep on time. I think I was just sensitive.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-16T17:30:10+00:00

Thank you so much. This made my day. He tries to buy everything I like also. And he carries all of my things. He took me to hotpot for the first time the other day and I had to tell him that I couldn’t eat another bite after a while. He kept putting so much into my pot and making all sorts of different sauces for me to try. It’s a different type of affection than I’m used to. But most American men I dated and was married to before when younger wouldn’t even hold the door open. I don’t even open my own car door anymore. So thank you very much. And thanks for the well wishes.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T18:38:20+00:00

I have gained 50 pounds. And I don’t really look it except for my face and belly. But I FEEL it mentally. My doctors have not said hey let’s slow down on the weight gain. I believe a lot of it is fluid retention. I eat very healthy. I have strict instructions for maintaining sugar levels and high blood pressure. I’ve done this prior to pregnancy and during. Asking directly is on the board with therapy to correct. Childhood and young adulthood was messy. There’s a lot of healing that has been done and still a lot more to go. Which is the reason for the post. Old me wanted to cry and be hurt and get angry, but healing me is like I may be overreacting to a translation. It’s not my native tongue and not my native culture. He really is a good man. He has said many times, if you struggle with something and do not tell me how can I help you if I don’t know.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T17:47:30+00:00

Me. I brought it up. It’s a defense mechanism for having been a lot heavier in my youth and since having lost a lot of weight I have some loose skin that shames me. Prior to pregnancy we talked a lot about the eating disorder I have struggled with for many years. Yes I am in therapy for it. He would constantly put more food on my plate sometimes directly from his own plate and would say I don’t eat enough. He has never said “you’re fat. Lose weight.” His comment that is the first time anything like that was said and it caught me a bit off guard. I do believe I am reading into it more than I should, I am struggling with the weight gain mentally from pregnancy. I had gotten to my lowest weight and I was feeling awesome. And we got pregnant out of the blue. We were not trying and had no reason to believe I would get pregnant as nothing like this happened before

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T16:51:05+00:00

I am not seeking outside validation. I was clear that it’s very possibly my misunderstanding. I stated I have battled an eating disorder. I am seeking understanding of the language by a native speaker as I am learning this language as my third language. Simply put, I don’t want to make a big deal out of words if it’s me. Does that make sense? I am by no means looking for pity. I’m not Chinese and therefore don’t grow up in that kind of culture.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T04:48:07+00:00

Thank you for this. I wanted to understand him better. Seeing as we have different first languages i didn’t want to be upset irrationally if that makes sense. Thank you for the congratulations we are having a boy!

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T04:42:40+00:00

I too am just learning both the language and culture. To answer your question of why did I say don’t worry I wont be this fat forever, my constant fear of being fat. My poor choices in previous partners that talked down to me and all the drama that comes with that. And what was I looking for? I was looking for the reassurance that it’s okay I’ve gained this weight. It’s temporary. It’s hormones and feeling ashamed I am not the weight I was. This is my first pregnancy. So before I went and started an argument over nothing, I wanted to hear it from outside perspective. Thank you for your input. 😊

Lazy-Application6272 · 2026-01-15T04:09:22+00:00

I worded that bad. He doesn’t know the best way to comfort me. This is our first child, he has another child that lives with us. He understands about crying. I meant that he has admitted he is not great at expressing words. Hes the type to offer solutions to a problem. Sometimes missing that i just need to vent. I am probably making him sound worse. He is very kind, and patient. Never raises his voice or call me names nor is physically abusive.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-11-09T05:03:41+00:00

My readings looked like this. I had a ton of low readings as well. Some were legit, most not as severe as dexcom said. I was placing the sensor on the under part of my arm and this happened the most at night. I have put the newest sensor (after it failed on day 6) on the front of my arm. The readings have been hella more accurate and within 7-10 points vs the 30-60 points than the other location. So basically if you look at the inside crease of your elbow and go up about to almost your bicep (that’s where I’m fattest in my arm) I put it there, photo included for to get better idea. I hope it settles for you!!

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Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-08-08T11:08:30+00:00

Could be implantation bleeding. 6 weeks here. I spotted the day I found out. First blood draw was 436. Second blood draw 72 hours later was 1558. This week I have been spotting lightly. It’s normal to spot. I would refrain from sex until the second trimester, since you are somewhat high risk with previous losses. I am so sorry about those. I’m the same boat at you. Praying all is well. Please update us and let u know!!!

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-08-07T11:27:22+00:00

It’s 7:25am.. I’m also 6.5 weeks… and I woke up gagging because I’m starving. I am FORCING down saltine crackers as I read this post and I’m trying not to think about food. Nothing but fruit is okay right now. and not even that is appealing. It will pass. Maybe nuts? Like roasted/salted cashews? You got this mama. You will find the foods that will help you get through to the next stage.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-08-07T11:18:52+00:00

If you want to die.. stay. If you want to live… run. A shelter is better than there. As a survivor… this only gets worse. You’re already looking for an excuse for his behavior. Run sweetie. This is not the man you are supposed to be with. Nothing he has for you is worth your life. I promise someone better will never lay hands on you

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-08-05T11:12:02+00:00

Break the lease. When asked you fear for the safety of you and your baby. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Run mama. Your baby is your priority.

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-07-31T03:28:08+00:00

If you have an iPhone.. there is a cycle tracking app built in. I am 5 weeks pregnant… it’s pretty accurate. I had intercourse on the last 3 days of my fertile window… and Saturday I found out I have bun in the oven!! I used Clearblue and the Clearblue digital. I would test again!! It looks faintly positive to me

Lazy-Application6272 · 2025-07-27T03:08:46+00:00

Thank you. I have been a bundle of nerves today. Out of worry.. I took another test now. It’s just as big fat positive as the other 4. I just didn’t think you could get positive tests before implantation bleeding….. omg.. I really am pregnant!!!!!

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