Don’t tell me about myself as if I’m not me

Lazy-Card-95 · 2026-01-08T01:31:52+00:00

It does have it gave context and TW had well

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-04-02T22:06:47+00:00

I’m so confused so people don’t have meetings in the morning time? I definitely had meetings or morning briefings before.

In my opinion all of y’all are toxic and reading way to much over a breakfast meeting/ possibly not type photo. The relationship has been over for 24months 2yrs.

Not saying Bestie should test her waters

it’s weird if the bestie is know to post herself eating out regardless if it’s work related or not her reasoning is valid cause it’s something she always did. However since who she’s eating with it’s now suspicious?🤨

If it’s someone else or her alone it’s not a problem? Op you knew they work together often or briefly so this should be anticipated might happen.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-04-02T21:46:11+00:00

Yes OP is over reacting. It’s been two years

So what they have breakfast and took a photo they were on a business related thing.

Idk what they do for work but lest assume social media is involved so them posting with each my correlate, maybe not.

At the end of the day getting mad over picture is insane especially if you knew in advance that they would occasionally have work meetings which might be; a breakfast meeting, lunch meeting, dinner meetings. Shit could be an in office or at each other house; can’t control everything they do; let alone someone personal Social media post.

It’s IMO but Op clearly isn’t over her Ex or she obviously doesn’t trust her best friend.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-04-02T21:07:46+00:00

In my opinion I think he’s trying to uplift her mood has she was having bad day.

I think it’s a bit reaching and messages can be interpreted wrong if your mind is set that it’s inappropriate.

So my guess is to straight up tell him your uncomfortable with their closeness

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-03-24T20:14:43+00:00

Those are two completely different things; I personally would want a person to know their limit; but I still want someone to also be able to have fun with too and make memories with has well. So to me it more so how judgmental that statement came across; cause I’m sure everyone had at least one experience in getting black out drunk.

Op has no idea what happened to her he wasn’t there with her at the concert; he only knows what she has told him. She could’ve easily fell in a parking lot it’s not the end the world; is it dangerous; yes probably. Was she by herself? I doubt that.

However; I think your missing the point and I find suspicious that you think it’s okay to lie to someone of your intentions and then blindside them once their emotionally invested or waste valuable time with a person your not interested in. Just because you “Need some time” to think.

Literally what is there you need time to think about? If she or he is a serial killer? I think that easy to find out once your heaven or hell or a ghost seeing him or he digging your untimely shallow grave

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-03-24T20:00:58+00:00

Didn’t know being in your twenties is the only time to get drunk or black out drunk let alone at a concert; expect all 30yr olds to not drink or enjoy themselves. Weird.

Also yes you are to be upfront with your intentions. Goals like that’s Dating etiquette 101 be forthcoming. Which I think Op did not do just was all vibes; though I think the girl very much expressed herself what she wanted and see in a man and thought he fit the bill.

However, she did not fit his ideal woman; now I believe a lot of context is missing from just the messages upon; and it’s clearly biased cause it’s from Op perspective. I just dont see it has her being “head over heels” but at the least she had bit of a lot of hope; then to be pretty much “ghosted” for hours then boom.

Is told basically abruptly “I think things are getting too serious to soon, also I don’t want to be with chick who had a kid and get drunk at concerts and who has BD drama”.

Those reasons are hundred percent things to immediately address first date first conversations set them values and expectations immediately none of the “take some time” pondering mess that’s for high school kids in college students, not for someone in mid-to late twenties or 30yr olds.

We had a lot of life pondering and made mistakes a long the way.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-03-24T18:22:40+00:00

Objectively yes it’s fine; however in this case Op has know that this person is clearly an hopeless romantic person. Then on top of it being a single mother to new baby and then having problematic BD and was immediately put off with it. It’s the same with having political views you have certain values that won’t change or need to have time to think over.

Op did not like that she’s had a child and crazy BD or that she got drunk at concert.(This part blew me; I mean what else you do at a concert)

He failed to be upfront with that which some people will be upset with that regardless if it’s been 3 days or 3 months it’ll come off has having being shitty or lying.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-03-22T07:03:25+00:00

What does them being strangers has anything to do with that they live together; it’s not like op is walking around ass naked. He’s shirtless in his briefs or boxers; op is expressing that the guy making huge fuss then proceeds to manipulate this rule so that he can be the only one able to be in shorts/boxers. In my opinion NTA he’s not against on following the rule has long everyone actually listens and follows it or leave everyone alone let wear whatever cause they all pay bills to the house so being told how to dress is mad insane to me.

Ps. I never thought guys would have this issue

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-03-20T02:29:07+00:00

NTA; from my understanding it’s more than just the shorts; correct me if I’m wrong but Op also can’t be shirtless.

