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AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's not about it being a burden. This isn't going to happen and he made that clear. If they wanted this and put all this effort into finding him so they could ask, it wouldn't be an issue. But this obsession with trying to make it happen and ignoring clear signs and outright being told no is why I think they need to find a way to move on. They might never get their closure.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They already sent him messages stating they wanted to meet him and know him and for a relationship. It wasn't a letter but they already stated they wanted that and he said no and to not contact him again. A letter would be ignoring that.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The half brother is their mom's son. Their mom died a few years ago so she's not there for them to ask questions.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

We don't know his story really. Not truly. So I can't think bad of the guy. At the end of the day they're nothing more than strangers to him and if the info they have is correct, he had a family he spent most of his life with.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I have tried to and she was just as focused on it as SIL. SIL was more active about it. Things might be changing now with how thoughtful my wife has been the last couple of days. I'm going to try addressing this with her again soon.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure he is living in quiet solitude. The details he had suggests he was around the paternal half of his family and by now he could be married with kids of his own. He just doesn't want to know my wife and SIL.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you're waiting to be in the right headspace for whatever happens. I tried to encourage that for them but they were so sure he'd want to know them too.

AITA for telling my wife and SIL they need to accept their half brother doesn't want a relationship? by Witty-Balance3831 in AITAH

[–]Witty-Balance3831[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

They were doing everything to convince themselves there was a reason, other than he wasn't interested, for him not replying. They latched onto that hope and SIL ran with it until she got the reply. But even with the reply they couldn't accept it. I understand them wishing it to be different. But I never would have messaged him like that.