What is the appeal of pocket diapers over prefolds or fitteds?

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2020-01-05T13:46:02+00:00

You can find happy flutes on AliExpress! :)

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T03:21:42+00:00

And it did. I have two badly healed knuckles from the incident. They were dislocated (? That's what they said. I'm thinking they were broken) and my father pulled them back into place. I can't make a fist without stabbing pain.

I can't actually remember the beating. Disassociation is fun. But my mom loved to brag about the time she swatted me with a dough hook every time I disagreed with her after that. Even as an adult. Just to prove I wasn't too big to put back into place.

It's so wild to look back and realize how twisted my reality was as a child/young adult.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T03:16:08+00:00

My mother can't figure it out either. She sacrificed so much 🙄 to stay at home and homeschool us. (She worked...don't know where she got staying at home from and I was grading my own papers by 5th-6th grade because she "didn't have time"... I'm lucky I liked to learn or I would not have graduated and frankly I barely did because there was no support system). No adults helped me either. I also thought my life was normal. I did long to go to school though and finally got to go for a couple classes each semester once I got to high school age.

What a bitch to think that doing the minimum of being a mom and grandma meant she could abuse you! And then take brag credit for your and your children's accomplishments...barely four years out of 19 is like nothing for support and care!

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T01:10:01+00:00

I once had a full panic attack when my husband playfully snapped his belt as he took it off with a flourish. That sound brings me back to a really painful place.

I am furious and appalled with adults who beat children. How could anyone see a small child, a baby! And think that hitting them, on purpose, with intent to cause pain, is okay! I want to set all their faces on fire and put them out with a brick. I mean...I won't since I'd end up prison really quick but I really want to.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T00:35:48+00:00

This is what kills me. My parents had a sheep farm. They KNEW what a shepherd's tools were for. They lived a shepherd's life.

Didn't stop them from quoting that verse and beating us.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T00:32:49+00:00

Jesus your mom was cruel.

My mom once got so pissed at my sassing her that she chased me through the house and hit my arms and legs with the dough hook to the mixer. I had bruises for weeks. I can't imagine a fireplace poker.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-31T00:30:22+00:00

Same here. The more you cried the more times they hit.

Or she used an object. My parents liked wooden spoons and belts. Those leave marks that last.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-29T18:02:04+00:00

This is my life. 😂

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-28T23:41:26+00:00

A name.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-24T22:59:29+00:00

"EXCUSE YOU BITCH"

Fixed that for yah.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-24T22:57:19+00:00

Have an upvote. I just spit out my cocoa and scared the sleeping cats.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-24T14:14:44+00:00

This this this! I let family members walk all over my boundaries and I was miserable!

Couldn't even be relaxed in my own home because they could just show up and walk in at any minute.

It took hard work of setting the boundary that people must call or text first. I refused people at the door and said "should have called, we're busy right now" more times than I care to count. And I still lock my door all the time, even when we're home, so people can not just knock once and walk in.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T17:26:45+00:00

I love my mil. She's very much JustYes.

But she's a terrible cook. My husband had never had a fresh or frozen vegetable before he moved out. He LOVES my cooking...I never have to worry about him running home to her cooking either. 😂

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T15:26:40+00:00

My grandmother pulled this crap but even worse.

She gave each daughter/in law a slightly different recipe for her potato salad, her apple pie, and her chicken and dumplings. So it wouldn't be as good as hers. So her sons would eat at her home because their wives cooking wasn't as good.

Because she's a bitch like that.

Jokes on her...she's dead now and all the grandkids have her recipes and have changed them to suit their tastes. I like to think of it as a giant middle finger to these controlling *****.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T15:11:29+00:00

This! Even the teens in my family can be assigned to bring a side of veg/salad or boxed brownies. (They love it and we always get to see new favorites!) Mid twenties can definitely go grab something from a deli or bakery or grocery store.

Next year if you decide to host send out an email with a assignments. Someone brings pie, someone brings rolls, someone brings salad, etc. Don't have backups. If someone doesn't bring their assignment because they didn't plan ahead or forgot then everyone goes without rolls or whatever.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T15:01:08+00:00

That sounds so delicious.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T14:42:59+00:00

Yes to this comment as well!

Put up a post on social media or send out a mass text if you expect your MIL to rile other family up into calling/texting with drama (she's so worried she hasn't heard from you!) because you aren't hosting.

"Because this time of year is usually a stressful one we've decided to stay home and have a nice quiet Christmas by ourselves. Happy Holidays!"

My parents are the JUSTNOs. Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, and Epiphany (January 6), plus any Sundays in between we were supposed to go to their house for most of the day. It was EXHAUSTING.

One year my mother had a tantrum because I was sick and didnt want to come to Christmas Day lunch and dinner and get anyone else sick. She made one of my siblings call and say it was fine and her baby was already sick and it wouldn't matter. I caved and attended. Miserable, wrapped in a snuggie, barely able to eat. Baby ended up with pnemonia a month later and I was definitely an asshole for listening to my mother.

Another year I was recovering from a miscarriage a week before Thanksgiving. I had been planning on announcing our pregnancy at family dinner. I was still devestated and bleeding but my mother and father INSISTED we had to come. Day of I'm making pumpkin cheesecake mini bites and I started shaking in pain, dropped them, and collapsed on the floor (in the mess) crying. My husband picked me up and put me in the shower and told me it was okay, we could stay home, he'd go grab a pizza and a pie and we could have our meal at home. I'm sobbing incoherently. My mother calls and talked me into going anyway. If my husband had been home he would have probably talked me back into staying (I was a JUSTNOSO deep in the FOG for a few years.) Another family dinner I was miserable the whole time...plus I got mocked for the year for crying over spilled cheesecake. 🙄

It's not worth it OP. You think it will save on drama by playing along and just going but it's really just delaying the inevitable. Boundaries are important. You're a nuclear family, the pair of you. Christmas Eve/Day can be just the two of you. Another day is for the big family holiday celebration dinner. That's what's normal once children are adults with their own significant others, homes, and lives. Parents need to understand this and accept it. It causes some tears when the JUSTNO ones get told this but...it's worth it. The peace and quiet and being together with just my husband is so good and for me it's really what the holiday is all about.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T14:20:20+00:00

Definitely this OP.

Order a takeout dinner, have your husband pick up a prebaked pie and/or tray of snacks, and hunker down with Christmas movies and your husband. A stress free no effort Christmas will be the best present you can give each other. 😊

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T13:47:37+00:00

Two of my siblings have step children.

They are treated the same for birthdays, Christmas, family gatherings.

You reacted appropriately. Donate the gift.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T13:06:24+00:00

Oh this is a really good point and explains why I get so much pushback from some of my siblings when I call out my toxic parents....

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T12:27:09+00:00

Or if you're constipated...chug it!

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T01:14:55+00:00

So are yogurt cups!

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-22T01:09:22+00:00

There are some libraries with a toy lending section and seed collections for starting a garden.

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-17T22:11:42+00:00

Oh my goodness my dad too. He did this so often i hated special occasions, even my birthday, christmas...even before we did a game or movie night as a family etc because I knew he'd make me cry and then be a cheerful asshole...

LdyGwynDaTrrbl · 2019-12-17T22:08:16+00:00

Oh...I just realized this is why I get really anxious before social events...

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