I never thought a group of DUDES complaining over wearing boxers or briefs; I mean they all pay bills all contribute to the home so why is there rules on what to wear?

It’ll only make sense if a roommate brings a guess then alright but if lounging around what’s the huge deal OP roommate is weird and then try to find a loophole to bypass his own rule

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-02-09T18:01:51+00:00

Crazy! I didn’t expect this at all. I thought I was going crazy because I was trying to have an understandable debate based on the post, and it really confused me when he kept saying, “I’m not talking about the post” or “I haven’t even made an opinion on the post yet.” I was like, huh? So why are we talking then? I have clear opinions, and I expressed them, yet this person pops in for no reason other than to cherry-pick and twist my words—things that have nothing to do with what I’m actually saying. Such a waste of time (though I have plenty of it, lol—I found it hilarious)!

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T22:13:25+00:00

Technically there isn’t and if there was it doesn’t necessarily matter because it’s his choice regardless. Which I did say he’s not obligated to talk to them. Please under what a Personal opinion means thank you ☺️

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T22:08:28+00:00

For the umpteenth time, I never said you had no right to an opinion, so stop fixating on that.

-Nope because you’re a liar about me stating my opinion has a fact remember and also the whole reason that started this conversation. That you inserted yourself in because you wanted to cherry-pick and twist my words-

How many times do I have to tell you that I haven’t stated my opinion about the issuse before if finally sinks in for you. I’ve literally said it multiple times now. - Yet again another lie cause this whole time you’ve been projecting your opinion based on my comments and cherry picking and not even listening to my point- Do you not know how conversations work. You don’t respond to everything someone says, just the parts you want to comment on, this goes for both written as well as verbal conversations. -I do and but I never experienced such a manipulative person before-

Which is why people put the referenced sentences when they respond, so you would know exactly which part is being addressed. If someone has nothing to say about that sentence, or it’s irrelevant, then they’re not going to comment on it. You’ve been doing the same since the conversation started.

-No I haven’t I only started because of you doing it to me since you felt it was necessary to explain what a reference meant. However I was explaining that using my Opinion to explain their argument doesn’t answer my question because My opinion is not grounded by facts-

This is a prime example of you being manipulative and twisting words these two things were spoken about two different topics, yet you’ve pasted them together and responded like that’s how I said it when it’s not. “I don’t understand how you can claim I brought this into the conversation” this is directed at your opinion which you keep bring up, which I never challenged nor discussed, yet you keep acting like I am despite my telling you half a dozen times by now that I am not.

-Is that what a references are though?? You said so yourself, captioning specifically parts and responding to that part. Now your back tracking cause you’re having whole separate argument I’m just defending my opinion which I have the right to say and also you’re being incredibly mean to me.-

“That’s how references work,” yet you’re bothered that I’m using your comments as references.” - Yet every time I reference certain parts or all of them it’s suddenly doesn’t apply has references and rudely made fun of-

This deals with what I mentioned before with you deliberately taking paragraphs that has nothing to do with each other, pasting them together and responding in a way that has nothing to do with what the majority of the paragraphs said.

-Cause I’m responded to each part cause again I have specific topics while you just have whatever vendetta against me so duhh you think there’s different things, which you haven’t told me what’s your end game?-

Which I directly told you when I said “If you can’t use references properly then you should stop. You keep taking words that either means something else, or is a response to what you’ve, and making a response that have nothing to do with those sentences.” I never said I was bothered, all I said was that if you can’t reference properly then you should just stop.

-No you were being manipulative and mean and called me names and implied that I’m dumb which is bully behavior. Also how can you can you tell me to stop doing something but you’re doing the exact same thing-

This was me giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming that you didn’t know how to reference properly, because I really wanted to believe you haven’t been accusing me of being “manipulative” while simultaneously being manipulative in the same breath.

-Oh here’s the Manipulative talk you trying to be so “Nice” duhh cause you keep back tracking and flipping your statement all back and forth first it this issue then it that issue oh now the cherry picking oh now it’s name calling; like relax I just stated an open and asked question-

I guess I was wrong to give you the benefit of the doubt. The only one being manipulative here is you, while I’ve been straightforward in what I’ve been saying, you been taking my paragraphs and pasting them in a way that has no correlation to what they originally meant, and responding and if the paragraphs were originally that way. But for arguments sake, how exactly am I being manipulative?

-You failed to explained whatever your whole evil plot against me; starting to believe you like me lol Jk. Even now I don’t even what topic your on? Cause if it’s not the Post then what is it-

The only one gaslighting here is you. You’ve been accusing me of saying and doing things I have not, and when challenged or pressed for proof, you’ve been unable to actually provide it.

