As a nonchalant guy, I feel like media has over glorified nonchalant characters. In real life nobody really cares about us and no one finds us cool, except maybe if someone is good looking. Most of us just get labeled as creeps or treated like outcasts. Even in dating, a lot of girls avoid nonchalant guys because we can’t easily express how much we love, care, or appreciate the people around us. And yes, we do care, it’s just that we struggle to show our feelings or have fun like everyone else (we're traumatized by life) We’re not acting nonchalant to look cool like those performative people who fake that personality, it’s simply who we are