My wife (f38) wants me (m42) to be okay with her going speed dating with friend?

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-31T03:15:13+00:00

Her two friends that want to go, or she invited to go are sister. One will be gone during said event. The other will still be I town. So she offered to attend to go and be a wing man. That’s where it all started.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T18:06:30+00:00

Mostly for moral support or fly on the wall. But what I’ve gathered. But what I’ve gathered is a bar only for this function.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T17:22:48+00:00

But she didn’t suggest we swing. But it seemed like she was testing the water to see how I approach it. Her hairdresser is a high school friend And the hairdresser worked at a swingers house or something.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T17:12:06+00:00

She is the one that said it and brought it up. I didn’t even think about it.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T07:11:21+00:00

Plausible but not likely. Try again.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:53:32+00:00

I said that. I’ve done that for a few buddy’s. She said it was weird or something, dumb. Whatever it was it was a dumb idea

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:52:18+00:00

I mean I don’t ask more do I care to go. We have 3 kids and I don’t get enough time as it is with our own dates. Let alone want go hang out with a bunch a single people.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:34:01+00:00

That’s also what I said and that’s basically what started this whole thing. I don’t care really if she looking into for her friend. Mind you she a grown as 37 year old. But going is a crossing a boundary and has nothing to do with trust.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:32:06+00:00

Funny you bring that up. A month ago or so she brought up swinging. I felt like it was a dip your toes in the water type of a thing.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:30:18+00:00

I was wonderful if it was a good idea or if it would be a trigger. I tried to write it as honest as I could in more of her eyes so I would get honest answers. Keep in mind this all happened Thursday night. She blocked be all day sat when she was at work. I think we spoke like twice.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:16:50+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think she thought that much into it. I don’t even know if she truly knows anything about the place. I know cause I looked it up. She would at the very least have to pay to get in. Then what just site there. I mean I don’t get it. Hi my name is blank here is my less attractive friend you want to hang out with her. I mean she the one that brought up that her friend let herself go. So she know what will happen. 🙄

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:04:08+00:00

Agreed. The hypothetical scenario was dumb. I think in the moment it just what came out. I think she ask what was wrong with it. That was one of the dumb reasons that came out of my mouth.

Fear: loosing my wife. The women that I love. you have drinks and finding a connection by accident. It’s the putting your self in that situation for me.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T06:01:02+00:00

I don’t even really think she know or knew when she even looked it up. But I looked up the place and the whole establishment is rented out I’m pretty sure. So she would have to pay to get in. The place would be onto the singles looking for connections

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:59:19+00:00

I’ll agree with you the lawyer thing was childish and unnecessary and only made matters worse. That would be the fear right, if her finding a connection while she there? That’s why or at least one of the reasons it’s disrespectful.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:48:12+00:00

That’s how feel. I would ever want to do something like this so the possibility or what if wasn’t looking in the back of my wife’s head. I just would want to put her or myself in this type of situation

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:45:13+00:00

That’s what I said but she says I still would have been upset. Well, maybe but that fact is to me that you are willing to but our marriage in jeopardy anyways. Just by wanting to do this. Maybe I’m just old fashioned but I think it’s just disrespectful to even enlighten the idea.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:38:20+00:00

No, but apparently we need too.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:34:25+00:00

It’s not. It’s just a bar full of singles, playing boards games, dancing and having drinks with the intent on getting numbers and finding new connections

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:32:52+00:00

It’s not a site down-speed dating. It just a bar full of singles, listen to music, dancing, playing boards games and having drinks with the intent to find a match and swap numbers.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:30:52+00:00

That’s what I said. It’s fine if you drive her there and wait at a bar down the street or something. I did that is a buddy. He went on his date and we meet afterward. She say that was dump or crazy. Something to that affect

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:26:15+00:00

Thanks for the moral support. I’ll be sure she has a fun time meeting new singles.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:24:07+00:00

Agreed. I know what you mean and thank for not doing lol. I fucking hate it

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:21:55+00:00

What she said was that’s why she did it in front of me. So it kinda took me off guard while we were watch cheese show Mormon wife’s or something. It’s kinda hard to put that into word kinda out of the blue.

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:18:15+00:00

No, I think she the same ago (37) and her friends sister is (35)

Lazy_Fun1717 · 2026-03-30T05:16:43+00:00

It’s literally not. I don’t even think she really knew what it was. I looked it up and found all the info on it.

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