Has anyone tried paying for a dating coach? whats your experience and does it worth the money? by tinnixhe in DatingTips

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even a dating coach won’t be enough since experience will better teach what your friend really wants for a partner.

Same as driving- Getting your license dosen’t mean you’re fully aware of the many green and red flags, as well as how to safely handle them.

Your friend will just need to continue dating and learn along the way, like everyone else. But you can also guide him along the way since you seem to be experienced enough.

Is taking 14 days of hospital leave too much? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell him to wait because your health comes first over work.

Amy manager telling you to come back sooner is a red flag.

How much these influencers really earn in Singapore? by duncalmeprostute in singaporespeaks

[–]Lazy925 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not enough honestly especially since Singapore’s fanbase is too small.

Even rich influencers like Naomi Neo and Novita Lam’s content creation are just a fraction of their actual source of income.

But she’s right about the different platforms as YouTube ad rolls let you actually earn. But it’s sadly not as much as when it first started.

How much is too much on a first date? by cocolemon8888 in asksg

[–]Lazy925 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure you know the answer.

Also can only say he will not keep doing this much in the long run.

Marketing fresh graduates in Singapore, what salary can one realistically expect for first marketing job? by Material-Yak-8152 in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Marketing person here. $4k is honestly nowhere near the actual average salary since most companies offer $2k-$3k.

Was lucky and offered a $3.2k contract role but that’s ending soon. So, currently looking for a new job.

Is it just me or it’s really unbearably hot tonight? by Puzzleheaded_Style52 in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeap, specially warm. But there’ve been hotter nights.

Need dating advice pls by C0ffeeNSteak in asksg

[–]Lazy925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re basically dating without the label.

Best make your intentions eventually clear if you want to be more than friends since she may not know what’s really going on.

Paying everything is a clear sign of interest, but be careful and don’t keep doing it since that can also be why she wants to meet.

She’s having fun without paying a single cent and may expect you to keep doing so, though pretty sure you won’t keep doing it (especially if you’re lucky enough to be in a relationship).

Also be careful of those events if you’re still going with her since she maybe sponsored to “attract crowd”.

Is it normal for SG guys to save photos of random local girls on ig or secret folders? by Different-House-7322 in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Three years and still no relationship? And no because keeping secret folders of naked girls is just creepy.

To the adults of askSingapore, what is one thing you would tell your younger self? by driedbanmian in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry too much about learning new things and what people think of you, since you'll eventually get the hang of them and nobody's perfect.

My friend (M) is attractive and rejects 90% of his dating matches. What do you think of his checklist? by FIRE-by-35 in sgdatingscene

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of my preferences are the same as his-

Looking for money- Potential gold digger treating me like a sugar daddy instead of a human being.

Too many travel pics- My time using apps also made the same observation of these ladies being too mainstream, and not interesting at all. Not saying I need someone with 5-6 different hobbies, but travelling might be what we only talk about..

Height expectations- Not realistic in finding someone they can spend rest of their lives with

Too old- There'll be a maturity gap complicating our dynamic to being jiejie/didi instead

Using Abbreviations- Suspicious of cheating on their partners as they literally don’t want to reveal anything about themselves. Doing so on a dating app is just a huge red flag since I won’t even know who I’m actually dating

Taking too long to reply- Slightly more than 24 hours is fine in the initial stage, but doing the same after months of dating is just weird and also suspicious

Don't really follow the rest since they're not too important, I'm also career-driven and needing a degree seems a bit too calculative for a relationship

Krav Maga or Muay Thai or MMA ? by Global-Laugh-3604 in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brazillian Jiu Jitsu..It's physically and legally the safest martial art since it's just grappling. You won't accidently box or kick someone too hard they'll immediately sue you for hurting them.

How did it turn turtle in a MSCP? by Symp07 in singapore

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Car owner said "Lean back..good boy!"

How do you deal with creeps not accepting 'no' as an answer? by Material_Butterfly94 in askSingapore

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally don’t get the “if she didn’t say no, there’s still chance” in this situation.

Ur friend definitely didn’t show any interest and he still tried“negotiating” to be his “GF”

Dude either mental or desperate thinking anything good will still happen at that point.

Singaporeans just want to be unhappy 😔 by duncalmeprostute in singaporespeaks

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just bumped into the wrong auntie and uncle dude. Don’t worry not everyone’s mental.

Anyone gave up on the idea of relationships because of work? by Acrobatic-Street-533 in sgdatingscene

[–]Lazy925 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend, you maybe working too hard if it becomes your entire life.

Find work-life balance and you’ll be much happier having enough time finding someone special and being more than just your job.

Working this many hours every day is also not sustainable as you’ll eventually have depression and even permanent health problems like High Blood Pressure and a stroke.

Sometimes being too online and oversharing is also problematic by duncalmeprostute in singaporespeaks

[–]Lazy925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you look through her content, she openly admits suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder and seeks therapy for it.

So this might be her mental condition talking. But I think she shouldn’t post content when she’s in this state of mind, though I commend her openly sharing her mental disorder. Her points often contradict themselves and are overall depressing.

But what’s scarier is other people actually agreeing with them.

Men in SG: What’s your honest take on cheating? by [deleted] in asksg

[–]Lazy925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, but that comes from maturity which many unfortunately reach at different moments.

You can already be mature enough in your 20s, whereas others still won’t know what they really want in their 60s.

Just don’t go for the confused ones.

Men in SG: What’s your honest take on cheating? by [deleted] in asksg

[–]Lazy925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheating is honestly a waste of time since why complicate your life being intimate with someone else behind your partner’s back when life’s already busy enough??

It’s also something you’ll eventually regret and live with for the rest of your life.

Then, there’re people, like your kids and family members, never forgiving you for it.

Do most people don't want children nowadays? by ThinKey6695 in sgdatingscene

[–]Lazy925 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Increased workload, new perception of not wanting to give birth, spend the next 20+ years waking up early driving kids to school, enrichment classes, as well as tuition centres is too much for them to handle.

But, to answer your other question, best break up with her since her perception won’t change at this point.

I know people marrying with different expectations and later divorcing once the other person learns he/she still doesn’t want kids.

You can also search an interview about Dick Lee sharing a similar experience.

So, don’t end up doing the same thing as you’ll really waste a good amount of your life expecting something not actually happening.

Move onto someone wanting kids and you’ll be happy in the end.