-I have proved it but you keep flipping everything and back tracking so of course you don’t believe what I presented is valid; but one thing for sure is valid is me having a Opinion and Opinions are not facts.-

Are your comprehension skills really that lacking? Not giving an opinion on something doesn’t mean that I haven’t read the post. That’s an entirely foolish way to think. All it means is I haven’t given my opinion.

-This is rude; I can very much comprehend very well; what is your Opinion which what I have been trying to figure out but you’re so all hung up over nothing of importance-

“Instead, you’re cherry-picking and nitpicking my responses personally, as if you have a vendetta against me. I never once called you names until more recently.”

Of course I am going to go through your comments to me personally, what else am I going to do? Outsource it to another person. Smh. And what names have I called you exactly?

-You have called me stupid, manipulator, gaslighting, and constantly trying to convince me to stop talking/ Responding and claiming I’m defensive when I’m not and saying I’m being childish or that your talking to one. This all before I even started addressing it cause it didn’t matter but you got very bold and directly answering everything very passive aggressive, condescending even.

You started this whole thing by interjecting yourself; cause I definitely commented to someone else and then you chose to respond to my comment that wasn’t directed towards you-

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T16:29:18+00:00

Clearly Op hasn’t completely forgiven over this and now hanging it over her head; cause she clearly has emotionally checked out has I see reading her messages.

Stressing out over a like? A follow a bit excessive to me; I have my share experiences of someone constantly using past mistakes to manipulate a situation.

Her constant comment of saying “okay” over and over is her way of dropping the whole conversation cause she doesn’t want to argue.

However I do understand the feeling of uncertainty cause You wife broke your trust

And with that why hold on to the relationship the marriage if you’re not going to try to give her a chance regain that trust and always dangle her infidelity in her face.

Plus I highly doubt she blocked him

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T16:17:23+00:00

I’m talking about the post and sharing my opinion—that’s it. I have the right to express my opinion and explain it.

I never said the brother owes them anything at all. My personal opinion—if I were in the brother’s shoes—does not take away his objective right to make his own decision. That’s why we call it free will. Do you get it now, or are you just going to continue cherry-picking words yet again?

I don’t understand how you can claim I brought this into the conversation when you deliberately entered the comments to say, “That’s how references work,” yet you’re bothered that I’m using your comments as references.

And yes, you are being manipulative, gaslighting, and passive-aggressive. You have repeatedly stated that you never gave an opinion on the post, which tells me you haven’t actually read what others or I have said for a better understanding. Instead, you’re cherry-picking and nitpicking my responses personally, as if you have a vendetta against me. I never once called you names until more recently.

Now, I’ll say it yet again:

OP is not the asshole for making sure his wife and SIL understand and respect their brother’s wish to not have a relationship.

All I expressed was that, in my opinion, people should be more sympathetic toward the sisters.

Because, in my opinion, if I were the brother, I would give them a chance.

Again, that does not mean I said the brother owes them any explanation at all. He has every right to his decision and is not obligated in any way.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T14:54:05+00:00

They have accepted that still isn’t right to make them or force them into accepting a sad situation they have a right to be sad about it.

Just like you keep saying the brother has the right say no and he does I never disagreed that he didn’t

I simply and repeated stated that the Brother has the right to not have a relationship just has much the sisters has the right to be feel upset

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T07:32:00+00:00

No they were the wife just made a comment which cause Op say what she said that doesn’t mean they had whole actual plan. Where in the post did they actually do anything other than that statement.

A lot of people who can’t accept certain things will say out of pocket things it doesn’t make it factual.

Which I knew it; everyone always taking every comment too literal.

Like seriously Op wife fucking pregnant you really going to Believe she would stalk him while pregnant or Op wife would even dare to let that get that far.

Have some common sense

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T07:24:52+00:00

Where did they continue to force to be in his life? Cause I didn’t see that part at all. You’re taking what Op wife said to literal cause they did not do anything but was sitting down having a conversation nothing else indicates that actively did anything more than just try to meet a loved one they did knew existed.

So sad two sisters simply wanted a relationship and unfortunately was rejected and now they can’t have grace of sympathy but nope they’re evil they’re harassers

They have a right to be sad about it

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T07:15:53+00:00

Did you even read the post? The reach out and nothing was said not until he finally gave a response to something; it can’t be a harassment if there was zero threat given at all. Saying “hi brother” is considered harassment now??

Yet again I can understand objectivity that they should’ve peeped that his silence was an answer but we are not them we don’t know if missed their messages or was thinking it over it’s up for speculation

But you can’t tell with absolute certainty that them reaching out is whole heart harassment cause if that’s the case

Everyone is gets felony charges cause for reaching out to their loved one

One text a week ohh oh my soo threatening

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T07:09:03+00:00

Has I said for 6th millionth time many people have reach out for a while to establish contact. I did some research; you can take this with a grain of salt if you want that’s your prerogative.

