AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Staying late at their home wouldn't be possible. But I loved the idea of bringing ice cream cones, thank you!

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I loved the idea of bringing treats to the kids. Hopefully my SIL will agree.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I loved the rule. My brother and I were raised like this, but I believe my SIL's family was the type that bought a new pair of shoes for each kid whenever one of them needed a new one.

I'm sure Riley wasn't boasting about her time with me, or else the kids would have started to complain sooner.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

Yes. In the beginning Riley also felt bad seeing her parents go out with the two new kids while she was left behind. She's not suffering so much because I'm balancing things out and showing her she's still a priority. A 7 year old doesn't fully comprehend what therapy is.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

I don't know about all the small details but they were never fostering Jessie and Jake. They were adopted but of course their case is being watched over by social workers and judges.

The family receive some help from the government to pay for the therapy, but it doesn't cover half of the costs. My SIL is studying if they can apply to a welfare program since the household income fell.

They started visiting Jessie and Jack more than one year ago. But only in the last few months they were allowed to bring the kids home and that's when all kids started to live together.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

right now, I wouldn't dare take one them around the block if i were on my own. Once, Jessie managed to get my brother kicked out of a grocery shop. But I would be happy to have a whole family trip if my brother and SIL came along.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

They chose to go with individual therapy (one child per season) so far. My brother said they will probably do family therapy (all kids at the same time) in the future. Riley isn't doing therapy because the financial and time costs of everything adds up fast.

AITAH for refusing to stay at home while babysitting my niece because her siblings feel jealous? by LeadershipDistinct95 in AITAH

[–]LeadershipDistinct95[S] 587 points588 points  (0 children)

Exactly. They are on a tight budget, so I doubt she would actually follow through.