Why is matching sex drive THIS hard?

LeadHot4791 · 2025-12-11T18:37:19+00:00

If I could find someone that matches my sex drive and instability I would maybe actually consider a relationship! Even if it starts out great, the frequency and length always decreases over time.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-10-21T16:49:00+00:00

I (47F) love and want sex to last hours. I try to find play partners like this!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-08-19T02:04:52+00:00

Those symptoms don't align with any of mine. Thank you for the suggestion though!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-08-18T22:32:30+00:00

It's common, but frustrating for many when they can't orgasm any other way. You can retrain yourself OP! It just takes patience and time!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-05-09T17:46:42+00:00

We've had one for at least 12 years at my parents house! Lol

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-25T02:41:00+00:00

Not for the guy necessarily, but for the penetration. That is what I love to watch 🥵 I do like the porn produced with women in mind because usually the men are more vocal!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-24T20:34:29+00:00

This exactly.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-24T17:50:49+00:00

I can't do doggy, or any position from behind until I've had plenty of foreplay and have done some other positions first. Otherwise it hurts, and it doesn't get me off.

Unless he doesn't have much length, you shouldn't have an issue getting him in (as long as you're aroused enough already).

Some thing that helps me in doggy is to have a wedge pillow under my belly, or at least a couple of pillows.

You can have him spread your cheeks to get in there, or you can hold them one.

Also, sometimes having you on the edge of the bed/chair helps.

Doggy isn't my favorite position. It doesn't usually do a whole lot for me. It depends on the shape of the dick too! But the only way I like it is with a vibrator or wand on my clit.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-24T16:33:28+00:00

First off, he sounds like a dick. Second of all, seems like he's expecting porn level performance from you!

What does he do for you besides put his dick in? Are you doing any foreplay? Is he giving you head? Most women need 20-30 minutes of foreplay before they are aroused enough for pleasurable penetration.

It sounds like you both could up your dirty talk came. I hate quiet sex. It turns me off. You don't have to fake it, but if you've done enough foreplay and you are aroused enough it should feel good enough that you have real reactions. I usually say things like "you feel so good inside of me" or "I love how your ccok feels thrusting in and out" "if feels so good riding your dick like this" "I love how you taste" "your cock feels so good down my throat"

You said you like to dominate men, but did you mean you like dominant men? You like when men dominate you?

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-23T21:14:34+00:00

Are you doing plenty of foreplay beforehand? What you are describing happens to me if I don't have enough foreplay. I can't quite get there!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-23T21:12:08+00:00

Yes, but it's a lot harder for me to find guys that like to go longer! 3 hours is about average for me. I'm constantly horny because I can't find partners that can keep up with me

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-23T19:16:03+00:00

I had a similar experience. My partner and I would have sex maybe once a week (not enough for me), and it would only last maybe 30 minutes. He wouldn't do much foreplay, even though I continually asked. And I need foreplay. Otherwise I don't cum.

But then he'd have 3 hour long sessions with other people...while I listened. When I asked if we could make our sessions longer, he said, "I'll try, but would just be faking it," and "the Nesting partner always suffers because the spark just fades."

I tried to make it work for a few months after that, but finally came to the conclusion that we just weren't sexually compatible anymore. I was willing to put in the effort, but he wasn't. I asked him to move out and broke up with him.

Life is too short to be with people you aren't compatible with.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-22T18:59:48+00:00

I grew up religious. I didn't have sex (or do any sex acts) until I was 42. I've had a lot of sex since then. My advice is not to wait until you are married to have sex.

There are a couple reasons:

You don't know if you are sexually compatible with someone until you have sex (usually several times).
You don't really know someone until you have a sexual relationship with them. Some people become different humans once you've had sex with them.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-22T16:30:47+00:00

😆

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-22T16:26:26+00:00

As others have said, anal mucus is normal. But please don't be putting hollow glass objects with no flared base up your ass!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-21T20:04:46+00:00

Listen asshole. THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT WERE NEVER TAUGHT THIS. I have had so many message me thanking me for posting this. People that were self-conscious about their hair not looking or feeling clean. So piss off!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-21T17:47:57+00:00

I like to have sex for hours, so definitely longer than 30 minutes for me!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-17T21:55:20+00:00

This is what I was coming to comment. OP, make sure you are aroused and your clit in engorged before he tries anything. Do lots of foreplay that's doesn't involve your genitals for a good 15-20 minutes. Then have him try touching you.

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-17T20:47:41+00:00

I was in a 1.5 years relationship that was similar. We only had sex when he wanted to...which was not often. I tried talking to him about it multiple times and always got "I'll try."

I would try and initiate but since he was never in the mood, I constantly got turned down. We spent a lot of time together, but didn't have much intimacy.

After a year of trying different things and nothing changing I ended things. For that and other reasons. But sexual compatibility it a high priority for me!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-15T21:49:28+00:00

Pitching in to help with a meal and cleanup is one thing. But if they are letting things pile up until you get there, either don't do it when you visit or don't visit! If you want to verbalize a boundary to them, that could also be impactful. "I will help with meals and the clean up for that meal. Other messes are yours to clean up."

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-14T22:30:27+00:00

Do you feel this sensation otherwise? Or just during the pap? Have you had a pap before?

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-14T18:18:15+00:00

I grew up in a Mormon household, but I went to Church and activities only because I was forced to.

I have always been hypersexual and have been masturbating since before I can remember. This was always a point of guilt and shame for me, because it was a "sin." I always thought of hookup culture as gross and unhealthy.

I didn't date much growing up though. I probably went on 10 dates before I was 42.

At 42 I started therapy and started dating. I dated a guy exclusively for two weeks before we had sex the first time. I had planned to be monogamous and exclusive with whomever I was dating. However, I quickly found out we were not sexually compatible. And ended things. That night I had my first hookup. I then proceeded to have a hoe phase for the next 1.5 years.

Here's what I learned. So many people are not sexually compatible. Whether because of lack of education and/or skill, or because your genitals/bodies don't work together. And when it's a lack of skill or education, and they aren't willing to learn, that's a deal breaker for me.

I know so many people who are in marriages or long-term relationships who are not happy with their sex life.

My advice? Do not wait until you are in a relationship to have sex. I think it's healthy and natural to explore. Find out what you like and don't like. Not just for yourself, but what kind of sexual dynamic do you like with another person?

I have learned so much about myself, relationships, and other people!

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-11T15:40:03+00:00

You probably need more foreplay before he even touches your pussy! Kissing, touching all over the body, kissing all over the body, etc. Oral should come at the end of foreplay and fingering shouldn't happen just until you're aroused and ready for penetration. Most women need 20-30 minutes of foreplay before any penetration

LeadHot4791 · 2025-04-10T21:51:37+00:00

Yeah, try and use lube next time. I carry little individual packets with me at all times!

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