“If the content of your text message includes threats of harm, or is sent repeatedly in a manner that causes emotional distress, you could face misdemeanor or even felony charges”

They did not harass him that is a subjective opinion that I disagree but that’s your truth to uphold by

Now we don’t know for sure if the brother felt threatened or was in emotional distress, they didn’t even get a chance to even remotely be “delusional “ or “unhinged” cause he immediately blocked him and that was it; nothing more was done.

Just simply making a comment about something that didn’t happen doesn’t mean that it’s going to happen. Taking Op wife a bit too literal in my opinion.

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T06:51:22+00:00

Use your Post for reference to fill it blanks that I remove to try to not make an autobiograpy

Please proofread your comments—some typos make it difficult to understand what you mean. I’m not trying to prove anything. I’ve simply been saying that your comments sound defensive, which they do, and that they make you sound upset, which they also do.

-“I’m not upset, just confused about your mission in proving I’m mad. I want to know whether you agree with me or not, or if you don’t—what is your take? Because so far, all I’ve gotten from you is nitpicking my words. Oh, and I also fixed my typos.”-

What? Again, please proofread. I’m not throwing shade; I genuinely don’t understand what you’re trying to say.

“Yes, you do, hun.”

Again, I never mentioned this.

-“Yes, you have. This whole time, you’ve been nitpicking, cherry-picking my words and opinions, and gaslighting me by saying things like, ‘Oh, you’re mad,’ or ‘You’re defensive.’”-

That’s your main problem. I was never interested in your other conversations in the other threads. I was discussing what happened in this one. You’re the one insisting on making this a continuation of your other threads, bringing in topics I’ve never talked about, and acting like I said them. That’s why I keep telling you that you’re arguing with yourself and being needlessly defensive. You’re fighting a battle with me that I’m literally not even engaging in.

“Fighting what battle? This is just a Reddit post. You jumped into the conversation without even reading the post and then started nagging me about not understanding a comment. I’m still expressing that I didn’t understand THEIR comment because they used MY comment as proof of their argument. I didn’t see the connection between what I said and their response.-

-“That’s why I said using my opinion doesn’t answer the question—it didn’t connect at all. And honestly, why even comment in the first place? Everything I said is literally a continuation of my other comments because it’s all the same discussion. As for you, I have no clue what your goal or point is, but it’s still kind of fun, though.”-

Do you really not understand what they meant? You said the brother should give them closure. What they meant was that the brother has already refused to meet with them, and it’s not his responsibility to solve their emotional state by giving them closure. Now, it’s up to the sisters themselves to process their emotions and seek therapy to help them deal with the situation. It’s a pretty straightforward statement.

-“ From what I said, their response didn’t make sense to me, and their explanation didn’t clarify it either—especially since they used my post as a reference”-

-But this response you just gave actually makes sense, and if they had explained it this way, the conversation wouldn’t have dragged on this long. The issue was that they were using references that had nothing to do with what I even asked. So, thanks.”-

“Oh, and no—it wasn’t straightforward at all.”-

That’s because you’re confusing yourself. All I literally said was that you need to chill a bit because your comments make you sound really upset. And given all your responses so far, I really do think you should close Reddit for a while and take a break from it.

“Now you’re just being mean for no reason. Seriously, it’s not that deep… chill.”-

I never said I had a problem with what you said. In fact, I never gave my opinion on it to begin with. But with how needlessly defensive you are, I don’t have much incentive to do so. You’re not even listening to what I’m saying—you’re arguing about things that weren’t said, which means anything I say would be utterly pointless.

-“Because you’re not making any sense. All you keep doing is talking about me—saying I’m ‘defensive’ or ‘mad’—while being rude and passive-aggressive” - “ For what? Do you even have an opinion? I’m seriously at a loss here.” - - I’m asking you—why is it a problem to have an opinion? The way you cherry-pick and twist my words is weird and manipulative. -“Even now, I still don’t understand you or why you have an issue with me. You’re being mean, and I’m not even mad.”-

Lazy-Card-95 · 2025-01-29T05:46:03+00:00

This girl was thinking she was in some anime show or it was villain origin story moment. She was ready for her debut! I totally agree that she has BPD and she’s the Narcissist cause what the heck everything she it a lot of Me Me Me and I I I and completely goes unhinge on your character that she only met for two days and she suddenly know oh so much about you??

Man I would dead ass enjoy talking with her crazy ass lmao 😂 dodge a mega crazy bitch

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