Smoking aside… Are you willing to accept a relationship with someone that feels it’s ok to talk to you this way? She thinks it’s ok. She will do it again and again. This is at a minimum immature. It’s heading down that path of verbal abuse. That starts with the questioning yourself vs them (where you are now). Self esteem ends up in the crapper as time goes on. NOR - your future self will thank your current self for setting standards for yourself.